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[–]767Pilot 3851 points3852 points  (77 children)

“At the end of the day she looked real dumb” love that line.

[–]PureRandomness529 1508 points1509 points  (69 children)

I love the shift in dudes confidence when he realizes he has the support of the officers instead of having to worry about them

[–]Truegold43 854 points855 points  (50 children)

This whole video is great (and sad) on so many levels. That trashy racist woman got served and hopefully learned her lesson, he got his job done, we got to see the police do their job in a positive light, and now we have this wonderful footage that recaps the realities of being black in this country for everyone else to see.

I'm going to show this video to my dad because he's also a black businessman and I wonder if he's been through this stuff too. It's a sad story that ended as well as it possibly could have. I hope his business starts booming!

[–]Robert_Cannelin 399 points400 points  (30 children)

hopefully learned her lesson

Boy, do I doubt that. I wish, but...nope. She'll dig in her heels and live the rest of her life as a racist.

[–]Vlascor 129 points130 points  (9 children)

Yeah. You can tell when she tells the police 'you aren't doing your jobs.' I would have hope if after the police said he wasn't in the wrong, if she came over and apologized to him but we don't live in a prefect world.

[–]khharagosh 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Probably tell herself that the cops are too afraid to "stand up" to black people now because of TEH MEEDIUH!!!

at least that's how it is with my family

[–]JerryLupus 454 points455 points  (16 children)

How fucking sad is that reality? That if he did go inside and do his job and if he hadn't waited, this video could have realistically ended up much worse.

[–]DerMeisterKaken 175 points176 points  (0 children)

Truthfully I was going to try and counter your view here but thinking on the situation and how dark that house was...ideal situation for bad things to happen.

[–]dysgraphical 10.5k points10.5k points  (423 children)

The part when the nutjob is trying to rush him and the officer says, "he can take all day" - felt so good. What a nasty lady.

[–]forgottenwoden 2718 points2719 points  (26 children)

I liked it when he was repeating what the cops were saying. "He can be here all day" "I can be here all day!" When the cop said "He's got the contract." I was really hoping he would say it as well to continue the snark. "I got the contract! Cold blooded~~"

[–]MissingLink101 1228 points1229 points  (5 children)

The "sunken place" text got me

[–]ilovethefall 175 points176 points  (0 children)

I lost it at that, with the frown face

[–]ericisshort 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I lost my shit there as well. So funny

[–]NutterTV 375 points376 points  (1 child)

Yeah I actually lol’d at that.


I love that he had a good sense of humor. Fuck that lady.

[–]Soonergriff 184 points185 points  (2 children)

I don’t often actually laugh out loud at videos, but this one of those times.

[–]jakelasersnake 2911 points2912 points  (157 children)

I think it’s important for officers to empower citizens in such a way. This man was within his rights and it’s the job of the officer to protect his rights. When he said “he’s in charge” was really important. For a law-abiding citizen to hear from an officer that they are in charge has to be empowering and rewarding. Especially considering that this is a black man in a southern town being racially profiled by a white woman.

TLDR: I’m glad this officer took the time to take care of this call the right way.

[–]Thing_That_Happened 720 points721 points  (25 children)

I really like the Memphis Police department, generally (not always) they roll up and try to be respectful, and have a tendency to deescalate situations and depending on what’s going on make sure everyone knows why they’re there. I’m really happy they have a video showing off the kind of officers they have working for them.

[–]whatthewhatk 668 points669 points  (20 children)

I was on Beale St a few year ago, well 10 years ago- and I met some awesome cops. They were patrolling and I just stopped to chat with them. I said “how do you like Memphis?” He said “well it’s great, except if you go that way (pointed ahead) it’s a shithole. If you go that way (points to his left), it’s also a shithole. If you go that way (points behind him), shithole. But if you go THAT way (points to his right) it’s still a shithole” I could not stop laughing. He then said he was just kidding and loved his city, but I thought it was cool how down to earth he was.

[–]breakone9r 154 points155 points  (15 children)

Memphis natives do so love their shithole. :)

Just stay on the Tennessee side of the river....

Source: Worked for a while at a yard based out of Memphis.

It's really like any other decently sized city, TBH. Not really my thing, but I can see the appeal.

Country boy, and I kinda like being able to throw a stick and not hit the neighbor's house. :)

[–]cjorgensen 183 points184 points  (4 children)

I also liked the "keep the camera rolling." Not that this should need to be said, but beats what the police usual say and believe when it comes to citizens recording them.

[–]kelshall 104 points105 points  (2 children)

Very true! They are not in control until the law is broken.

That statement they made about being in control was very powerful.

Well done by the popo! :)

The dude in the video handled it well too. This is an issue about a crazy lady and he accepted that well.

[–]renvi 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Seriously! These cops were great. Approached the situation well, stayed respectful, followed the law, even stayed for 5mins afterward because the guy didn't feel comfortable taking the pictures of the house by himself. Great people.

[–]Surroundedbygoalies 95 points96 points  (2 children)

And a somewhat middle-aged white officer at that! I like how this guy recorded and shared a negative situation where everyone but crazy lady was supporting him. I’d be (and have been) that neighbour too, the one that comes in and says “there’s nothing wrong with him - leave him alone!”

[–]placebotwo 51 points52 points  (1 child)

“there’s nothing wrong with him - leave him alone!”

Something tells me they are all sick of her shit.

[–]kornonthepob 520 points521 points  (70 children)

I think the visible relief on the black dudes face was what made it such a happy moment, and sad in its own way too. You can see at the start of the video before the cops come he's scared as fuck of what might happen when the cops come, and that moment was such a release, to know the cops are definitely on his side.

[–]BobbyCock 209 points210 points  (20 children)

Based on how much crap US cops get in general with only the bad stories making the news, it's nice to see a small incident like this handled extremely well.

[–]TomHardyAsBronson 128 points129 points  (13 children)

Yeah I like videos like this making the rounds way more than those shitty feel good cop videos. I don't want cops giving ice cream to people. That's not their job and you can make the argument that that in it's own way exacerbates the abusive relationships that police forces often have with some people or neighborhoods. I just want cops to do their damn jobs and not needlessly escalate situations that don't need to be.

[–]CerealReviewer 3324 points3325 points  (146 children)

Yup... that's my hometown alright! If anything, this video makes me proud that we have a competent police force, but sad that there are still people out here like that lady :(

[–]esaks 658 points659 points  (80 children)

I’ve been looking to invest in some real estate in Memphis recently and while doing research it seems that even with the high crime rate, the police officers there are widely considered by the community as upstanding and do their job right.

[–]dirtyploy 273 points274 points  (68 children)

Haven't met a single bad cop in Memphis. They had a station right by my house and they were nice as hell.

[–]RVAndal 207 points208 points  (51 children)

Haven't met a single bad cop in Memphis.

in my limited experience when cops have real crime to deal with there's less time for corruption

[–]bladerunnerjulez 294 points295 points  (38 children)

I guess you've never had the displeasure of dealing with cops in los angeles.

[–]Imthasupa 24 points25 points  (1 child)

Unless they are in Baltimore. The corruption that came to light there in the last year is terrifying.

[–]Sloots_and_Hoors 88 points89 points  (8 children)

I got real confused when the MPD rolled up. The lady is wrong AND crazy, and if she lives in Memphis, she's going to have some black neighbors.

[–]dubzzzz20 198 points199 points  (18 children)

Same here, glad to see that the officers had no issue telling the poor sap of a woman to back down. Wish there were less call like they that they had to deal with.

[–]TomHardyAsBronson 164 points165 points  (16 children)

Not poor sap of a woman. She's racist. She's not poor, doesn't deserve pity. She's harrassing a stranger because she's racist. It's important to call her what she is.

[–]Wintergreen762 55 points56 points  (8 children)

Society will advance one funeral at a time.

[–]IrishRepoMan 636 points637 points  (3 children)

Naw naw. He can take all day.

That gave me a laugh.

[–]gamboncorner 4571 points4572 points  (121 children)

lol at "what would I do behind you?" "put me in the sunken place"

[–]MagL33To 2215 points2216 points  (36 children)

It was kind of subtle, but that was one of the most powerful parts of the video for me. Clearly she felt threatened by this man or thought he was up to no good. When he implies that he is threatened by her, though, she is annoyed and disbelieving. Like how can he say that when he's the threatening black man, and I'm just an innocent white lady trying to protect my neighborhood from his kind??

[–]rampant_tycho 1480 points1481 points  (7 children)

Cop: "if you try to stop him from doing his job, we will take you to jail"

Racist woman, taken aback: "why would i try to stop him?!"

Lady, this whole 40 minute long interaction is happening because you called the fucking cops on him already

[–]Austin_RC246 289 points290 points  (0 children)

I wanted the cop to look at her and say “You already call us here for no reason.” so badly.

[–]s2514 71 points72 points  (2 children)

In her head: I'm afraid of him.

[–]Jackle02 157 points158 points  (3 children)

This joke actually made the video for me. I thought it was great.

[–]HailtbeWhale 323 points324 points  (2 children)

It was that and when he looks at Lady Cop and says "You know why she called the police..."

[–]biggsk 220 points221 points  (1 child)

And the male cop said something like, "You're looking at her, right?" Lol

[–]forgottenwoden 205 points206 points  (0 children)

Oh my God hahahaha

[–]twisted_by_design 428 points429 points  (60 children)

what does he mean "put me in the sunken place"

[–]gamboncorner 711 points712 points  (58 children)

[–]loptthetreacherous 240 points241 points  (51 children)

I've never seen Get Out and just thought he was using a euphemism similar to 6 ft under.

[–]punktual 215 points216 points  (32 children)

The entire movie is a kind of allegory on how black people feel threatened and uncomfortable when in groups of white people. I wont spoil what the sunken place is, but it is hilariously appropriate for the situation this guy was in.

[–]PDGAreject 1280 points1281 points  (47 children)

My neighbor once called the fire department on me because I had an "out of control brush fire" going on in my backyard. Fire marshal came down my driveway already starting to fill out a citation. He turned the corner and saw that it was actually a small burn pile that was in a barrel and had a hose immediately next to it. "Oh, is that all you're doing? Well shit, that looks fine to me. Have a good day." Turned around and left. My neighbor then sat in his car angrily for 45 minutes because he is insane.

[–]mrsprinkles87 635 points636 points  (25 children)

I was having a small fire in a fire pit with a cover at my uncles house with a bunch of friends one night. My uncle was a retired dispatcher from the local PD, and loved sitting there and listening to his scanner because, unlike most people, he actually knew what they were saying. So we’re having our fire and uncle comes outside and says the fire department is on their way. Knowing he’s a big joker, I told everyone not to worry and he’s just fucking with us. Well, sure enough, 5 minutes later the full on fire department shows up with 3 trucks, lights and sirens blaring. While we are standing there in disbelief that the entire department showed up for a fire in a 2 foot fire pit, 3 firemen walk up in full firefighting gear carrying the largest hose I have ever seen. One of them looks down at the fire pit and says. “Are you fucking kidding me, I left dinner with my wife and kids for this shit? You got anything to eat?” So we sat there, while the old bitch that called 911 on us watched from her window with a nasty look on her face, and roasted hotdogs with about 10 firemen in full gear over the fire she called about in the first place. Good times.

(Edit): A lot of people are saying she should be fined. I don’t know if she was, nor do I care. I continued having fires there almost weekly for the rest of the time I lived there, and I never had a problem with the fire department again. Unfortunately my uncle passed a couple years ago and I had to move. I miss that old fella and his house, we had some great times there.

[–]codinghermit 118 points119 points  (6 children)

So we sat there, while the old bitch that called 911 on us watched from her window with a nasty look on her face,

This is where the old bitch should have been fined at least a good chunk of of all the money spent because of her vendetta. It's horrible people like this don't get smacked down since they will just end up doing it again later without any real consequences.

[–]teejermiester 19 points20 points  (0 children)

In my town (possibly state) if the fire department is called for a reason that they don't have to act on then the caller receives a fine. My house fire alarm automatically calls the fire department if it goes off and we've been fined a couple times for accidents like dust setting off a sensor.

[–]The-Vanilla-Gorilla 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Glorious. lmao!

[–]dredreidel 21 points22 points  (1 child)

My dad is retired police. Back when he was still working he had a radio in his car, and whenever we passed the airport-where he worked- we would pick up police chatter. One of my favorite memories was sitting in traffic listening to the saga of a man dropping his pants in the middle of the terminal and trying to evade capture. The woman relaying the information was so damn calm. That was also the day I learned the radio alphabet. Whisky Tango Foxtrot.

[–]fing_longest 153 points154 points  (5 children)

I once called the cops on a crackwhore living in her car in the driveway of my duplex. I listened in on the cops conversation with her. They knew her by name and said things like “You’re never going to get your kids back like this.” Not really a relevant story here. I just wanted to tell it.

[–]Sugarpeas 45 points46 points  (4 children)

That’s interesting, nice, and sad all at the same time. Those cops have been following her story and have taken a somewhat personal interest in her life; they care that she’s on a downward spiral. Of course it’s sad precisely because she is in a downward spiral - and she knows it to some degree I suspect.

[–]BigODetroit 1892 points1893 points  (93 children)

I kept thinking that this guy, an investor, is going to have a hard time flipping a property with a neighbor like that. If it isn't the racist aspect, it'll be every day things that will have her harassing the new owners. She's used to an empty house and nobody there. The grass will be too long. The trash cans are too close to her property. The music you're listening to is too loud and there's too much smoke coming from your grill. Trust me, I live next to a woman like her.

[–]Jbozzarelli 752 points753 points  (46 children)

Me too. I just signed a $6,000 contract to build a nice big fence.

[–]Boomslangalang 447 points448 points  (33 children)

Build the Wall! /s

[–]Jbozzarelli 421 points422 points  (31 children)

LOL, I'm gonna make her pay for it too!

[–]jeremyj1992 145 points146 points  (29 children)

Where I am from you can actually make the neighbor pay for the fence

[–]Endarkend 115 points116 points  (13 children)

Same here.

My parents neighbor let their kids wreck my parents garden for years. Several complaints led to nothing.

They are now paying for a high fence and netting to be put over said fence.

[–]SquireX 91 points92 points  (6 children)

"Good fences make good neighbors" - Robert Frost

[–]davidreiss6661 82 points83 points  (4 children)

I just want to point out that the nature of that line from "Mending Wall" was meant to mean something else in the story context. Because the two neighbors in the story where becoming good friends via working together on their stone wall fence and thus questioning if they need the fence. But they they also realize that they wouldn't be as friendly if they had not worked closely together.

This lady would be more likely to try and knock the hypothetical fence down.

[–]cbftw 24 points25 points  (5 children)

Is harassment possible cause for a restraining order?

[–]ruMemeinMeMan 125 points126 points  (12 children)

There's a home in my neighborhood that has been abandoned for over 12 years. Someone recently bought it and started to fix it up. The neighbors used to used the property to store a number of their vehicles.

After a while people don't like change and some start to think shit is theirs. Maybe the lady in the video doesn't want things to change. Maybe she likes having that house empty.

[–]Six_Wolf_Shirt 901 points902 points  (102 children)

I’m a cop, and I dealt with a very similar situation once.

I used to frequent a particular restaurant in my beat for lunch. One of the shift managers was a pretty cool black guy named D. Every so often, I’d see D walking home after work (2+ miles), so I’d scoop him up and drop him off. So I knew exactly where he lived.

One night, D locked accidentally himself out of his duplex apartment. He was trying to wake up his boyfriend, which got the attention of a neighbor who called the cops. I showed up, saw D, and he told me what was going on. I figured it would be a quick conversation with the caller, but no; the caller absolutely refused to believe there was nothing suspicious going on. I told him repeatedly, “I know this guy, and I know for a fact that he lives here.” He eventually tried to do the old lean in, “we’re all white here,” conversation technique, which pissed me off, so I ended up yelling, “I’ve dropped him off at this exact address many times. We’re done here.”

D’s boyfriend eventually woke up (he was pretty drunk) and let him in.

[–]jordans_for_sale 510 points511 points  (39 children)

Is there anything grosser than the lean-in thing

[–]Six_Wolf_Shirt 1067 points1068 points  (25 children)

My great hope is that the caller eventually realized that D is gay. He would then revisit our conversation in his head and assume that D and I were having interracial cop-on-top sex marathons two doors down from his home. One day, he would stand in his front yard, watching the mist on the grass as the sun rose slowly over the horizon, and he would shed a gentle tear for the world that was.

[–]SuperDuperTurtle 266 points267 points  (0 children)


Ok I lost it there.

[–]crazyprsn 100 points101 points  (5 children)

This comment tells me everything I need to know about you.

Alright guys, let's clone this guy a few hundred thousand times and have them be all the cops in the world. It worked for the Galactic Empire, I think we can make it work here.

[–]undercooked_lasagna 45 points46 points  (0 children)

interracial cop-on-top sex marathons

Go on...

( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

[–]WaluigiIsTheRealHero 137 points138 points  (9 children)

I worked for a legal clinic in Missouri when I was going to law school. I was volunteering as a mediator for minor disputes, and I settled a small issue between a black guy and a white guy who lived in the same neighborhood. Part of being a mediator is working both sides and presenting offers in such a way that each side focuses on the positives and thinks they're "winning". I eventually hammered out a deal, and while I was recapping what I had secured for the white guy, he does the lean-in and goes "Son, I appreciate you favoring me over him, that's mighty white of you." I felt dirty as hell, but I had to finish the deal, I'd be screwing over the other guy if I didn't. The kicker? I'm biracial.

[–]antares07923 115 points116 points  (51 children)

As a brown person I'd like to hear more stories about the white person lean in. Also, what happens inside tanning salons? I've always been suspicious that they could be fronts for whites only clubs.

[–]HumanShadow 91 points92 points  (6 children)

White guy here. Once I was in line for an event and a black dude behind me asked the white family behind him in line if they could hold his spot because he got an urgent page and needed to run to the nearby payphone (yes, this happened in the 90s). By their body language, facial expressions, and tone, they seemed insulted that he was even talking to them. They were saying shit like, "ooh I'm not sure if we can. I don't think that's allowed," etc. The husband even gave me a, "do you believe this guy?" smile. I told the dude asking them that I would hold his spot and off he ran.

Their demeanor got a lot less subtle. The family looked at me like I had betrayed them. The wife sarcastically said, "Thanks, kid!" I asked her if being further ahead in the line by one person would make that much of a difference and she gave me a look many prejudiced white people give fellow whites. The look basically says, "Come on now. You know what's up. You know what I mean."

When the guy came back he thanked me like three times with extended eye contact that made me believe this wasn't the first time he's had to deal with people like that.

There wasn't anything ambiguous about their body language and demeanor. The unspoken looks of understanding between some white people are definitely a thing too. You have to be a robot who can't register subtlety to miss them.

[–]Six_Wolf_Shirt 66 points67 points  (6 children)

Among white people, you will occasionally encounter someone who will lean in, as though to shed the facade of civility we all must maintain around the blacks, and say something racist. It is supremely uncomfortable.

As for tanning salons, your guess is as good as mine.

[–]darklightrabbi 54 points55 points  (1 child)

I've never been to a tanning salon but a lot of the racist people in my family like to frequent them so make of that what you will. I think the only time I've experienced the lean in is when I was walking my dog and ran into another dogwalker as I was picking up poop. He told me how much he appreciated me picking up after my dog because apparently a lot of people in his neighborhood didn't do that. I thought we were going to have a friendly conversation about dogs after that but as I start to reply to him he leans in with a smile and says:" The fucking n****rs around here never pick up their dogs shit". I just started walking after that.

[–]Bonemonster 5554 points5555 points  (676 children)

The neighborhood that I grew up in, Southeast Texas, had a similar situation. A black family moved into the neighborhood and their neighbors called the cops on them. The cops were told that the family couldn't be there because they were black.

The caller was fined for false reporting and I think later arrested for threats.

Never in my life did I think that I would see something like this happen irl.

Edit: For everyone asking this happened in Willis which is about 50 miles north of Houston. I want to say around 1996.

[–]Ganthid 1469 points1470 points  (378 children)

Most of the time you don't even see it. I knew a person that was selling their house and one of the neighbors asked them not to sell it to a black person. I also know of a family that bought the house next door after they saw a black person was interested in buying it.

I've also applied to apartments with minority friends and not received calls back AFTER turning in an application. When we called all we got was that 'they'd get back to us soon'.

[–]PvtDeth 544 points545 points  (140 children)

There are federal laws about that, Fair Housing Act, I think.

[–]MINIMAN10001 498 points499 points  (123 children)

The Fair Housing Act protects people from discrimination when they are renting, buying, or securing financing for any housing. The prohibitions specifically cover discrimination because of race, color, national origin, religion, sex, disability and the presence of children.


[–]jshroebuck 485 points486 points  (116 children)

But there's never a way to verify, unless they outright say it.

[–]ScaryFast 275 points276 points  (8 children)

[–]thirstyross 73 points74 points  (0 children)

This is comedy gold! Oh Australia, you give us so much!

[–]washyleopard 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I just think they're crooks is all.

[–]coprolite_hobbyist 65 points66 points  (5 children)

That was a response to the FHA policy of 'redlining'. Neighborhoods would be marked on maps with a literal red line and they would deny home loans to minorities in those neighborhoods.

[–]FleetAdmiralFader 10 points11 points  (3 children)

Yep it's also a problem with financial instruments and there is a separate law preventing redlining for credit/loans

[–]freejosephk 23 points24 points  (3 children)

And even so, on the actual property liens in places like Baltimore, the paper work will still say, do not sell to blacks. This is what ex Baltimore police officer Michael Wood says anyway, and it's not enforced or anything anymore, but that legal documentation still exists.

[–]BLMdidHarambe 704 points705 points  (81 children)

I've knew a person that was selling their house and one of the neighbors asked them not to sell it to a black person.

I’m conflicted on this. If I was the seller I would kind of want to make sure I sold to a black person after that, but I’d also feel bad about subjecting anyone to the shitty neighbor.

[–]CuvisTheConqueror 535 points536 points  (64 children)

I guess the way to go in that situation is full disclosure. "Hey, the racist old bat three doors down tried to push me not to sell to black people. I'm still happy to sell to you, of course, but I wanted to let you know that one might be trouble."

[–]MildlyShadyPassenger 269 points270 points  (60 children)

"However, I'll cut you a bit of a deal on the place if you want it, because I would love nothing more than to spit in her racist face."

[–]fischestix 74 points75 points  (6 children)

I picked up a guy in the ambulance one time and he said he only wanted a white doctor. I was secretly happy when he got black and middle eastern docs. I felt bad for the docs, but fuck thay guy. He actually got the two best docs in that ER. The docs were super professional, but the patient was so rude he left without treatment. He deserves the pain from his untreated injury.

When I was hospitalized my care team looked like a 1990s cartoon (one practitioner if every race). I got great care and was medicated enough to get the courage to ask the one who was a sikh about his religion. I learned a lot too. He was a kind man. I'm glad I drummed up the courage to ask him.

[–]maxbastard 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Older dude in town told me his family stayed on some local shit list for decades because his white grandfather sold a bunch of land to some black folks which was then subdivided into an entire neighborhood... Back in the 30s. He was still real proud of how much they pissed off racists. But that kinda solves the racist neighbor conundrum.

[–]BossRedRanger 258 points259 points  (11 children)

You don't see it because you aren't black. Not trying to be rude or anything, but I think the internet and video technology is enabling white people to see the reality black people have been dealing with for ages. There's no way to deny objective reality like this video.

[–]Ganthid 71 points72 points  (0 children)

We're both in agreement. I'm saying that this kind of thing is a common occurrence that isn't often reported or well known in open society. You don't hear about this type of thing on the news but it occurs all the time in various forms.

I'm saying instances like this video are a small portion of other instances of racism (specifically related to housing) which you can't just record.

[–]aerovirus22 131 points132 points  (43 children)

My wife has an black sounding name, when we looked for apartments I had to call and make appointments or suddenly the apartment would be unavailable.

[–]GloboRojo 246 points247 points  (42 children)

My black professor was telling us about how he would call and make appointments over the phone to look at apartments (very white sounding name, didn’t “sound black”) and the people were super nice and accommodating. But once he showed up to see the apartment and they realized he was black, suddenly the apartment had already been leased. This happened several times.

It was so sad. He was kind of laughing about it but you could tell it upset him. He did win a lawsuit though, so there’s that.

[–]deadline54 110 points111 points  (34 children)

Yeah my girlfriend is black but sounds white, she would get all these people super happy to show us their houses for rent on the phone and we'd show up and they'd either quietly follow us around with their arms folded or only talk to me. Then no follow up responses.

[–]Beddybye 91 points92 points  (12 children)

My husband is white and sadly, we do something similar since we have been looking to move recently to a bigger house in our southern state. I have also been told I sound like a white woman over the phone, so Ill usually make the initial call. I'll schedule an initial meeting and walk through with just the owner and my husband. He will be sure to tell the owner he is married with a toddler, but his wife isnt able to make it to the viewing. After he walks through while taking plenty of pics, we look them over later when together.

We are still looking as we have a big dog and many owners are leary of that, but its so disheartening to have to "hide" in order to not have bias influence our chances at getting a decent house to rent. We tried this method due to the same issue you are having when looking for our current home. It definitely hurts.

This is America.

[–]MikoRiko 44 points45 points  (3 children)

The thing that sticks out to me here is that your biggest hurdle is your skin color and not the big dog. In other words, there are places and sellers who are more willing to have a big dog move in than a person of color. That really, really puts heavy perspective on this brand of racism. I really don't understand the world sometimes...

[–]Lampmonster1 113 points114 points  (7 children)

Back in the good ol' days, you know those days some folks really want to go back to, realtors would walk a black family through a house just to get the neighbors to panic sell.

[–]Queshet 66 points67 points  (2 children)

My grandfather was a minister in 1960's and told me that realtors did that in the town his church was in and that some of his parishioners were racists like that. I now live in that town and told him last week that it's a predominantly black town now and he felt very good about that.

[–]Eyehopeuchoke 249 points250 points  (28 children)

Maybe I’m weird and maybe my comment will be seen as inappropriate, but I use to live in a predominantly white neighborhood and when a Cuban family bought the house across from me a lot of the neighborhood got all up tight and would treat them like crap and always accuse them of stealing stuff from their yards. Instead of being like the other neighbors, i made friends with them and i was always invited to their huge family get togethers and GOD DAMN THE FOOD WAS AMAZING! I’m always happy to be around other cultures because of the opportunity for new friends, new food and new points of view. I can’t believe that people still let skin color be a factor in their decision to interact or accept people...

[–]Zanki 92 points93 points  (4 children)

I came from a town that was 99% white here in the uk. Some of the people there, including my mum, were really racist. I made friends with the only kid who wasn't white. She was a year or two younger and life in that town wasn't easy for her so we were a good match (I was badly bullied). Mum was not happy. She didn't like the kid coming over to play or me being with her family. The friendship only ended when she moved down to London.

We used to play with my Beanie Babies a lot after school and would share the TV. I'd get to watch the Power Rangers and she would watch her CBBC shows.

[–]RateNXS 75 points76 points  (8 children)

Hell yeah. I'm a white dude in the south, and one of my favorite things to do is go to the fish fry fundraisers held by predominantly black churches. There's an African Episcopalian church across the street from me and 2-3 predominantly black churches along my drive home. They serve the best fried fish. BBQ too. Plus I always walk away in a good mood from interacting with good people. It's win/win.

[–]jhd3nm 37 points38 points  (4 children)

Old southern black ladies can cook the most amazing food you ever flopped a lip on.

[–]Ayatollah_Bahloni 39 points40 points  (1 child)

Cuban food -> ropa vieja -> death by overeating 😍 Good on you, your life will be so much richer than those of many others.

[–]iYogurt 31 points32 points  (5 children)

I live in a still being built subdivision near Raleigh, NC. I'm social (nosy?) and like to meet all the new neighbors as they're getting their houses built to share some of the issues we ran into to help make sure they can avoid them.

I have a neighbor that moved in shortly after me, very nice and personable, loves to talk. We get along, and chat all the time about things going on in the neighborhood. Contractors, new houses, etc... He's very easy going, but also has moments of the "casual" racism that I've noticed exists in Raleigh, where white people think it's okay to be a little racist because they're talking to other white people. I really dislike it, but I also feel like associating with people that think differently than me is how we solve these problems.

I always mention to him when I meet a new owner or see someone moving in and his first question is always, "What are they?" And when I reply "Human" his second question is always, "I mean, what color?" Without fail. His first thought process is race when it comes to meeting a new person.

[–]TThor 40 points41 points  (9 children)

It seriously boggles my mind that these people still exist; I have difficulty wrapping my head around the idea of, "That person's skin looks different, so I don't want to be anywhere near them"..

[–]Semirgy 231 points232 points  (164 children)

I was in the southeast a few weeks ago and as a native Californian, it really amazed me just how separated the races still were. It wasn’t like there was a “whites only” sign on the bars/clubs but there may as well have been, because there was virtually zero mixing. Walking down the street it was roughly 50/50 between blacks and whites but neither side mingled with the other. Was bizarre to see.

[–]Adnon2012 136 points137 points  (8 children)

So I’m a white male, but I lived in a predominately black neighborhood just outside Atlanta for a year or so, the rent was cheap, and I didn’t care at that point.

Everyone was so nice, I’d get smiles and waves as I left the complex for work. The problem I had at that apartment complex was my neighbor kept stealing my packages when USPS left them outside my door. This white middle aged woman kept stealing my packages. Fuck stereotypes, she was the worst person I had to deal with there.

[–]kingnewswiththetruth 17 points18 points  (2 children)

“In general”, most minority folks are super cool with white folks when they associate with a majority of minorities because they realize the white person is there for the sole purpose of the situation (think sports, living arrangement, hobbies, entertainment, special events). Minorities realize what it’s still like out there. So when they see a white person or family dismiss the underlying prejudice, they know they are cool...

[–]KaDoink 167 points168 points  (91 children)

Californian here, about 5 years ago things weren't as bad as they are now. Self segregation seems to be a big thing for some reason these days and its weird as fuck to me to see because I grew up as a kid in the 80s and 90s people seemed to mingle a little bit better then. Hell they used to mingle better back in the mid 2000s :/

Now the mantra seems to be "stay in your own lane". I got no clue why, but I know its bad news.

[–]Zenyattas_Pyjamas 60 points61 points  (6 children)

I'm from California too! Mostly I like to think people are chill here but I have watched/listened to some low-key racism. An old lady called cops to report some kids, except when they asked what was going on she told them, "I don't know, but they're brown." They were middle schoolers trying to barter candy with each other by the skate park. I left after she said that because she was starting to get agitated with the cop she was talking to.

[–]wannacracker1 64 points65 points  (3 children)

Formerly of California and I noticed this all the time in the Latino community when I was living with my parents we lived in a city where the latino population was 90+% and anti non Latino discrimination was pretty high. A black guy is walking through the neighborhood, sure as shit my dad (Guatemalan) was watching him make sure he isn't stealing anything. Hell even latinos weren't safe from racism you look indigenous well your a fucking indio. All races are racist as fuck when you put them together in a nearly homogeneous pack most groups don't like outsiders I see a lot of people pointing the finger at whites and you're very wrong if you think its only them doing it.

[–]theghostfacekilla 2706 points2707 points  (143 children)

Police officer here, dude seriously the number of people the call us to enforce their "rules" of how society should act makes me want to rip my hair out. When you drop that knowledge on these racist/crybabies and explain to them how fucking wrong they are will leave you with a justice boner.

[–]psylent 348 points349 points  (18 children)

Can I call you about those people who try to get onto the train/elevator without letting those inside out?

[–]fishtire 161 points162 points  (10 children)

This! My wife will actually say shit to people who do this. I love my wife, she takes bullshit from no one.

[–]insaniac87 99 points100 points  (2 children)

Fucking hell this! I have to walk around work with a big ass 6ft tall cart for deliveries, and I'll park right up on the door with it to get off the elevator before people shove in, and it's a 50/50 chance I still end up in a shoving match with people trying to push my cart back inside the elevator while I am trying to get out. Like ex-CUSE me. Don't make me mow you down bitch, I will win.

[–]Shark-Farts 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I’m imagining you as John Mulaney.

“I would never say ‘my wife is a bitch and I don’t like her’! My wife is a bitch......and I like her SO MUCH.”

[–]CargoCulture 138 points139 points  (14 children)

Interesting that she fully expected the cops to run him off. She honestly believed that her racism was normal enough that she could use the police to enforce it.

[–]Vleda 24 points25 points  (1 child)

It reminds me of one girl I dated in highschool. Her mom would constantly call the cops on me for no reason because she didn't want her daughter dating outside of their race and because she assumed I was a criminal because of mine. Like fuck, I didn't even dress Street. I had pants that fit and a belt ffs.

[–]CallMeAladdin 700 points701 points  (53 children)

I mean, I don't normally go for cops, but I guess I'll help you with that justice boner.

[–]theghostfacekilla 337 points338 points  (52 children)

Come take part in this justice boner dog

[–]CallMeAladdin 213 points214 points  (49 children)

FYI I'm super gay and would love to, lol.

[–]theghostfacekilla 233 points234 points  (42 children)

As a straight man “we are all gay sometimes” Robert Downey Jr. Tropic thunder lol down wid u dog

[–]CallMeAladdin 116 points117 points  (39 children)

Well if the mood strikes you, head to San Francisco and message me, lol.

[–]theghostfacekilla 170 points171 points  (38 children)

God damn I’m flattered lol bet you’d treat me right, take me out on the town. Feeling like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman

[–]CallMeAladdin 126 points127 points  (33 children)

Oh, I was thinking more like you sit on the couch and I get on my knees. But sure, we can grab a beer first if you want.

[–]theghostfacekilla 138 points139 points  (32 children)

Right to the point! I like the tenacity, clearly you go hard in the paint good sir

[–]CovertCoding 130 points131 points  (5 children)

This comment chain made me smile :)

[–]CallMeAladdin 75 points76 points  (18 children)

Hmm, never used paint, but give me a sec and I'll same-day some sex body paint from Amazon.

[–]KaiRaiUnknown 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I never thought a video about a crazy racist woman and the words "justice boner" would lead to something this wholesome. This is beautiful

[–]sciamatic 20 points21 points  (0 children)

This entire conversation is everything I never knew I needed from reddit.

[–]bubba9999 19 points20 points  (3 children)

Super gay? Do you have the cape and everything?

[–]TenaciousFeces 52 points53 points  (1 child)

We started watching Live PD and gezus the shit the cops have to put up with is frustrating. So many people need an adult to come sort shit out for them. It has to be draining, constantly dealing with the least competent parts of society.

[–]littlemissupvote 809 points810 points  (47 children)

I’d be so happy as the neighbor being a homeowner if you’re coming in buying the adjacent house flipping it and raising my property value. Really you’re doing her a service.

[–]farmerwouldsay 641 points642 points  (14 children)

dat bitch rents

[–]Nanookofthewest 158 points159 points  (11 children)

Now I'm hoping her rent will raise and she will have to move into a trailer park where she belongs.

[–]DomLite 201 points202 points  (20 children)

I mean, the front door was boarded up according to the annotations, so even if he didn't do anything to the property and just got it sold it would be an improvement. Living next to a house that's boarded up isn't going to do anyone any favors.

[–]fudgenugget85 213 points214 points  (14 children)

Yeah but maybe a young black man moves into that house, maybe he starts doing better than her, she might have to face that having the "right" skin colour doesn't make her a better person. She might even have to face the fact that contrary to all her beliefs this man might contribute more to society than she does? We wouldn't want her entire perception of the world to crumble now would we?

[–]TreeRol 105 points106 points  (0 children)

That kind of economic anxiety might cause her to do something crazy.

[–]bhristopherbrolumbus 301 points302 points  (4 children)

When the male cop chews out the lady and says the homebuyer can take all day if he wants I laughed from a deep, healthy place.

[–]BizzyM 289 points290 points  (4 children)

/r/911dispatchers here. I've had quite a few calls from neighbors like this. It's always the same. "The house next door has been vacant for a year (or more), no one is supposed to be there." All I can think to ask them is, "Do you think that house is going to be vacant forever? Are you expecting someone to buy it sight unseen and just roll up with a U-haul and move in?" Again, it's always the same, the subjects are entering through the front door. "Did they kick in the door?" "No, it looks like they have a key". Motherfucker, how do you think they got that key?

So, we got to send the welcoming committee and let them know that they got nosy neighbors with no good sense about them.

[–]rrsafety 27 points28 points  (1 child)

This is true. I appreciate the neighbor being concerned but being stupid is something else.

[–]Ziggs_Boson 240 points241 points  (4 children)

Come behind you and do what!

Put me in the sunken place

I fuckin' died

[–]teamcalvo 255 points256 points  (22 children)

Imagine having nothing better to do with you life than to worry about someone else doing their job and trying to make a living. Like seriously how can you worry about someone else when you got no money in your savings account.

[–]Dr_fish 106 points107 points  (1 child)

Makes them feel important in one tiny aspect of their life because they probably don't have anything else. She will keep thinking she was in the right, the cops and the guy were in the wrong, she knows more than them, they're the stupid ones etc.

She'll probably be ranting about it, calling up relatives and people she knows to tell them how wrong she was treated, if she knows any like-minded people she will revel in any attention or sympathy they give, others will just tolerate it to placate her so as not to set her crazy crosshairs onto them.

[–]soicanfap[🍰] 711 points712 points  (139 children)

I dont know why racism surprises me, but it sure as shit does. I just dont get it.

[–]CoolstorySteve 626 points627 points  (35 children)

What a surprise she's home in the middle of the day on what is probably a weekday. She looks like a very busy woman.

[–]MixedTogether 382 points383 points  (11 children)

Meddling in other people's business is a full time job, she can't be out working 40 hours a week AND keep up with meddling.

[–]PM_ME_A_RANDOM_THING 155 points156 points  (7 children)

Can confirm: I have a meddlesome neighbor. She doesn’t have a job because poking her nose in the entire subdivision’s business keeps her too busy for anything else.

[–]nomptonite 61 points62 points  (6 children)

Same here. We’ve got a wretched, miserable old hag in our neighborhood who thinks she’s the HOA police. She goes around the neighborhood taking pictures of things she feels are a violation, and turns them in the the real HOA, who then does nothing (because they aren’t violations). Supposedly she also takes pictures of cars she thinks are speeding, and sends them to the police. I honestly can’t wait for the first time I see her taking a picture of me or my house. It’s gonna be awesome...

[–]Melad_S 97 points98 points  (4 children)

Not to defend her, but at the beginning of the video he says this happened on May 5th which was a Saturday.

[–]capchaos 28 points29 points  (5 children)

I'd bet money she has a wooden rocker with cushions on it right by her front window and she sits there all day staring out at the neighborhood, Next to it is a small wooden table with doilies covering it. On that table is a TV remote, a cup of coffee, some sort of candy in a glass bowl and a cordless landline phone. SOURCE: I encounter people like this regularly through work.

[–]Fallen_Rose_Petal 134 points135 points  (15 children)

Dude couldn't look less like an average dude. And still gets shit. wtf.

[–]paracelsus23 51 points52 points  (2 children)

For some racists, the more successful the minority, the worse the racism.

If he showed up in worn-out work clothes and told the neighbor he was there to do some manual labor, it's very possible she would have had LESS of an issue.

But since he's buying a house as an investment similar to the one she can barely afford rent payments on, he's now a threat on multiple levels. More successful than she'll ever be, much earlier in life. Possibly raising her property value and thus her rent. Etc. So, she proceeds to dig deep, summon all the ugliness inside her, and flip out.

[–]ZiplockedHead 320 points321 points  (55 children)

In case you didn't catch him saying it during the video, the guy ALWAYS puts a sign outside letting people know...

[–]godzillab10 129 points130 points  (6 children)

He's an investor!

[–]canadianpresident 76 points77 points  (5 children)

Hes got cards and papers

[–]debman 59 points60 points  (0 children)

My impression was that he was pretty rattled from the whole thing and repeated himself a lot because of it.

[–]killertomato 284 points285 points  (40 children)

What bothers me is that this guy deals with this kind of shit so often that he feels obligated to mention 100x that he had the proper paperwork etc. When as a white person I feel entitled enough that I wouldn’t care at all if I had the right paperwork or not.

[–]RaqMountainMama 174 points175 points  (6 children)

I'm a real estate broker, a white woman and I buy properties like this to flip. I've had 3 instances where nosey neighbors called police on me while I was at the property. I have signage on my car, business cards etc.


The worst instance was just for a regular home sale, not a flip. The house was for sale, I was showing my client. He had brought his fiance and her 2 siblings to the showing. The neighbor reported break & enter - my car with all the real estate signage was there. For Sale sign in the yard. Police get there, I show all of my credentials, permission to enter home. The neighbor shows up at this point saying we were being loud, breaking things in the home, etc. Then she points at my client & family. "Look at them! They obviously arent buying a house in THIS neighborhood!" That's where the story changed - my client & family were brown & young. He was a well paid tech guy. Fiance was a kindergarten teacher. Sibs also were college educated working young people.

They loved the house, didn't like the neighbor, so they didn't buy that house. I made sure the listing agent knew that the neighbor lost her seller a deal that day.

[–]SchurkjeBoefje 86 points87 points  (2 children)

Then she points at my client & family. "Look at them! They obviously arent buying a house in THIS neighborhood!"


How many decades does a person need to simmer in a pot of sheltered hateful arrogance to say something that stupid and shortsighted that brazenly...it's not just racist, it's also spectacularly stupid.

[–]jay1237 18 points19 points  (1 child)

It just... I genuinely can not comprehend ever even considering saying something like that about a total stranger. To their face.

What the fuck is wrong with these dumb fuck racist pieces of shit? They really need to die the fuck off.

[–]Funkula 107 points108 points  (13 children)

I like how he keeps using the royal "we". Sounds so posh~

[–]whalemingo[🍰] 299 points300 points  (21 children)

I don’t blame the neighbor for being initially suspicious of some stranger pulling up trying to get into an abandoned house. I’d want my neighbors to look out for me that way. But as soon as he presented his information to her, she should have backed off immediately. It became clear that she wasn’t upset that someone was going through the house. She was upset who was going through it. Sad that this still happens. Glad the man kept his head and made her look like the fool.

[–]atombrain101 107 points108 points  (5 children)

I think additional point is that the cops have had it with her and these kind of people too. Once a cop is basically saying if you don't stop you're going to jail, they basically had enough.

[–]Sam_0131 50 points51 points  (1 child)

Cops need to start ticketing people like her.

[–]thisisnotdan 49 points50 points  (3 children)

"Feel free to make your own judgments about why she called the cops..." [Fade in]

Aaaaaand he's black.

[–]fikis 14 points15 points  (0 children)


This guy shows grace here, for sure. Everyone is talking about how funny and quick-witted he is, and that is undoubtedly true.

What I am seeing, though, is a guy who is really sad and anxious and scared, and is doing his best to cover it up.

Imagine how exhausting it must be to deal with this shit; to be just trying to do the right thing (as he says) and to be automatically perceived to be a wrong-doer or scary or somehow 'bad' or out of place, not to mention unwelcome and somehow unworthy of common courtesy...

That shit must get SOOOOOO old.

I really feel bad for this guy, in spite of how graciously he pulls it off here. It's got to wear on your soul to be treated like this.

[–]Af072422 93 points94 points  (49 children)

I’m a police officer in Memphis and unfortunately a lot of the times when someone is seen around a vacant house during the day they’re typically up to no good. It’s great to see a young person starting his business and it’s awful that he has to deal with the harassment. Keep up the good work!

[–]ThrivesOnDownvotes 807 points808 points  (172 children)

TLDW: Just a simple case of "crazy neighbor lady" who thinks a black man got too close to her property. This guy handled it. Cops handled it. It was determined that the neighbor was in fact a crazy lady. It's all good. I think the guy was using a selfie stick or something, tho. That's the real crime here.

[–]cavalierau 167 points168 points  (5 children)

I think having a selfie stick can be excused if a job involves taking alot of property photos. It'd be pretty useful for taking high angled shots of a room.

[–]topsecreteltee 373 points374 points  (87 children)

No it’s not all good. She went off the rails and it cost him time. Time is money, especially when you’re self employed.

[–]ArabellaTe 11 points12 points  (1 child)

Cool guy. He did a good job, as well as the police.

[–]ONEXTW 119 points120 points  (16 children)

"... im just happy to be going home ... ".

Not making it home at the end of a day isnt something I've had to consider. As a white guy, if I was in his position I doubt I would have even noticed that a nutjob lives next door.

If im honest, when he said he was scared I thought that was a bit of an over reaction at first, but the more I thought about it, it just takes one person with a sense of self righteousness and the means to take action to have very dire consequences.

[–]Dr_fish 31 points32 points  (6 children)

Imagine if the crazy lady had told the cops that she thinks the guy might have a gun, then the cops rock up, see the camera and mistake it for a gun, they start shouting and the guy freaks out reflexively makes a sudden movement with his hands. "Shots fired, shots fired!"

[–]ocentertainment 26 points27 points  (5 children)

I'm gonna go out on a limb here and make a wild guess that this guy thought of that which is why a.) He did not go inside the house and stayed clearly visible in the street, and 2.) started filming before the cops showed up. If he'd just gone about his day and ignored the crazy lady, there's a possibility that he could've come outside with camera in hand only to discover some cops and something bad could happen. And without that footage from before they show up, his side of the story might not have been told (or not told until way, way after the crazy lady's version made its rounds).

I have exactly zero proof that's what was going through this guy's head, but man it goes through mine. How many stories are out there where we'll never know what really happened because one side of the story was snuffed out?

[–]crazyprsn 28 points29 points  (4 children)

This. This is what White Privilege means. It means I (a white dude) don't have to worry about this kind of scenario at all. That's a privilege of being white.

No, fellow honkeys, it doesn't mean we automatically get rich or live struggle-free lives. It means that we don't have to put up with so much bullshit people of color deal with that we don't even see on a day-to-day basis. That's still privilege. From Jim-Bob in the trailer park to Bob in corporate headquarters. There's a lot of bullshit we just don't have to deal with because we have the right color skin...

[–]almanor 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She should be fined for wasting time like one would if one falsely called the fire department.

[–]Campffire 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The very best part of this is that, just in case there was ever any doubt, this woman’s neighbors now know exactly what she is like and can treat her accordingly. It was hard to tell her exact age from the video, but she wasn’t any spring chicken. There will surely be days when she needs something heavy carried in from her car, or her car jump-started, or a gutter re-hung... some small job that a friendly neighbor wouldn’t think twice about helping an older person out with. After showing her true colors (no pun intended), people will think twice before offering her assistance. With anything.

It was heartwarming to me to see that not only the police (because the law was on his side) but the rest of the neighborhood turned out to support this man. They very well could have stayed indoors and not gotten involved, but chose to send a message to both him and the woman.

[–]Supatroopa72 381 points382 points  (34 children)

This is America

[–]Somuchwastedtimernie 165 points166 points  (13 children)

Don't catch you slippin' up

[–]wontonsoy 349 points350 points  (10 children)

Police be... actually really professional and totally acting in accordance with the law, in this particular instance.

[–]signfang 76 points77 points  (1 child)

Look what I'm whippin' up..... Guess that's a Jeep Cherokee? Not sure on exact model year though