actives, if you have any other misc advice you want me to add leave a comment and i'll put it on the list. feedback is welcome too.
It doesn't matter whether you are ex military, socially awkward, 46, poor, or anything other than a rich non-white 18 year old. You should rush.
What do you expect from a fraternity?
I can think of two main reasons to join a fraternity.
You want to make friends, party, brotherhood, connections etc...
Your only goal is to make connections to help you get a job after college.
If your main reason is number 2, you should look into joining a professional fraternity. Beta Alpha Psi is the national accounting fraternity and are highly recruited at my university.
If your main reason is number 1, you should join a social fraternity. lambda chi, pike, fiji, sigma chi, etc...
Rushing a Social Fraternity
Answer these questions:
1- Try to find a fraternity where the members have similar interests to you. Are you a country boy? Find the fraternity that best fits that characteristic. Like video games? There's going to be a fraternity for you. If you're a gym rat, sports star, or an alcoholic, there will be a fraternity for you. You just have to do your homework and find the right one.
2- The size of the fraternity can be a big factor. If you don't do well in situations with a huge amount of people, you should look into the smaller fraternities.
How fraternity life has affected me
My junior year I received an internship for an accounting firm in my hometown. While I was there I worked with a supervisor who was in charge of new hires. During conversation she told me she saw on my resume that I was in a fraternity and immediately put my resume in the call back pile because she was in a sorority herself. I received a full time offer after the internship and will be moving up North after I finish my degree. It didn't matter what fraternity I was in, just the fact that I was in one put me at an advantage in this particular circumstance.
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Well, after one of our chapters killed a kid in a hazing ritual, we nationally went dry. This led to a massive lawsuit and court battle. In addition to the hazing death, we have also had 6 other kids die due to stuff like drunk driving and overdoses. I know a lot of you will say that you’re a nationally dry frat but still party. This is out of the question now after events that have happened both nationally and locally. Although our chapter has not experienced any deaths, we were in severe trouble last year. We have a couple of satellite houses that we will begin using. How do we keep our social presence strong on the row? How do we stay relevant? What challenges will we face?
Thank you for any input!
Alright so I own a house and our turnout last night was not good. What can I do to make parties better? We have a big garage with a pong table, big living room and kitchen where we usually keep people unless if they get special permission to go other areas.
Would improve the lighting and getting extra speakers be worth it, or am I just throwing money away?
I literally don't understand why the sororities spend so much money on them. Every srat function I've been to the only fun parts were the pregame and going downtown afterwards. At least at our school, this is how all of them go.
1) Pregame- Get as fucked as possible on the sister's wine or flavored vodka. This is good as long as you can hold a conversation with a decent number of girls at once because you are one of 2-3 guys there. The only thing that sucks is you can't flirt because you are with your date.
2) Go to the sorority house, sign in, and wait for the bus. You wish you drank more at this point because your date is showing you around to the other girls and you aren't in the mood to meet them but you wish you were more sober so you don't give your house a bad rep. This is the only part where you wish you were more sober to any extent.
3) The bus comes and you ride to the function. Pray your date knows the person taking attendance because it is mandatory to ride back on the bus. You and your date will almost definitely want to leave within 20 minutes so having an escape plan that doesn't get your date in trouble or involve waiting for the bus is a good idea.
4) Arrive at a venue your fraternity would never consider renting out because you could get 2-3 bar rentals or host 4-5 solid parties for the same price. These functions are monthly. I guess this is why stat dues are so high.
5) You arrive and realize the ratio is 1 guy to 6 girls (trust me that's not ideal, especially when you already have a date). This is actually terrible. Prey there is a bar. (Drinks are never free because srats can't buy alc. They are normally expensive drinks.) Pray one of your brothers is at the event so you don't get stuck having superficial conversations with girls that may or may not secretly hate each other. This will inevitably happen to a large extent regardless. Pray the food is good. I went to one that literally only had chips and salsa once. Seriously, if sororities rented a more humble venue I swear they could afford steak. It's a shame some sisters are vegan and would never let that happen. If any sorority girl is reading this, you can fix your ratio issue by just having better food. Guys like food.
6) 20 minutes in and your date need to plan an escape because "I swear they are normally more fun than this." or "They just didn't plan this one very well." The bus won't come for an undetermined amount of time so you are stuck wishing you were at that pregame/bar/party all of your brothers are snapping you about. You will wait about an hour to get on the first bus out.
7) Go downtown. Self explanatory, the night is fun again.
I just don't understand sorority functions. And I'm sick of every other girl asking "Oooh, did you get hazed?" after I tell them what fraternity I'm in.
So I mean from my flair you can already probably tell why this might be a problem, especially considering our house was one of the few with the balls to vote no in our substance free vote. We haven't had any incidents at parties and are probably one of the most trustworthy houses on campus with high gpas and shit, and we don't even party very often. Yet for some reason other SigEp chapters rage hard constantly with no problems but when we decide to throw one party our regional director finds out about it and nationals cucks us so we can't. What's the best move to get them to look the other way like they seem to do with almost every other chapter? Like we clearly aren't obeying substance free but there's no way for them to know that. Do we just have to suck up a shit ton and put on a fake front of being totally in support of nationals or what? I realize voting no may have put a target on our back but the person who voted was so against it that he wouldn't vote yes out of principle.
So my background is that I was a founding father of my chapter and I graduated in May. Since no one else has stepped forward to found our alumni society, I figured I would go ahead and do it.
I was just curious if anyone could let me know how their alumni society works and if they had any advice for how to get this going?
School is McGill.
I rushed a Frat, and went to every event. I got a message asking to go out for coffee with a few brothers a week later so they could get to know me better.
I go to get coffee and they pay for me. We talk some more and go out to lunch. It felt like we’d connected and we all go our own ways.
Afterwards I talk with another guy who rushed and he said he already got a message rejecting him.
Is this a good or bad thing?
TL;DR rushed a frat. Got invited for coffee by some brothers after while another rushee already got rejected. Need advice.
Ive rushed so many times it's funny. I got a bid last semester and was pledging but dropped due to some reasons. The same fraternity didn't give me a bid this semester cuz of the reason I dropped last semester but they said if I show I'm dedicated they may give me a bid in the spring.
Anyways I rushed other houses too but no bids there either. I'm just trying to make some friends. Idc about tiers or rankings at all.
I was a founding father for Phi Delta Theta at a university where less than 1% of dudes rush per semester. The colony lasted three semesters before our numbers dropped and getting the number of members necessary to charter became inconceivable after we had about 80% of guys rushing cut us before the halfway point of rush this week. I want to say it is because of the current anti-greek climate on campus and nationally for not getting the numbers, but obviously we had to have done something wrong. I just wish I knew what that was. I'm not sure what to do from here on out. I was on the executive board and multiple committees and poured so much into getting the fraternity off the ground. This just fucking sucks all around.
Hey guys, my dad is very anti fraternities and thinks it’s partying and like animal house. The school I go to is very Greek orientated and if I don’t rush I have little social life cause all my friends will be with their frats. My moms on board all I have to do is pay it myself. Any tips on how to persuade my dad to open his mind?
Hey, our Associate Members seem a little upset since their first week was packed with all that boring stuff like philanthropy events, intramural games, and a social. I thought they could use a fun activity to lift their spirits back up and get to know all the Brothers a little better. Next week is National Hazing Prevention Awareness Week so I figured a Brother & Associate Member bonding party would be great.
I want to keep true to the theme while really encouraging some quality bonding. What sort of activities would you recommend?
I just got myself moved into my new apartment a couple days ago, and I've had a pretty steady stream of my brothers coming through my place because, I'm one of the few guys not living on campus/in the house. Usually when I have a good number of people over, I have my party playlist bumping in the living room and my smaller speaker playing some 80s/90s music at a low volume in my room for background music. The second playlist is getting pretty stale though, so if anyone has a good, chill playlist that sounds nice while you're just chilling/drinking beers, I'd appreciate it if you threw a link my way
Title says it all.
Last night at my chapter house we had a social with one of the top sororities on our campus which went well, we had prepared everything ahead of time and things went pretty smoothly from what I can tell.
Except that whenever we have socials with sororities in general I always seem to get really anxious. Like all of the sudden I have a really hard time approaching all of these women (all of whom I have never met before). I think the setting of our parties has to do with it also, on top of the fact that more of the brothers have friends in other sororities than I do (they have been active for a lot longer than I have since they started pledging earlier in their college careers) so I feel out of place
I don't really know, like I can go anywhere else on campus and approach women relatively easily. But I only seem to have a hard time with it in these cases since there always is a lot of pressure to mingle with everyone and come off a certain way which kind of messes with me, and I kind of feel like a stranger. I am also older (22) so that adds to it.
Can any of you guys help me with this? I'm tired of feeling this way and not letting go and having fun with some fine girls as I should be (or used to be able to do).
Edit: honestly thanks guys. Pretty sure that I just had a bad night and woke up this morning hung over and needed to vent, etc. This helped a lot
I didn't get invites for my top 2 fraternities but I'm going to final round for my 3rd choice tonight.
They all throw good parties (from what i've heard), but my top 2 had 3.3-3.2 gpa's and lots of guys in my (difficult) major while my third choice has a 2.9 and not many in my major.
All the guys are chill but my top choice (best gpa) were really easy to talk to and really my type of guys, but I wore a t-shirt to day one of rush like a dumbass and I hear that's an auto-loss of a bid from them.
I need to keep a 3.4 for scholarships and I think I could get in to at least one of my top 2 if I rushed next spring or fall, but then again I may be gassing myself up, and I might get no good bids next semester because all 3 are pretty selective. Thoughts?
tldr: I didn't get my top 2 choices, should I take #3?
As the title says, I was wondering if anyone had any pointers on re-establishing a chapter. We have local alumni support as well as support from nationals, but I'm not really sure of the specifics. We know we want about 30 guys to get it up and running, but there are still a lot of open-ended questions right now. How many/what type of events should we plan? What are some good ways to raise money so we don't have to charge everyone out the ass for dues? We don't have a row on campus which means we'll be looking at off-campus housing, most of the houses in the University district are 4-5 bedrooms. How we decide who gets to live there? Do the guys living in the house need to pay an extra premium for it? Any inisght on these questions would be appreciated, as well as any additional tips that I may not have touched on.