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This thread is for help for those who are suffering from Depression, Suicidal Tendencies, Sexual Assault, etc. This thread is spoiler free.

Hello everyone! Welcome to /r/13ReasonsWhy. This Subreddit is for discussion centered around the Netflix original series 13 Reasons Why. As you all know, the show tackles some heavy themes and issues such as bullying, depression, suicide, sexual assault, etc. The show does not shy away from showing such issues. It shows them in a straightforward, unflinching way. It can be very hard to watch and for some it may be triggering. The issues shown in the show are very real issues who affect many people, especially teens.

For many of us, the show hits very close to home. It can bring back past memories and thoughts that are unwanted. Unfortunately, some of you may feel in a very similar position to the character of Hannah in the show. We as a community would never want to deny someone help with such issues if they needed it. However, we think it is important that if someone does need help, they post in appropriate subs which are dedicated to helping overcome their issues. They are much better equipped to help, and you won't ever have to worry about people being rude and/or making the situation worse. That is why we politely ask that if you feel like talking to someone, or asking for help, you use some of the subs and hotlines listed in this thread. We only want what is best for all of you and we want to make sure that no person has to suffer the way that Hannah did.

First of all, I want to remind everyone of one of the key lessons that the show 13 Reasons Why teaches us. It may feel easy to finish the show and reason that "Hannah was able to do it, so why shouldn't I?" But you're missing something very important that we see in the show. What Hannah did really hurt people. It hurt her family who she no doubt loved and cared about. It hurt people that she didn't think would ever care. It changed some people’s lives forever. Yes, Hannah herself was hurting more than most of us can imagine, but she didn't consider that she could really hurt people she cared about. She did not think that people would ever care, yet look what happened. Nobody ever wants to hurt the people they love, but sometimes it can be easy to overlook them. I think this is something very important to take away from the show.

~ /r/13ReasonsWhy Moderator Team

Here are some resources for those who need them.

Subreddits to post in if in need of help:







Borderline Personality Disorder


Addiction (Substance Abuse)



Rape/Sexual Abuse





Hotlines for immediate help with certain issues*:


Cutting: 1-800-366-8288

Substance Abuse: 1-877-726-4727

Domestic Abuse: 1-800-799-7233

Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696

Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-8433

LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255

Crisis Textline: Text "start" to 741-741

Human trafficking: 1-(888)-373-7888

Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743

Eating Disorders Hotline: 1-847-831-3438

Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673

Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272

Runaway: National Runaway Safeline 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929)


Samaritans (Suicide / General Crisis): 08457 90 90 90

Rape: 0808 802 634 1414

Eating / Weight Issues: 0845 634 1414


General Crisis Help: (Click your location for the number, Ontario only)

Kids Help (Under 19): 800-668-6868

Suicide Hotline - 1.800.784.2433

Distress Centre for Southern Alberta (Canada) - 1.403.266.4357

UPDATE: /u/asaneinsanity has provied a huge list of additional resources for different province/territories of Canada. That list can be found here.

New Zealand

Youthline: 0800 37 66 33

Lifeline 24/7 Helpline: 0800 543 354

Suicide Prevention Helpline: 0508 TAUTOKO (0508 828 865)

Chinese Lifeline: 0800 888 880


Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467

Community Action for the Prevention of Suicide (CAPS): 1800 008 255

Lifeline: 13 11 14

Kids Help Line (ages 15-25): 1800 55 1800


Självmordslinjen: 90101 Chatt:

Jourhavande medmänniska: 08- 702 16 80 öppet 21-06


Hotline: 0800/111 0 111 or 0800/111 0 222 · 116 123

International Hotline List:


*List of hotlines compiled by /u/kerovon. For more hotlines visit the original post at

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You need to listen
17 days ago
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Anyone else get super mad at Hannah’s dad? Like in season 1 Olivia is contemplating taking the settlement, and she’s really unsure if she wants to fight and take it to trial. Then Andy out of nowhere is like “No these people hurt our daughter, we have to fight —we have to care about all the other kids in that school”. Then in season 2, he has completely abandoned her and the store. We learned that he cheated on her and that Hannah knew about it, and he is not only not by Olivia side, he’s upset that she still fighting although he’s the one who pushed her into it.

I just find him so trash


Guess i'm just sensitive...but can't really recall a tv show that left such am impact on me, also am wondering, do older falks watch the show, am 41, they call it a teen drama, but for me it felt much more...


Excuse me if I get the timeline wrong but right after summer ends (and her relationship with Zach) she goes to Jessica's party in hopes of seeing Clay. Well her and Clay are finally about to get together and she has her PTSD bullshit because of all the other guys that did her wrong. Well we find out she had a relationship for most of the summer with Zach and never had that issue with him. So why in a matter of days (weeks?) can she have sex with Zach no problem but absolutely lose her shit when Clay had developed a friendship with her long before Zach did.

P.S. Why the fuck does it seem no one likes Clay on here. I liked him more than Zach.


I’ve never really been sensitive to watch stuff like this happen. I barely became uncomfortable when Hannah got raped in the first season i didn’t enjoy watching it but I didn’t react at all so I saw all these warnings about Tylers assault and all that and I thpught i could handle it but fuck man, that shit was harsh, I felt bad for two hours after watching that and the scene on the toilet at home aswell made me so uncomfortable. Anyone who can relate?


I finally sat down Sunday and started watching 13RW and finished it earlier this morning. Episode 11 was not only the hardest episodes of this series, but one of the hardest episodes of any series I've ever seen, and then the finale hit very hard as well. Throughout the series I knew the entire time that Hannah was already dead, but it didn't actually register with me until the scene with Clay in Mr.Porters office where he described Hannah's final moments along with the suicide depiction that she was actually gone. I've found myself daydreaming all day about the events in the shows and just can't seem to take my mind off it. Anybody else have this happen?


Or is he delusional and actually believe that Hannah and Jessica somehow just "wanted it"?


I would like a link to the part in the bathroom if you've seen it you know what i mean


I quite like Back to You myself.

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18 hours ago

The whole "alt-Clay" thing, was it because he felt like they did not care enough about him and "replaced" him?


I knew I couldn’t be the only how did you guys ruin the show so bad should have just ended it after season one. Just finished the second season was waiting for it to get good and it was just really weird and far out I still don’t understand how they fucked this up


I'm curious what you guys think would've happened had Bryce been given the tapes.


Does this reveal an authentic trait of the lack of communication between kids and their parents in real life? What's your experience?

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