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LPT: When a friend tags along to hang out with a group that’s unfamiliar to them, use their names whenever you address them so that your friend doesn’t have to ask as much. by stripedpixel in LifeProTips

[–]Ceramic-Fish 70 points71 points  (0 children)

Maybe this is more of an American thing, if we got on like this over here it'd be "U finished suckin off ya boyfriend or wot m8"

Edit: My first Gold and it's about noshing off one of the lads, quality

LPT: If you, or someone else, is new to shooting, only put ONE bullet in the gun. This is especially true for handguns. by starkvonhammer in LifeProTips

[–]txlaw20 2758 points2759 points  (0 children)

My favorite thing to do when taking someone shooting for the first time is to chamber a round, drop the magazine, and fire a round downrange. It will scare the crap out of them and guarantee that they know dropping a mag doesn’t mean the gun is empty.

Edit: my first gilded comment wow! Thank you!

LPT: If you, or someone else, is new to shooting, only put ONE bullet in the gun. This is especially true for handguns. by starkvonhammer in LifeProTips

[–]Tmanning47 3344 points3345 points  (0 children)

I'm seeing a few people say to do this so people don't accidentally pull the trigger twice due to the recoil, but in my opinion I would do this so that if they get excited after their first shot and turn around to look at you with the gun in their hands still, there's little danger.

Edit: my cherry has been popped.

LPT: When somebody is going through a hard time, it's better to ask questions than to give advice. If you ask questions, you will help him/her talk through the problem. If you give advice, s/he will politely nod along, but s/he will feel kind of empty inside bc what s/he really needs is to talk. by [deleted] in LifeProTips

[–]LawBobLawLoblaw 287 points288 points  (0 children)

I know Reddit is pretty anti-christian for the most part, but I learned this lesson by reading the book of Job. After job loses everything, his friends come and sit with him and silence for like 7 days (the Hebrew word is "Shiva"). From this I learned that sometimes people just need someone to sit with them, and be with them, spend that quality time with them, oftentimes there's nothing to say. Often times I want you to say nothing, but the "just be with me" is more important and more satisfying than anything you could say at that moment.

Ive suffered sadness and loneliness a lot through my life, I've been privileged to have close friends who have sat with me during hard times. They'll sometimes say that they feel like they're not doing anything helpful at all, but I'll reply that they're doing the exact thing I need.

People aren't always looking for advice, but knowing you're worth someone's time is more healing than words sometimes.

Imagine someone telling you that you're worth their patience, that you're worth their time, and that you're worth their love, and that even if you don't get fixed that they're still going to be here through it all with you.

LPT: When somebody is going through a hard time, it's better to ask questions than to give advice. If you ask questions, you will help him/her talk through the problem. If you give advice, s/he will politely nod along, but s/he will feel kind of empty inside bc what s/he really needs is to talk. by [deleted] in LifeProTips

[–]EstoyBienYTu 3929 points3930 points  (0 children)

TBH, it's basically never the time to offer advice unless it's asked for. Most people just want to be heard and understood, and offering unsolicited advice can seem like you're suggesting they're not capable of getting to the solution themself.

LPT: Be careful while using Frixion ball pens (the ones that erase), the ink is engineered to erase at 60 degrees Celcius so your text can be erased merely by placing the paper on top of a radiator or using it as a coaster for a hot drink. by Shaxos453 in LifeProTips

[–]heemat 5235 points5236 points  (0 children)

I'm a high school teacher and one of my students kept not getting her quizzes back after she turned them in. What was weird was I had he quiz in my gradebook, but when she went to get it back, hers was never there. After the 4th time of this happening, she brought it to my attention. I had no clue. I had obviously graded it as it was in my gradebook, but it was never in the pile of papers to be returned. For whatever reason, there was always a blank quiz in the pile through. I figured that must have been hers, but we had no idea why her quiz was being turned back blank. We brainstormed but came to no conclusion as to why. In the end I told her to stop using that pen and to use a pencil.

One day , months later, she left her paper near a hot air register after using that pen and the ink started disappearing. She interrupted the whole class to point this out. I sent her running to the art teacher to borrow a hair dryer. We were able to erase her entire paper with heat. I then remembered that I always run each students' quiz through the photocopier after they had taken a quiz to copy the answer key on the back of their quiz so they can see the proper work to sort out an question. Turns out, the heat generated from the copier was erasing her ink when I sent it through.

LPT: When ordering pizza, know that one 18-inch pizza has more pizza than two 12-inch pizzas! Save that money! by BeerManBran in LifeProTips

[–]happy_K 775 points776 points  (0 children)

For a pizza with a radius "z" and thickness "a", the formula for volume of the pizza is pi * z * z * a

LPT: If you have a family history of mental illness (like a “crazy” uncle), are in your 20s, AND you start to hear or see things other people don’t, or things start to seem “choreographed” around you like the movie “The Truman Show”, you might consider seeing a mental health professional. by estrelle84 in LifeProTips

[–]BeenCarl 2267 points2268 points x2 (0 children)

Grabbing the top comment here to add. I’m a paramedic so I’m going to be as accurate as I can if someone wants to debate on the details please don’t, just add to it.

If you feel new unexplained paranoia (realistically the FBI didn’t go after the Florida school shooter do you think they are casing you?).

I went through a very stressful incident of my own through calls. Acute stress to a traumatic incident can lead to tunnel vision or changes in vision, diarrhea, difficulties or changes in urination, mood swings, strange unexplained illness with flu like symptoms (nausea, vomiting, abdominal pain, again diarrhea), difficulty holding a single thought (for example talking to someone about a grocery list or describing the appearance of a car), strange new behaviors (like new hobbies, new routines, excessive spending or strange frugality), loss or increased appetite, emotional and physical numbness, loss or increased interest in a hobby or social situations (super focused on gaming or exercising/out at parties, new desire to always want to hangout or withdrawal from friends and/or family).

The physical symptoms are a way for your brain to tell you something is wrong.

I didn’t know this until my boss sat me down and looked at me extremely worried. I thought I was fine. Not getting help dealing with the stress can lead to ptsd which I found out through a few rounds of therapy.

These symptoms are not only of acute stress but also signs of new onset mental illness. The body effects the brain as much as the brain effects the body.

Ask a friend if they are okay. Let them know you have noticed any new changes. They may not have. If these symptoms are severe ask them if they have thought about killing themselves. Avoid asking if they are going to hurt themselves. People who are suicidal believe suicide is a release of pain. People who are suicidal typically think of suicide “casually” early on. They don’t intend to act on it early but may think about it.

Mental illness is just as much of an illness as diabetes or asthma. It needs treatment. Acute stress can be rehabilitated as much as a broken bone. It needs to reset in to place/realigned so it can heal as it was.

For those of you out there with mental illness, I’m not saying drugs or therapy will fix everything but it will help. Just like a broken bone it may not heal the way it was before and there may be residual pain. However it can get better than it is now and over time with the help of providers, you’ll your way to overcome it. There is help out there and people WANT to help you. There is no reason to suffer alone in silence.

You can’t drink away, gamble away, get high enough, sex away, eat away, or spend away the pain.

Medical professionals are not here to call you crazy and if they give you that impression find a different one. Remember that there are bad apples in every bunch and medical providers are not excluded. Find a medical provider who works for you. Follow their advice. Take your medications. If your medication doesn’t work for you it’s okay, it happens, it takes many people years to find the one that works, but not taking any leads to you “relapsing” and going back to where you started. I have seen to many patients end up with me because they stopped taking their meds because they “felt better.” That’s the medication working and you need to keep with it.

Make sure you get adequate sleep, get adequate exercise, drink water, eat well. What you do to your body effects your mind as well.

You’re not alone. We all have our cross to bare, but it’s best if we travel together.

I’m giving this advice because I was given this advice or have seen the effects to my patients.

On mobile so I hope this is clear, I’ll look over in the morning on my computer.

LPT: If you like one song by an artist, but don't dig the rest of their stuff. find out who the producer is and see what other work they've done. The producer can play a big role in how the final song turns out. by jade_monkey07 in LifeProTips

[–]hunter9002 3802 points3803 points x2 (0 children)

Alan Parsons aka The Alan Parsons Project

The man sound engineered Abbey Road, Let It Be and Dark Side of the Moon.

If you like pop/rock music from that era and you can get down with a bit of a prog rock influence, absolutely listen to this man. Start with I Robot (1977) it's a total gem. The rest of his 10-album catalogue is excellent, too.

Edit: Didn't expect my first gold on this! Woo! Thanks /u/crackproblem

LPT: if you go clubbing or to concerts a lot buy yourself acoustic earplugs. They don’t muffle the sound, just get rid of the harmful frequencies. Tinnitus is something very easy to get and very hard/impossible to get rid of. by ding3 in LifeProTips

[–]rideincircles 98 points99 points  (0 children)

Here’s my repost comment that will probably get buried below, but it addresses this.

As someone who spent 10 years going to concerts and festivals before getting tinnitus, here’s my advice for hearing protection:

Keep some earplugs handy on your keychain for loud volumes, power tools or other loud noises. Hifi plugs like etymotics are $20 and great for concerts, but only lower volumes by 15db or so. Foam offer the best protection at 30db+ but will mute concerts. Sometimes they are necessary if it’s too loud. The optimal protection for music is custom fitted plugs from an audiologist for about $200. They have great protection (5,15,25db inserts) and music sounds the best. It’s worth the investment if you go to lots of shows. They will last years as long your dog doesn’t eat them like mine did.

Get a decibel meter app for your phone to gauge volumes. You never know how loud something is unless you measure it. It’s good to be aware of that even if it’s not completely accurate.

Keep in mind that people with ear issues like tubes or people prone to ear infections have a higher risk for developing tinnitus. My issues started from a diving pressure incident in my teens where my ear wouldn’t pop for hours after getting out of the water. It did something that weakened my eardrum and 10 years of concerts (mostly with hearing protection) did me in. My right ear has tinnitus with mild hyperacusis (sensitivity to noise) and I’m retired from festivals altogether. I see occasional shows, but my carefree festival binges are over.

Protect your hearing from loud motors of all kinds. I wear plugs and muffs around power tools and lawn mowers and can still get issues. Volume isn’t the only thing to worry about on that front. Bone rattling vibrations can do damage to your ears even with hearing protection. This is why bone rattling bass at concerts can still cause issues even with hearing protection also.

Protect your ears. Listening to your ears ringing every night going to sleep is a pain in the ass. Avoid it all costs. I used hearing protection for almost all concerts. I skipped earplugs front row for portishead and went swimming that day also and got an ear infection with tinnitus. The infection went away, the tinnitus didn’t. 2 years later on the same festival path my tinnitus stepped up another notch and added mild hyperacusis which was really bad for a few months before my ears got adjusted. If you do get tinnitus, give your ears a long break from noise. It’s basically trauma for your ears. They need time to adjust and recover.

I hope this helps a few people. I post this all the time whenever this pops up.

LPT: did you buy a 6-pack of cans with the plastic tie holding them together? Do a bird, turtle, or fish a favor and snip the circular loops before throwing it out so they don’t get caught up in it. by napkin-grabber in LifeProTips

[–]yellekc 2576 points2577 points  (0 children)

Honestly it is not a big problem in developed countries, if you throw your trash in a receptacle, it will be very very unlikely to end up in nature.

We really need to get Asia and Africa on board here.

90% of all plastic in the ocean comes from just 10 rivers.

Their research, published in the journal Environmental Science and Technology, shows that 10 river systems, located in heavily populated regions where littering is common, carry more than 90% of the plastic that ends up in the oceans. Two are in Africa (the Nile and the Niger) while the other eight are in Asia (the Ganges, Indus, Yellow, Yangtze, Haihe, Pearl, Mekong and Amur).

Cutting this pollution by even 25% will do far more than stopping every single instance of littering in developed countries.

We need to focus where the problem is located. And it is not redditors in first world countries throwing plastic in their bins. It is from countries where people literally throw trash on the streets, because they have no real organized waste management.

LPT: Put your hobbies in your resume, often your hobbies represent what kind of a person you are and that's what employer's are looking for by blokkiesam in LifeProTips

[–]LEGEN_WAlTFORIT_DARY 35 points36 points  (0 children)

So you’re saying I should tell my employer that I spend my free time masturbating furiously in the corner of the shower, tears flowing down my face?

Edit: Wow! My first reddit gold! Thanks so much! Maybe my dad will finally start talking to me again...

LPT: For each LastPass site, paste a copy of the password in the notes. If you accidentally click the "Update" password option, you still have the original. by bboyjkang in LifeProTips

[–]ajford 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Last pass has the option to view your password history for a site. It's right next to the password field, looks like a clock.

They store the last 5 versions for a site. Check out there faq for more: https://lastpass.com/support.php?cmd=showfaq&id=1643

LPT: millennials, when you’re explaining how broke you are to your parents/grandparents, use an inflation calculator. Ask them what year they started working, and then tell them what you make in dollars from back then. It will help them put your situation in perspective. by campacavallo in LifeProTips

[–]Yare_Owns 2079 points2080 points  (0 children)

Nah, measure everything in "hours worked at minimum wage". No adjustment needed.

1938 Harvard tuition (1 year): 1680 hours

1938 house: 15600 hours

2018 Harvard tuition: 6400 hours

2018 house: 28400 hours

For reference, there are only 2080 work hours in a calendar year.

LPT: When you get an increase in pay DO NOT increase your standard of living! by beezuzzles in LifeProTips

[–]xua 10.2k points10.2k points  (0 children)

Note: tip only applies if you have a standard of living that already meets your needs

LPT: The first time you give someone flowers, do it randomly. Don't wait for a special occasion. by __Odelay__ in LifeProTips

[–]duhbiap 1217 points1218 points  (0 children)

I bring my two boys with me to pick the flowers. Makes my wife happy and sends my little guys a good message.

Edit: thanks, you guys made me blush. I’m a lucky guy...no doubt.

Edit two: thank you for the Gold! In return, I will take my 4 yo. Out to get flowers for his mommy.

OP - thank you for the reminder!

LPT: Put frozen berries in your oatmeal as soon as it's done cooking by alexkates in LifeProTips

[–]phenomenomnom 1469 points1470 points  (0 children)

I made this, but instead of bread, I used fake crabmeat and thirteen bouillon cubes, and instead of the toaster thing I employed a reverse sear method. Husband did not enjoy, "too salty," punched the neighbor's budgerigar in the face. Will not be making this again, not up to usual standards of this website. 3/10.

LPT: If you have the unfortunate experience of having to put a pet down, find a vet that will make a house call. Don't let your pet's last moments be somewhere they are afraid of. by uploadking in LifeProTips

[–]maximal2015 194 points195 points  (0 children)

My wife and I lost our 16 year old dog today. We adopted her when she was 10. It’s the best thing we’ve ever done. Today is the hardest day of my life but she was worth it.

LPT: If you have the unfortunate experience of having to put a pet down, find a vet that will make a house call. Don't let your pet's last moments be somewhere they are afraid of. by uploadking in LifeProTips

[–]ciroc__obama 1733 points1734 points x2 (0 children)

Sorry I cannot credit the OP but I have this saved in my phone from when I read it. It helped me through the hard times. Worth the read.

Dogs never die. They don’t know how to. They get tired, and very old, and their bones hurt. Of course they don’t die. If they did they would not want to always go for a walk, even long after their old bones say:” No, no, not a good idea. Let’s not go for a walk.” Nope, dogs always want to go for a walk. They might get one step before their aging tendons collapse them into a heap on the floor, but that’s what dogs are. They walk. It’s not that they dislike your company. On the contrary, a walk with you is all there is. Their boss, and the cacaphonic symphony of odor that the world is. Cat poop, another dog’s mark, a rotting chicken bone ( exultation), and you. That’s what makes their world perfect, and in a perfect world death has no place.

However, dogs get very very sleepy. That’s the thing, you see. They don’t teach you that at the fancy university where they explain about quarks, gluons, and Keynesian economics. They know so much they forget that dogs never die. It’s a shame, really. Dogs have so much to offer and people just talk a lot. When you think your dog has died, it has just fallen asleep in your heart. And by the way, it is wagging it’s tail madly, you see, and that’s why your chest hurts so much and you cry all the time. Who would not cry with a happy dog wagging its tail in their chest. Ouch! Wap wap wap wap wap, that hurts. But they only wag when they wake up. That’s when they say: “Thanks Boss! Thanks for a warm place to sleep and always next to your heart, the best place.”

When they first fall asleep, they wake up all the time, and that’s why, of course, you cry all the time. Wap, wap, wap. After a while they sleep more. (remember, a dog while is not a human while. You take your dog for walk, it’s a day full of adventure in an hour. Then you come home and it’s a week, well one of your days, but a week, really, before the dog gets another walk. No WONDER they love walks.

Anyway, like I was saying, they fall asleep in your heart, and when they wake up, they wag their tail. After a few dog years, they sleep for longer naps, and you would too. They were a GOOD DOG all their life, and you both know it. It gets tiring being a good dog all the time, particularly when you get old and your bones hurt and you fall on your face and don’t want to go outside to pee when it is raining but do anyway, because you are a good dog. So understand, after they have been sleeping in your heart, they will sleep longer and longer. But don’t get fooled.

They are not “dead.” There’s no such thing, really. They are sleeping in your heart, and they will wake up, usually when you’re not expecting it. It’s just who they are. I feel sorry for people who don’t have dogs sleeping in their heart. You've missed so much.

Edit: Formatting so not wall of text. Just remember, all puppers are the best puppers. Go love yours.