Press J to jump to the feed. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts
106
ArchivedStickied postModerator of r/almosthomeless

When someone posts to this sub, they are reaching out for help. Addiction problems, a series of poor life-choices, financial irresponsibility...it's all irrelevant. This sub is here to help people facing homelessness figure out what their next step is. We are here to provide information. We are not here to judge. We are not here to call them out. We are not here to victim-blame. If you feel a person doesn't "deserve" your help, then don't help, but keep it to yourself. Please use the report button if you see anyone being rude, disrespectful and/or hurtful.

106
16 comments
49

Where do I even start? My story is long, complicated and convoluted but I guess I'll give you the highlights. I've been dealing with mental illness my whole life. Anxiety and depression seem to rule no matter what I do. Over the past 20 years I can't tell you how many medications I've tried and therapists I've seen but nothing actually seems to last. Nothing seems to really work. About a year-and-a-half ago I was renting a basement room in a townhome and was pretty happy there for month. I was living with one other person who was the male owner of the home and he was nice and easy to get along with.

Then a friend of mine that I've known for 8 years let's call him John, was coming back into town having finished up another brief Contracting stint for the work he had in another state. I asked my new landlord if he could stay temporarily until he could find his own place. They worked something out and he paid weekly until he found a job. However he also decided never to leave. Now this guy is an ex from 2011, I'm the type of person that can stay friends with some of them even though their relationships don't work out. However having him move in there at all was my downfall. He worked for a while and then got unemployment for a while and my quiet peaceful place to live became a war zone. He would come down into my room whenever he felt like it, argue with me Non-Stop and generally make my life a living hell just because he's toxic.

Fast forward to about a year later and my depression and anxiety is so out of control that I'm barely able to work and as a result I can't pay the bills. So I had to get out and for the past almost 3 months I have been living temporarily with a friend of mine trying to get back on my feet. All the while I have been seeing my doctor and trying different medications and everything. I even felt better for a while this summer I think because of possibly the meds helping and also the nice weather which always helps my mood.

However I have overstayed my welcome with my friend, he's used to living alone and I guess certain things I do stress him out even though I work and pretty much sleep there. I am currently working and have been although it's a contract job and even though I always show up sometimes I just don't make nearly as much as I would like. I'm too stressed out right now to even try to look for a regular job.

So in just over a week I need to get out. I don't have the money to even try to rent a room unless it's weekly and they don't really have those in my area. I'm at the point where I am putting together a makeshift bed in my 15 year old Coupe in an effort to have somewhere to stay. I also have a small caged animal that I have been trying to find someone to Foster for me at least temporarily because he's all I have in the world and I don't want to give him away. I have had to give another animal away in the past and that was hard enough, I can't do it again.

I can't believe this is my life right now, I cry daily and most of the time just wish for death. I have family in the area but we're not close and I know they won't help me plus if I even told them about my situation they would just laugh. I realize now that you're just totally alone in the world and if you're not strong enough to make it then I guess you're just screwed.

I should also add that most of my things are in a storage unit that I got when I moved out of the basement room. John had a room upstairs and he now lives in my old bedroom. Talk about no good deed goes unpunished right? Oh he also looked after my small animal for a while because my friend didn't really want him in the house and I guess he has anger problems because he threatened to hurt or kill him so I had to come and get him pretty quickly one day. He has also told me to just go ahead and kill myself, threatened to blow up my car and all kinds of other nice things over text message. I'm still debating whether I should go to the cops with all this and at least get it on record should anything happen to me. Needless to say he is now completely blocked and I haven't run into him yet.

I'm writing this in the hope that I can at least get some encouragement. Please no judgement, I feel bad enough as it is. I don't sleep well in a regular bed and I don't even know if I can get any sleep in this small ass car. Any suggestions appreciated! Many thanks in advance!

49
10 comments
6

Long story short my girlfriend (20) and I (18) planned on getting new housing, but lost our current housing before we could fully prepare (Not an eviction, so it wouldn't count against us when applying for other places) to get into a place. We have around ~1000$ saved up and we both work (Her work has been giving her very few hours, like, 8/week lately though, and so she's looking for a new job, I get around 16-20/week maximum (University job)); I get paid min wage, which here is 10.75/hr, she gets paid 12.25/hr. We're also both students, she's taking 3 classes and I'm taking 4. Rent around here varies a ton, studios are usually ~550-650, and 1 bedrooms are usually from ~720-1000. The homeless population here is pretty big, I don't know if that's relevant. I've been given a resource to call about housing, but I don't know what to do in the meantime. I want us to be safe, but it feels like everything that would do that is illegal, and I don't want this slip-up to screw us over. Any advice would be extremely appreciated, just extremely lost and scared here

6
2 comments
38

Alright you guys, this is all about my SO's aunt, so I'll try to get it all in here. So my SO and her sister own a house in Conway that they pay for so she has a place to live as she's older, upper 70's, and as far as i am aware, medicated for schizophrenia. About two weeks before Florence hit, the aunt went missing. The next day she was found in the garden with a broken hip and wrist. Thankfully during all this mess, she was in the hospital for her injuries so she didn't have to endure the hurricane. Well now that she's doing better, they've released her. Social services was supposed to give her a ride so they can make sure everything is okay with her, but instead a taxi was called and she was sent on her way. We now can't get in contact with her and fear that social services is dropping her off, but the house is unlivable due to hurricane damage. I would appreciate some help if you all can. We're not sure where to turn. One of the largest problems is that we are in Virginia, too far to help with any quickness. Thank you for listening, hopefully this'll work out.

38
5 comments
3

So this afternoon, my DH was napping, to recover from his bronchitis. I am disabled. There was a knock on the door. It was a deputy and someone from the apartment complex come to lock us out of our apartment today. Even though we never received any notice of eviction or anything. Ended up going to the court and getting an emergency stay for 7 days, but that is all that NJ allows. Judge said to try to work it out with our landlord.

Our landlord isn't willing to work with us and we are now going to be evicted on the 27th at 1:30 pm. With our ESA dog and Cat. We have no were to go. The state won't help, they honestly don't even care. We've gone to them in the past and they've told us that once we are homeless we can go to separate shelters(one for men and one for women) and that our animals would have to be surrendered. Unfortunately, due to our dog's breed and her reactiveness to other dogs and allergies, she would most likely be put down and I could not ever in a million years let that happen. Anyway, not sure what else to say. I need to go start packing what I can.

Any advice on what to do would be appreciated.

3
4 comments
9

I have been unemployed for since September 2017 now. I have gone through all my savings I saved up at this point (I am 27 years old) including the money I had in an IRA. I have only enough money to pay my bills to the end of October. I have a master's degree in cybersecurity and a number of related IT certifications. I left my last job due to an enormous amount of stress and anxiety it caused. I even went short term disability during this time and that did not fix my situation. This job was one of three IT jobs I have had. I had worked at this job for about 8 months. Before that I had another IT job that lasted about 13 months (2015 - 2016). I left that one for the job I recently left. Before that I had a help desk job in 2015 that only lasted 3 months. They walked me out the door because I was not performing as well as I they expected me to. My unemployment insurance lasted from 09/2017 - 03/2018 and I was not able to extend it further. I have applied for SSI but I waited too long to apply and it is unlikely it will pull through. I did get a phone support type job over the summer but that lasted only a month before they said I was not a good fit and they ended my employment with them. I already asked my family for help but they can't give me anymore help. I have been suffering from anxiety and depression since I have unemployed and I already see a psychiatrist and it does not help my current situation that I have no friends and I have not had any for a few years now. I have been applying to all the jobs I can find and I am getting very few face to face interviews. I went to a local career center and they were not able to help or advice that I did not already know. My current bills are about $1600 a month and I am out of ideas of what I could do to get myself out of this hole I put myself in. I still have a very good credit score and I don't have any outstanding debt except for my student loans.

9
5 comments
20

I am an architectural designer/inventor, and I have decided to devote all of my time and energy to the eradication of homelessness. Sadly, this may come too late for some here, but I wanted to provide a measure of hope for the future. All the best to all of you.

r/https://imgur.com/1jB7btd

r/https://i.imgur.com/1jB7btd.png

r/https://imgur.com/ZEWugKw

20
21 comments
21

I'm not exactly sure what to do at this point, I currently live with my ex boyfriend, who's mother made me sign a contract saying that I'd move out by the end of the month in exchange for her getting groceries for him.

When we moved out last year, my parents told me that if anything happened I wasn't allowed to come back their home. I have a job at Sam's Club, but our store is struggling apparently and has everyone that is full time work 37 hours for two weeks at $11 an hour, when I was hired I was given 36 hours at $11 an hour and I was thrilled. However I recently got denied my apartment because of the lack of income and I had immediately tried to get help with this. Recently I was told a number would, "Get back to me." Which I'm going to go see in the morning, but if this doesn't work I'll be screwed and on the streets because I can't move outside of the area due to lack of a vehicle. The closest other apartment complex is downtown which is a good 20-35 minute car ride from where I currently live.

Unfortunately, I cannot talk to my family as my step dad (who runs and makes all the decisions) despises me due to me calling the cops on his drunk abusive ass so many times. He won't let me go back home and I'd rather not go back anyways due to the way he treated my mother and me until I got out.

I've tried getting a second job at other places around my area, but they all replied with, "I'm sorry to inform you that you didn't get hired. Have a swell day!" Basically. Not word for word. I'm very confused and basically having a breakdown about this every time I think about it, so I would appreciate any help.

Edit: I'm in Mishawaka, Indiana. I'm still New to the area so I'm not entirely sure what could help me around here.

21
9 comments
8

"I read somewhere that 77 per cent of all the mentally ill live in poverty. Actually, I'm more intrigued by the 23 per cent who are apparently doing quite well for themselves." Jerry Garcia

8
1 comment
18

"In poverty and other misfortunes of life, true friends are a sure refuge. The young they keep out of mischief; to the old they are a comfort and aid in their weakness, and those in the prime of life they incite to noble deeds."

Aristotle

18
3 comments
34

Ok, so our landlord claims he is selling the house and we have to be out by November 1st, 2018.

My Mom and I have an eviction on our record (from when our home was foreclosed on) and poor credit.

We have been late on rent multiple times due to financial struggles (and issues with my Mom).

I work at Walmart and make $11.50 a hour and I work on average 33 hrs a week and my Mom works at a factory.

I am planning to go down to the county office on Monday (I have all Monday off) and see what they can do.

But are there any other things I should do?

Does anyone have any advice?

Edit: We have absolutely no family or friends we can move in with.

Edit 2: I also have a Emotional Support Dog due to my autism and depression, I have a letter from my Psychiatrist for her. But I understand this makes it less likely to find a place.

34
56 comments
9

my husbands job is going bankrupt, and hes looking for work but we live in a very rural town. ive been trying to get any job i can for almost a year, no such luck on anything. we live WAY below our means and only spend what is absolutely nessa like food and gas for him to get to work (2 hours away) we are living in the cheapest house in the whole town and always stay home so we dont have to spend money doing things.

still with all this we are soon looking at homelessness. we have been trying to save up to find like an rv and maybe outright own that but we are not sure thats going to be the best way to go. ive been looking at "homeless" communities like slab city but idk if that would be a good fit and or if they are still welcoming people with how popular they have become over the last several years. we think owning a rv or converting (very basic conversion) a school bus or box truck or what ever that maybe we can use the last of our savings and get to a place where we can figure out our situation better.

are there any other communities like slab city? are there any programs in place that allow people to "park" and maybe work for stay? is this just a pipe dream and not really that feasible?

9
14 comments
7

Hi all, I have been researching for a couple of weeks, learning as much as I can to help my 30-something cousin prepare for an eviction. I was hoping to get some advice on what I can do to help him get through this. I don't know how much info you want or need, so here it all is.

Current location and housing: He lives in the Jacksonville, FL area. He is currently renting but he did not pay July or August and they told him they were going to start eviction Sept 1. He thinks he has roughly 60 days from start of proceedings before he has to leave. I am about 14 hours away (by car) and have asked him to come home to stay with me until he saves enough money and gets back on his feet. However he absolutely will not leave the Jacksonville area because he co-parents with his ex and he thinks he will never see her again if he leaves. I don't think that's true, but I don't know the ex and that's his state of mind so I have just set aside the suggestion of him coming home for a while. I can't afford all of his back rent and we have no way to guarantee future rent, but I asked him to talk to the office and he said he would try again but doesn't think it matters at this point.

Current employment and health care/insurance: He was fired from his position as a retail manager after he was in the hospital for two weeks for a liver condition. His liver condition requires him to take medicine daily, but now he is "making the medicine last" and only taking it when he sees jaundice kicking in. (We have similar conditions so this may sound weird but it makes total sense to me, I take medicine daily for mine too). Once his emergency situation was settled, he tried to go back to work but something happened before he showed up for the shift and he was fired. I don't know what it was and I'm not sure he's giving me the whole story, but at this point he has no income and no health insurance. I've asked him to go talk to them to see if he can get the job back and he says it is out of the question there.

Current finances, assets, and credit situation: He has no car, it was repo'd last year. He's been walking everywhere, and he lives about a mile from a shopping area / business center. He has always been paycheck to paycheck and has never built up a safety net for himself, and honestly does not make good decisions with money. He's pawned everything he had that is of value, and he was down to zero food last week. His electricity at the house is pre-pay so I have been keeping that on for him at about 7-10 days at a time, and I've sent him a couple of money grams just to give him a hand. I shipped him a few boxes of bulk foods from Amazon, like stew, tuna fish, peanut butter, etc. I've just found out that this will be his second eviction if we can't prevent it. So, no money, no assets, no credit, no nothing.

Family, friends, and dependents: He has two dogs that live with him, they are taking a bite out of his food, he has a toddler he co-parents, and he has a teenager up here where we grew up who he is supporting through court order / paycheck deduction. We're going to ask the county up here to modify support so I'm hoping we get that lowered. He doesn't have an order of support for the toddler. He has no support from our family, which is not entirely his fault because his parents were (are!) drug users and he went far away to get away from that troubled past. He doesn't have much extended family though because of the rift between him and his mom, and, whatever, it's just people and tempers and ego and I stay away from it. Point being, I'm probably the most help he's going to get.

What I've done to help him so far: Including what I've mentioned above,

  1. tried to avoid eviction by asking about working out the rent. looks like a no.
  2. asked about him getting his job back but it sounds like a no.
  3. nagged him to get a bike so that he can look for work and be prepared to move around. He found one today but still owes $30 and needs a lock and a tarp. I can take care of those things.
  4. advised him to go to the re-employment services like Brevard works and goodwill, to see if he could get help not just with a job but also with laundry, haircut, etc.
  5. will be shipping a box next week with toiletries, some food, socks/underwear/t-shirts if he needs it, his bike stuff, etc. I'm planning to include one of my Fire 7 tablets just so he has some device other than his phone that will provide entertainment plus allow him to communicate. apparently his phone screen is smashed so he has to type with his knuckles because his fingers are all cut up, and he's having problems with his phone charging anyway. Seriously this boy's problems have their own problems, if you know what I mean.
  6. tons of emotional support and "life coaching" if you can call it that. We're planning out X weeks in survival mode, X weeks in maintenance mode, and so on, so he has an actual timeline and some goals. I'm also getting him some videos and books on how to manage money.

Sorry for the length but I'm hoping you'll see something that will give you an idea that might help him. I'd love for him to get a vehicle he could live in, like a pickup with a cap on the back, but I just can't spend that much and I haven't found any way for him to source a vehicle without cash. (Like a trade for manual labor or something) He says he has no one else's couch to sleep on, and he wants to keep his dogs and have an extra room for his daughter. I don't see that happening in the next year, but who knows.

I'm expecting him to be on the street or couch-surfing for a few months even if he gets a job. I just don't see how we can overcome all the negatives on the cash and credit issues by the time he's evicted. So I'm planning to have him look into a new PO-type box address that looks like a physical address, and I'm hoping we can get him on Medicaid for the liver disease, so that he's not getting sick when he needs to be taking care of business. He's getting a new charger to see if that fixes the problem with his phone not taking a charge.

He's got a full day planned out for tomorrow including laundry, resource center, etc., so I think his head is in the right place right now. Plus he's very motivated to get all this situated so he can focus on his daughter again. (His ex and her family are not available to help him either, that's not a good relationship there.)

I would appreciate hearing what you think? Am I helping in the right way? He doesn't know how to prepare for this either, other than "get a job." Is a bike a liability if you have no home? Has anyone here been homeless with dogs but also not had a vehicle or a friend's house where they might be able to shelter and spend time with the pets? Should I be focusing on something different or sending him different supplies? Does a tent makes sense, or just a sleeping bag, and should I even get him anything like that if he has to carry it on a bike?

If you got this far, thanks for taking the time to read the whole thing. I've already learned a lot from this subreddit and I really appreciate hearing your suggestions, feedback, etc.

7
11 comments
27

I just feel so stuck, a few years ago my mom lost her job while I was in my senior year of high school and that whole experience almost kept me from graduating. She lost her job again a while back and has recently started doing consulting work, but now her boss is trying to pay her late out of spite. I think the reason is because my mom is pretty good at what she does, so the consulting firm's contracts want to hire her directly instead of using the firm. Thing is, now he's paying her late, we owe the hotel some big money and we are probably gonna lose the house that we were about to get. I honestly don't know anymore, it feels like a damn cycle, the same cycle that's kept me out of college for 2 damn years. Sorry for the rant, I just needed to get this off my chest before I dive back into looking for people we could ask for help. If anyone here knows of any way we could get help I would appreciate it, or just any advice in general.

27
17 comments
24

I've been to a shelter before so I'm prepared. Couple questions.

So it's me and my girlfriend. We just need some help getting on our feet. I was wondering if shelters inthis area would help with affordable housing? We both just got out of detox/a loony bin and just need some help getting a plsce we can afford.

And does anyone know if they'll have some sort of help with job placement? I lost my job a month or so back and I'm sick of applying to places for nothing.

Thank you in advance

24
7 comments
33

I'm 20 and have been living with my dad since birth, paying rent in cash since 18. our relationship slowly deteriorated due to his attitude towards work, wanting me to keep up with his near suicidal work pace (E.G. working 14 hours a day on remodeling houses for rentals solo). Every payment has been in cash and never in a deposit into his account. He knows my bank account info and while he has wanted to run a joint account, we never got to it. He has pretty much every physical copy of all my personal info (credit card number and card, social security number and card, birth certificate, passport, etc.). While hes not overtly malicious, he is very old school and thinks that there is infinite opportunity for work no matter the situation and expects me to find jobs within days of looking for them (even though my work history is pretty average and I'm not having any unemployment issues) Because of this, hes gotten even more frustrated that it took me so long to acquire the jobs I did have despite applying for over 40 locations, many of them he forced me to go in person despite the fact most businesses do it online, wasting time and energy that could be used looking for more jobs. While visiting my best friend in new York on a two week vacation I planned with my job, my dad decided to not let me back in the house, basically kicking me out over the phone on the last day before I was going to go back. The friend I'm staying with currently was nice enough to let me stay another week, but after that I would need to leave most likely. The only people i really know aside from my father is my mother who is an alcoholic and a drug addict, my aunts who live in California and currently runs a day care center, and my partner who is living with their mother (who has said no to the prospect of me living there). Yesterday I called my job and resigned over the phone which was probably a mistake since now I realize I can't collect unemployment, and I have a total of about 1k in my account. Also I don't currently have a driver's license because my dad never let me get one. I'm having a hard time thinking about things due to the amount of stress in such little time, as all this happened yesterday. Only reason I'm here is because that friend suggested Reddit, and yes this is my first Reddit post, so sorry if I did something wrong in advance.

TL;DR Overworking father kicked me out over the phone while on vacation at a friend's house, Florida resident now stuck homeless in upstate NY.

33
5 comments
82

https://apnews.com/3964861076af417a9734bfc4aa1eefdd/Court:-Cities-can't-prosecute-people-for-sleeping-on-streets

http://cdn.ca9.uscourts.gov/datastore/opinions/2018/09/04/15-35845.pdf

We consider whether the Eighth Amendment’s prohibition on cruel and unusual punishment bars a city from prosecuting people criminally for sleeping outside on public property when those people have no home or other shelter to go to. We conclude that it does.

“The law, in its majestic equality, forbids rich and poor alike to sleep under bridges, to beg in the streets, and to steal their bread.”

— Anatole France, The Red Lily

82
12 comments
81
Posted byu/[deleted]17 days ago

UPDATE: Hi guys- a few of you wanted me to keep you all posted, so here I am. Thanks to your amazing advice, words of kindness/hope and an amazing fellow Aussie redditor who drove an hour to mine on the day before rent was due and literally gave me the amount I needed to pay in full, we're all fine and we've made it work! A lot of your comments had a pretty common idea- I realised that maybe I'd been feeling both too proud and embarrassed to ask for help to the extent that I needed to. I think I've always been like that, so it was a pretty big personal wake up call. I called/emailed church after church (and even some charity run shops etc) and managed to get a really solid amount of food. I was also given a voucher that I could use at petrol stations (gas stations to anyone from America :p) which was insanely helpful. It meant that I was able to put some of my food money into rent (same with petrol). In the same vein, I had a very honest and candid conversation with my sister's mum (as they were already sleeping over on the Friday) and she offered to have both girls all the way to Sunday evening. So, I was able to pick up a bunch of odd jobs off Australia's version of craigslist both Saturday AND Sunday which was great. It was an exhausting hustle, but I made it in the end! Since I acknowledged that I need to ask for help more often, I explained the situation to someone whose lawn I was mowing (because she was very chatty) and she paid me extra for the job. By the end of Sunday, I was still down $60 which is where this redditor saved the day. I also had a lot of kind people PMing me and offering to send other amounts of money too, but it wasn't needed in the end.

So yeah. Rent paid in full, I'll get my monthly paycheck in a couple of days (still got enough free food/food vouchers for the girls and I to be fine until then) and it's smooth sailing. From Hannah and Karen's perspective (because I didn't tell them what was going on), everything's been absolute bliss- two night sleepover with a friend who has a pool, pizza for dinner, video games and so on and so on hahaha. At the same time I was freaking out and working my ass off, but obviously I'm really glad that they had a great weekend and they didn't have to feel afraid about our uncertain future.

I've also made two decisions going forward. Decision 1: I'm going to find a cheaper place for us to live in a similar area. I'm looking at some nice, but smaller two bedroom houses to rent (I talked to the girls about whether they'd be okay to share a room or not, like, I know I'm the grown up and it's not their choice but I like to treat them with maturity because I am their brother and not their dad, at the end of the day) and they were actually pretty excited about the idea because they are super close (and ultra, ultra excited about the prospect of having a bunk bed lol). So yeah, I'm going to look for a more affordable two bedroom around our area so they can stay in the same school/same sport clubs etc- that way we save more money and don't have to deal with this landlord. Trigger warning: I think I held onto this house for so long because it reminds me of mum, and I miss her dearly. Somehow (because I found her passed away in the bathroom when she decided to take her life) it feels especially weird to never see that room again because, I suppose, it was the last place I saw her. But I need to let go, it's not healthy and I know that she'd want what's best for the girls (and me) anyway.

Second choice: Since I'm a high achiever at work, I'm going to talk to my boss about the prospect of a promotion (because an opening is coming up). If nothing comes of that after some time, I reckon I'll look for higher paying positions in the same field. As of now though, we're fine financially with my work pay coming through and welfare support the week following. Gonna start looking at new houses ASAP.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you to everybody who offered advice, did research for me, offered me money and their kind words of hope and support. A lot of you made me realise that I probably do go a bit too hard on myself, because I am very young to be in this position. THANKS! You're all amazing.

I've reposted this from another sub because, well I guess I am almost homeless. Did not realise how long this post would be. Skip ahead to the bolded 'anyway' if you don't want to read the backstory.

Hi redditors,

To make a long, long story short, I'm an 18 year old guy raising and being the primary caregiver and guardian of my two young siblings, 'Karen' [7 years old] and 'Hannah' [10 years old]. We all had a rough upbringing- dad was an extremely abusive drug abuser (namely opiates) and life was hell for me growing up. He abandoned the family when I was around 10, so, when mum was pregnant with Karen. Karen doesn't know him and Hannah only has vague memories which I'm thankful for. I love these girls to pieces.

For a while mum really pulled her game up in terms of supporting the three of us as a single mother, but she was always quite unstable. She never saw a psych or anything, she was pretty stubborn (think old, Irish mentality of 'oh well life's just shitty for everyone and we gotta make do). She was very flighty- some months she'd be working a lot (I later found out that she worked as a prostitute which I have no moral issue with, but she told us she was 'modelling') and we'd have quite a bit of money. She'd take us on random, spur of the moments trips to amusement parks or clothes shopping or a nice restaraunt. Other months she was basically bedridden and we were living on government assistance- those months she cried a lot. She might have had bipolar, but I'm not sure, I'm no psych.

Two years ago I found her dead body in the bath. This is hard for me to write about, so I'm going to be kind of matter of fact but it's not because of apathy. I tried to revive her and pull her out until my logical mind tapped in and realised that she was already gone. I called an ambulance. She left me a simple letter, 'Anon, I love you, I'm sorry. This was not your fault, it isn't even my fault. It's my mind. You're going to do great things, I see it in your eyes'. She also left letters for Hannah and Karen to be opened when they turn 16. I hold no resentment towards her, though I admit that I did for a while. She was a complicated woman, I loved her... well, I still love her. Shit, I'm rambling. Our uncle, the only relative we have (mum's brother) stayed for a while but left three months ago because I was 'becoming a man' and I could do this on my own. I... could not. I don't feel like a man. He barely talks to me now.

Anyway, now I'm 18 and I'm raising my sisters. I hold a full-time job at a call-centre but the pay rate is less than desirable, and I really don't have the time to gain any other qualifications. I dreamed of going to college to study engineering, but that doesn't seem possible now. I receive some government assistance on account of my sisters, but it isn't much. I don't really care about how my life goes at this point, but I want the world for them. I want them to be able to go on school excursions and have new clothes every now and then and be in sports teams etc etc but now... I don't know if I can make rent.

I can work through most sicknesses, but two weeks ago I came down with fucking gastro. I couldn't keep anything down, literally vomiting every half hour for 6 days straight... so I had to arrange for Hannah's friend's mum to carpool the girls to and from school. Had to call in sick for the week, don't have any sick leave so that was a week of 0 profit and now I'm facing the consequences.

Rent's due in a week and I'm down $370. I called my landlord immediately to beg for more time but he refused, told me that he'll be serving me a notice to vacate if I can't pay up. I begged my boss for an advance and she also refused, said it wasn't 'company policy'. I've sold everything I can think of selling (the TV, the nintendo wii which broke my heart because the girls love it and cried and cried). I don't have anything of worth to sell anymore... I am fearing the worst. I can't get a loan out with my bank because I am already in debt. I called to ask if I could get any extra welfare in extreme circumstances and they told me that it is unlikely and if it's at all possible, it wouldn't come through in a week.

Hannah and Karen know something's wrong but I'm trying to be lighthearted. I can't let them go into the system... I can't let them suffer. I am at a complete loss, every night is a sleepless night of me trying search any way to make money quickly. I guess this post is my last resort- can you think of anything else I might be able to do?

Thank you to anybody who got this far.

81
62 comments
4

I have a homeless friend who's currently sleeping on my couch, but he wants to move out West soon. He read about Slab City in California and now has plans to go there this November. Has anyone stayed there, and if so, what is it really like? Thanks.

4
3 comments
25

I'm about to leave an abusive situation. Leaving will leave me jobless and homeless and I just found out I'm pregnant but it's just gotten worse so I can't afford to stay. I just need advice on how to survive.

25
11 comments
9

I've been out of work for nine months, and it's finally catching up to me.

When I lost my job in January, I took a sabbatical for a few months; it was necessary at the time. Hindsight being 20/20, I should have set up my phone with call blockers when the bill collectors began calling. I couldn't tell the difference between a potential employer and something which would stress me out given the slew of incoming calls with unknown numbers.

During my time off I invested my time to build new skills, donating them to a gaming community, and hanging out for escapism to the point of obsession.

Now I won't make rent despite a fundraiser initiated by the gaming community, and I'll have to convert those funds to straight-up survival. I'm not homeless yet, but I believe it to be inevitable. My phone is about to be shut off. My Internet is about to be shut off. I have about a week to get squared away and vacate before the landlord begins to take action. I am mentally prepared to lose everything.

My mother lives with me, and she has a cat. She's come to terms with needing to give up her beloved companion, but taking care of her as well as myself complicates things.

I am a highly-qualified Linux Systems Administrator and Web Application Developer and hold a GWAPT certification, but I also do audio (mixing, recording, post-production, etc.). Or at least I'll be able to for a few days longer. Most of the jobs I qualify for in this area require a security clearance which I do not have.

We both have our cars in running condition (though at the time of this writing mine needs a jump start before it will move) and a few hundred dollars to our name each.

I thought about getting a PO Box but if I have no idea where I'm going to end up, I'm not sure maintaining one in this (expensive) area is wise since I might not be able to check it. The weather here won't take long to start turning cold.

Eight years ago, as part of my independent film experience, I did a documentary exploring homelessness in this area. I know how people survive in the heart of Washington, D.C. but it almost never seems to include a way out: it just seemed like a cycle of maintenance merely to survive, and I doubt my mother would be able to sustain that lifestyle. She also has some life-saving medication she may lose access to unless we're one or two steps above true homelessness.

Her dead-end plan is to use our remaining funds to set up in a cheap motel in Dumfries in the hopes that some additional funding will go through, whereas I'm more inclined to use the money for travel and camping gear.

All of the offers I've had so far for couch-surfing months ago have been tied up due to other people in need. I have friends from the gaming community down in North Carolina which I might visit regardless since there is a tech sector down there and I may be able to borrow some amenities even if I cannot live full-time under their roof.

I expect that I can get a job in audio or IT reasonably quickly, so long as I don't fall off the face of the planet... which seems imminent.

I have several "irons in the fire" for jobs in this area where I am pretending like everything is going to be okay, and the prospect of me getting hired appears to be pretty good, but the business of hiring people and reaching that first life-saving paycheck is too far out to make rent and maintain my current situation.

I don't even think I have time to sell my possessions, locally or by eBay. I had planned on just walking out with a backpack, jumping into my car, and going somewhere. But I haven't quite figured out where.

Surely there are better approaches to resolving this phase of my life, but it's difficult to think of them when half-panicked and while being wholly inexperienced with true homelessness.

Thank you for helping me think clearly and objectively.

9
12 comments
2

So, after what I've taken to calling "Towelgate 2018", in which my grandmother flew off the handle at me over, of all things, bathroom towels, necessitating me barricading myself in my bedroom to avoid (further) physical injury, I've realized that I simply cannot waste any more of my life (or sanity, or health) being a caretaker and 24-hour assistant for someone, and an overall 'family', so hateful and abusive. This kinda mess has been a lifelong thing. I'm a societal outcast that hasn't yet found the real family I need in life, or overall yet gotten to actually live, rather than merely 'exist'. It's time for me to finally get to a place where I can actually do so, and try like hell to do so.

This is Fort Worth, Texas, by the way. And frankly, my big need is to get the absolute blue hell out of Texas (talk about a rough place for the underclass!), up to a better (and actually urban and modern) environment for someone like me, where I would have better mobility, a better social environment (friendlier populace), actual adequate public health care (especially considering I've got several disabilities)... and just overall a better shot at actual life.

I have a good friend in Fort Wayne, up in Indiana, that has offered me a place up there and even to pick me up and take me up there. Fort Wayne's not ideal, but she needs my help to de-clutter and organize her domicile, and it's a good stepping stone to a locale that is close to what passes for civilization by American standards, like Chicago, Columbus, the upper East Coast, etc. Thing is, though, she's currently occupied in Florida with helping another friend of both of ours' with his house situation, since he's blind and it's basically falling apart physically. So she won't be available for a little while, probably a month or so.

Basically, I'm posting to see if anyone in the Dallas/Fort Worth area that has a bit of extra space would be cool enough to have me and my modest amount of stuff (clothes, a couple of small bicycles and a bike trailer, personal documents, personal electronics, some online store inventory [not much], and a bit of other miscellany) for a little while until I can jet from here. I'm on quite limited funds, so I couldn't do the cash thing. I just have skills to offer: cooking, cleaning, horticultural, I.T., meteorological consulting, and a few others. I'm straight-edge, so I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs. My Social Security disability case is still winding its way through the labyrinth of that particular bureaucracy, but there'd be no need to worry about me cutting into your food, as I do receive SNAP.

I could get a small storage unit for my belongings while I "hold out" around these people, though that'd be less than ideal (and dangerous)... and paying for the unit would cut into the funds I'd need to cover fuel and such getting out and going up North. Hence why I'm trying posting here.

I suppose it's also worth mentioning that my friend's car is on the smaller side, which might make a tight squeeze, so if anyone has a larger vehicle, and is able and willing to move me and my stuff from Fort Worth to Fort Wayne, that'd be cool. I'd be able to cover fuel and such (well, so long as it's not a major gas guzzler we're talking about - I've got about $200 for that purpose). This and, if anyone in a more civilized locale has the room for someone with my kind of skills in the future after I've helped my friend out, that'd be awesome, too.

Thanks in advance, y'all.

2
3 comments
18

I'm a 21 year old hippie living in Creston Iowa, and am going to be homeless in a couple days. Over the past few months, I've undergone the process of completely renouncing the religion I was raised in and undergone the largest personal changes or my life. I've educated myself on physics and astronomy, things I've wanted to learn since childhood but couldn't during school because of my home situation, and bro, we all know how big our problems seem when we're teenagers. I've worked good jobs and lost them all because I was truly unhappy without my own identity. After having a lot of heavy talks with my parents, I finally was able to put myself in a place where I could start working on my own happiness. I had a good job, good girlfriend, good roomate, and everything was looking up for a little while until one little shift financially threw my already unstable paycheck to paycheck lifestyle into chaos. I managed to get a factory job to take out a small loan for a downpayment on a new place to live, but with all the stress in my life I turned to drugs and alcohol (a recurring issue in my life) to create happiness for myself. This caused me to loose my factory job and I've been doing odd jobs ever since. Last week, my roomate who I've lived with for a year who is in the same boat, decided to move out without warning, and once again my always-broke-ass is out of a home.

I'm doing my best to keep a positive outlook, falling back on science, logic, and my strong hippie love vibes to get me through👌🏻 I've got some couches set up to crash on with good friends, and I still have a part time job to save up cash to get a train ticket somewhere. Problem is, I don't know where to go. I feel truly passionate about seeing the world, traveling to non-tourist-e spots and seeing the REAL world, not just the sugar coated white people spots that most Americans go to. But the logic side of me says to stay here in town and live with friends until I can save up for a tent and camping stuff, then just living off the land until I can move out to Colorado with my group of friends (that's the long game for them). Can some of y'all throw a couple comments back and forth with me to help me figure out the best decision?

18
29 comments
27

As the title says I'm stuck in Florida, Orlando area, and I'm lucky enough to have a hotel room to sleep in, my girlfriend has a coworker who offered her a room, and due to this I won't be able to afford the hotel room on my own. I've been riding 12miles twice a day to and from a job I was able to get but I'm not sure what to do with my housing issue right now as I don't meet the 2.5 time rent requirement that almost every place has. Any advice

Edit: I'm still very grateful to have a roof and a hot shower and I would like to try to keep what little I got going on.

27
5 comments
7

Crossposting here due to another redditor pointing me to this subreddit:

Hypothetical question. Lets say someone just found out that they will not have a college dorm available to move into in the next few days due to not having enough funds available. They have roughly 800 dollars in savings and will potentially be homeless once letting the individuals they are living with know about the situation and have no car. What would be a move that should be made?

Edit: good news, I will not be kicked out of the house that I am at. Thank you for the suggestions!

7
4 comments
114

Posting this here as I didn't know about this sub until I was directed to it. Had originally posted in /r/assistance, and have only received a handful of PM's.

Hello

I've had a room in my house that I've used in the past to house a few friends who were not doing great economically while I find them a job. Most of these guys work in the IT field, and once I got them on at Microsoft, they got their own place.

I don't have any friends that need help currently, so I figured I would try something different.

I have a decent-sized room in my house that I might be open to helping someone in need move into. I live in Fargo, North Dakota, which is one of the better places to live in the country with a low crime-rate and abundant jobs. I'm well connected and can set anyone who is not a felon up with a job and help them get on their feet. If you work in the IT field, I can help you get your foot in the door at Microsoft in town. I live here with my wife, and a few other roomates. We are all around 30, there are children in the house, and we have several cats. By hobbies, everyone in the house is a gamer, typically both tabletop and video games.

My requirements would be pretty simple. No felon's, preferably a vehicle so that you can get to and from a job, and a good personality, along with an established reddit history so I can get a sense of your demeanor. No pet's, no drug's, and nothing beyond casual drinking. The room would be free, along with internet access and a bed provided until you got on your feet. Once you are stable, we would, of course, expect you to chip in a bit.

We have gigabit internet in the house, several flat screens, central air, and access to pretty much every streaming service you could want, as well as a shared steam library of about 1400 games.

If we mesh well, you can stay for quite awhile, or if you want to move out once you have a stable job and an apartment lined up, we can help you move. PM me if you are interested, and I will reach out so we can get to know you.

114
29 comments
Community Details

11.9k

Subscribers

28

Online

A place to ask for help, advice, or assistance for people who are imminently at-risk of becoming homeless.

Create Post
r/AlmostHomeless Rules
1.
R1: Donation request
2.
R2: Illegal
3.
R3: Too off-topic
4.
R4: Disrespectful
Cookies help us deliver our Services. By using our Services or clicking I agree, you agree to our use of cookies. Learn More.