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I am wondering if there are any type of housing grants or options for people who are on disability?
Options where she wouldn't have to be relocated (I'd like for her to stay on the property we own, it's very important to her)

My mother has been on disability for 10+ years due to an injury she sustained while working that can not be fixed (there have been many attempts) and in February she was diagnosed with Leukemia (Chronic Myeloid Leukemia).
I am now currently living with her to help take care of her. I recently had to quit the job at the Assisted Living facility I was working at for the last few years due to being unable to work the 6 day 12-16 hour shift weeks while simultaneously trying to help take care of her. I found a new job working double shifts on the weekends so I can be home during the week to assist her with her daily needs, and appointments.

The house my mother lives in belonged to her Grandparents, it's incredibly old and in rough...(really rough) conditions. (faulty wiring, bad plumbing, roof falling apart)
The combination of my moms chemo treatment and it being so hot and humid outside she gets sick really easily (shes sick most days) I bought her a small air conditioning unit; however, unfortunately our house is so old that when we plugged it in..it caused a small electrical fire (thankfully very small)
My mom feels really helpless in her position.
I looked into Habitat for Humanity but we don't qualify because we don't make enough money.

In the long run my dream would be to be able to tear down the house we live in and build her a new home.
I know that I don't make enough money to do that, so I was wondering if there are other options out there?

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this.

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Wife's father is a veteran and returned to the Phillipines 10 years ago after serving during Vietnam. We live in southern California and my wife hasn't seen him since. We just learned from his wife over there that he's in the end stages of congestive heart failure now and possibly only has a few weeks left. He's in poor health so definitely not a transplant candidate.

He was the only parent that ever really cared about her, and she's missed him terribly the whole time but never was in a position to be able to go see him. Nor could he afford the travel. So she desperately wants to see him one more time, and wants him to meet me.

We are not in the best position financially though... We're working on getting expedited passports but we just got married and our financial situation is tight, and we would be looking at around $2,000+ in airfare costs and I'm not sure if we could even manage a fraction of that right now.

Is there anything you know of that we could possibly do to try and make this work on a week or two's notice?

Any advice is greatly appreciated, and thank you so much for taking the time to read this

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Hi,

I don´t want to make this too long and too personal, but I met someone a while ago. Long story short, she is a very kind person, but was bullied, her ex treated her shit, she was sexually assaulted (bj without her consent) and the family is basically a piece of trash and not supportive at all. Due to her experiences and the lack of support from her surrounding, the person got into serious depression. On top of that her family members occasionally invites her rapist to her home, which results in her anxiety triggering to the point that she thinks about stabbing herself.

She thinks of moving out to a dorm (she goes to a uni) and I would like to help her. However I live in a different country (in Europe), while she lives in south-east-asia.

Both of us are students with limited money. What could I do? Where could I get help for her? Does anyone have ideas? What should and could I do?

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i have nothing, all i know is she is/was in marmaris on the 21st/07/2018 and was on a jeep ride. honestly dont really see anyone doing this see it as a challenge and just send a link to photo and i can see if its her, thanks in advance for anyone trying and have a good day.

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I recently moved back to Somerville, Mass but have been struggling to keep up with paying rent and other bills while still searching for a job, and I’m struggling for food a bit.

I’ve got an amazon fresh wishlist, but honestly even a pizza/food order would get me through tonight and tomorrow.

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Hi Reddit, I'm a 16 year old guy, and my mom passed away about 2 weeks ago. I want to get a tattoo in her memory. My father was a drunk and left our family when I was 10, and she raised me and my older sister by herself, all while going back to school to become a teacher like she always wanted to be. It would mean a lot if there are some Tattoo Artists out there who could draw me something amazing I could get in her memory. I would get it on my forearm since it's my first tattoo. If anyone could help I would be so grateful.

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I made this in Photoshop and worked on it for literally around 3 hours today, because I want to put it on a shirt for my brother for his upcoming birthday since it's his favorite band. However, when I preview the pic, the quality is complete horse shit. I'm using RedBubble and the suggested print size for their t-shirts are 2875x3900 pixels. When I make the image bigger, the quality just get's worse. I've been at this for hours and it's frustrating the hell out of me. Just make it a middle to large size with good to great quality and I will be very happy.

Link for the image: https://i.imgur.com/YiA8UHY.jpg

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Payday was today and I am on a bi-weekly paychecks. I have already purchased what I could afford in Uber credits, but I know for a fact that it will only help for about four days if there are no specials running.

I am scheduled to work for the 6 days of the next seven and I desperately cannot afford to lose this job, if anyone is willing or able to assist, I can provide you with my information in order to purchase an uber giftcard for me, or I can give you my paypal information and do it myself. Whatever works.

Edit - I should only need about $35.

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Hello, and thank you for taking the time to read this.

As the title says, my Dad's in a bind due to back rent owed. We both, in fact, owe money to the same landlord, but I'm able to do work in the meantime to knock some off of what I owe. My Dad, on the other hand, is too ill to do this and can barely make ends meet on the money he gets on disability. The stress from this, on top of the various problems physically and mentally he's having, has caused him to seek therapy due to considering suicide as a way out. He's sought help from various agencies, but so far all have had the same answer of getting an eviction notice before they can help out. Now the landlord has written a nonpayment of rent due in 7 days.

I've been on here before asking for help. Although no help has come, things have worked out each time. This time, with my Dad's admission of thinking of suicide, I'm very scared and asking anyone to please, please help. Any money would be helpful, but the amount in the title would greatly relieve the pressure from all this until he can get some sources of income that he's been working on. We're nearly through the process for me to be named his caretaker, taking so long due to issues with change of doctors and paperwork lost, which would provide extra income that I can put towards what he owes. However, I'm more concerned with taking the pressure off him now than eventually.

Thank you again for taking the time to read this. I hope you have a wonderful day.

EDIT: As of today, the landlord has decided to go through with evicting my father. I am more than just asking now, I'm begging, please help him. I don't know what to do, and being homeless in the state he's in would kill him. Please, anything at all would help. I don't want to lose him.

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I need someone to order me dominos havent eaten for a couple of days. Im not asking for money just a pizza to help me get to the end of the week!

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Hey guys, so I have a very British grandmother who is currently living by herself (her last corgi and husband recently passed away) and has been telling me how lonely she is. Her nursing home allows pets and so our family thought it would be good to get her an older corgi to keep her company. It would also be preferable if it was a very old dog, as she has cancer and may not have long to live. If any of you guys know a breeder or an adoption center I can contact, that would be great.

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Recently the idea of death has taken over me. To preface this; I’m a 15 year old male going into sophomore year. Obviously I had always known everyone is going to die and that includes me, but I had never realized ~that includes me~. The thought of death frightens me. Like what happens once I die? What will I experience? What will I see? What truly happens? It’s so scary to me and I just want to relax again. I want to forget the thought had ever came into my mind. It was so much easier before

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I'm 35 and divorced out of an emotionally abusive marriage that ruined my self confidence about a year ago. I think I'm moderately successful. I own a home and a car. But I have virtually no friends and have had 0 luck attracting anyone as a dating interest. My family uses me, and doesn't worry about my well being or goals. Even just typing this out makes me feel pathetic. I was diagnosed with PTSD and anxiety with depression from a military doctor a few years back, and I take medications. I've struggled to make an appointment to get my medications adjusted because I have started to think it's not worth it. I worry I will die alone and unappreciated.

My coworkers don't know this and I'm one of the more productive team members. I learned to switch it all off and become a robot during the work day as much as possible. But even with them I don't feel like they care about me, just the work I do and how I can help them. How do I get back on track before I just bottom out?

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Hey!
First of all, english is my second language so, sorry for my mistakes :-).
I will start at how i was feeling before and then what makes me need help.

When i started 2nd year of high school i was pretty much a succesfull 17y.o. guy, atleast for my standards... i was a gym junkie and actually pretty buff (i was really skinny before so ppl noticed and said so), great caring family, had a girlfriend and a bunch of great friends, also had really good marks at school, bunch of hobbies learning programming and hitting the gym as well as other sports, reading books, spending time w family and whatnot.
(I dont want this to be taken as braging, i was pretty shi*ty person before all of this so im kinda proud, but i dont want anybody to feel like i want to put someone down or brag :-)
I was like this way before high school, but around this time it all changed.

Around the mid of 2nd year of high school i started to be a totally different person, just like that for no reason,
i started smoking;
purposely started fights with my gf to the point she given up being w me;
stoped going to the gym;
started to eat less, but drink (alco) way more;
told myself i dont need all my friends and so i started to come up with some excuses not to meet them like "having no time cus of work" etc.;
actually have no time because i didnt wanted to do my work and started to procrastinate;
abandoned all my hobbies, so now i feel ashamed whenever i go around the gym i used to go to bcs now im even skinnier than before;
started getting bad marks at school and couldnt care less;
it eventually got to the point where i started to self harm myself not just physically but also mentally (telling myself how bad i am every day);
also lost my programming internship at a well respected company;
started to hate my family for caring of me, i dont talk to them anymore.

All i do today is a shitty part time job that i hate, drink booze with fake friends at weekends and just overall wasting my life.

Pretty fast downhill ride id say.

Long story short, i just came from bottom to top and then even lower than i was before.
Now, what i need an advice for is.. since i got no friends... what should i do that could help me get my shit together, or at least to give me enough motivation to start doing so?

(and no, go talk to my parents/friends is not really an option here, i need something that i alone could do because i dont like attention and bothering other people w my problems)

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I am from one of those traditional south European families where people are veryyy attached to their ''pride'' and kids will always be kids. This mentality is kind of keeping me from being 100% honest to a relative of mine which in going through some financial tough times. I'm her niece, and to her eyes, just a kid, but I do have some considerable amount of money sitting in my bank account. I don't even need that money, so, why not help her, as she has given me waaaaaaay more than a couple hundred pounds could possible pay back.

I'm living in a different country, so a proper sit down to have a mature conversation is out of question. Plus, as soon as she finds out my intentions her reaction will be to reject any kind of help. Other people in my family can even be ''offended'' that me, a young kid (24) is offering to help a grown and fully functioning person.

I don't know if my explanation about this type of mentality is clear enough, but my point is, I want to help without being too obvious that I'm helping. I thought of just sending some money to her bank account without giving my name (so she couldn't return it) but I am not sure is that would be possible.

Any ideas on how to handle this?

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I'm a 29 year old man with nothing to show for it. I have no skills, precious little job experience, I can't drive, I"m out of shape and get winded easily. I'm horribly depressed and feel suicidal sometimes. My body has adapted to my medication AGAIN. I'm thinking about cancelling my therapy services because it's been almost a decade with every ounce of progress I've ever made destroyed shortly afterward.

I dropped out of college because my financial aid fell through after I failed algebra for the third time. I can't get a grant or scholarship ever again, and my luck is terrible so even if I take out loans and somehow graduate from college with a degree of some sort, my chances of getting a well-paying job are so slim as to be nonexistent, meaning I'll have even MORE debt hanging over my head than I do already. I also think I have some kind of undiagnosed learning disability, but getting that tested and verified costs money that I don't have.

I've been in the hospital twice for my mental health this year, but both times I've come out feeling like there was less of me than before. I've now got about $5000 in medical debt that I'll never be able to pay back.

About four, almost five years ago, I lost the love of my life when she broke off our engagement. I've spoken to her only a few times since, but I'm cut off from her entirely and can't speak with her anymore. I'll likely never see her or hear from her again. What's more, she's moved on. I've tried to move on, but I simply can't. Twelve years of my life that I'll never get back, that have all amounted to nothing. And yes, it was my fault because I couldn't be the grownup that she needed me to be. There were also some religious differences that her family couldn't get past (I'm an atheist), but that was only a minor reason for the breakup.

I'm extremely lonely. Every ounce of my motivation hung on the possibility of a future with my ex-fiance. It recently sunk in that I'll not only never get her back, but also that I'll likely never see or hear from her again. As a result, all motivation I had to get a life of my own, to become my own man, has vanished. Even if I COULD do it, and I don't believe for a second that I can without a LOT of help, what is the point if I can't share it with her? I can't get past this. I can't move on. I don't understand how anyone CAN. I know that other people can and have moved on from similar situations, but I just don't understand HOW they did it.

I need advice, but I've heard so much already that I doubt I'll hear anything new. "Get a job, even a crappy one." "Get some exercise." "Go out and meet people." "Continue with your therapy." "Go back to the hospital, and don't worry about the bill." "Go back to school." "Go to a temp agency." "Work on yourself and you'll meet someone someday." And on, and on, and on. Believe me, I've tried, and none of it works. At this point, I feel like Humpty Dumpty, and nobody can put me back together.

I'm exhausted from all of this. I've tried and I've tried, but I've either failed or had my efforts ruined by circumstance or other people. Whenever a glimmer of hope is presented to me, I pursue it, only to have it snuffed out right in front of me.

And the pressure my mere existence puts on my family! My food stamps have been cut off because I don't have a job. Once I'm out of money and food, my family will have to feed me because I can't get a job.

Someone tell me something I haven't heard before. Something that might actually help me. I can't do this myself, but everyone tells me that I have to. I'm so tired. I just want to rest, to go to sleep and never wake up, because life has been hard and cruel to me, and I'm just dead weight to everyone.

Can anyone help me at all?

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Need 105 for phone bill so it doesnt get cut off, i started a new job and stupidly meesed up on understanding my new pay schedule(i thought i would be receiving the week of work i did last week but that goes to next check)

I am willing to do a short term loan where i will pay back 45 every two weeks for 3 weeks on my pay days.

Can provide last check from new job to show i am working, can provide phone bill with due date to show its not a lie.

Please any help would be massively appreciated, if you have any questions or concerns feel free to ask.

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Hi Guys,

A couple of days ago, I posted about how a couple of overdraft fees torpedoed my monthly budget and left me short of funds to pay the light bill. A Redditor was kind enough to gift me $50 and I was able to get the power back on that day.

This post is about a different issue and it's updated because I'm trying to help myself instead of just asking for direct financial help.

I'm a single mom living in a city that has a housing crisis. Most people in Miami can barely afford rent. It's a given that I struggle and most of the time, between work and my side hustle of selling art online, I manage to scrape by. I have 5 rescued cats that I freaking adore and some of the funds from my selling my tiny cat art on eBay goes toward making sure they eat.

This month, I had my worst sales month ever because I decided to stop losing money on auctions and charge $3 or $5 for my paintings so that I can be fairly paid for my time. I don't want to exploit myself anymore and give away my art to bargain hunters. The problem is, now that it's $4, no one is buying ,so the side income I had for cat food , groceries ,internet bill, etc., is gone. I decided to stand up for myself and charge a little more for art that I work hard on, and my audience said "Nope, $4 is too much for hand painted art. Smell ya later."

Don't they understand that when they score an awesome bargain, the artist loses? It's scary to be late on bills and low on food because my side income is gone. Literally, the best way that someone could help me, my daughter and our cats is to pick up one of my tiny cat paintings. Not only does it help us financially, but it lets me send you something tangible and you're protected by the eBay and Paypal buyer protection system.

My eBay seller name is brideofhyde

Thank you for reading all this and have a blessed day.

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Crossposted by18 days ago

I'm writing this post on behalf of my boyfriend. I'm not sure where to begin with this because I've always prided myself on being able to provide for myself and people I love and I've never -ever- borrowed money/anything from anyone prior. But for someone I love I'm willing to swallow my pride, so to speak.

I need a bus ticket for my boyfriend to get down to where I am. He got himself into a predicament and will soon find himself homeless. The only way to try and stave that off is if he comes down here to Connecticut. I've tried to prepare for that and have some saved up, but I thought we would have more time.

Our plan was to get a ticket for August, and if bought right now it would cost around 100 dollars. I could swing that. That's no problem. But now, his housing situation is super unstable and he may need a ticket for tomorrow or this week. The ticket doubles in price without advanced purchasing. I'm disabled and live on a fixed income, and he's had such a rough time between not having transportation to not having a home to tooth infections that he can't get his foot in the door. We're trying to hold off on it, but we're running out of time.

I can try earnestly to pay whoever can help us back. I live on a fixed income but I will pay monthly. And when he gets here he is fully capable of working. He just needs a chance. No one has ever given him a chance to succeed. This is his fresh start and it would mean the world to him, and to me.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this.

Edit: It's obvious from the feedback I've gotten that I won't be receiving help, and that's completely fine. I'm going to try and follow up on some suggestions given about landlord tenant rights or such. I've also hopefully been able to extend his time where he. Hopefully. I'll find out soonish. Either way I don't want to be a burden on people here, as it seems I've made myself to be.

I've never asked for help from anyone. So, this down-vote stuff really kicked my butt in gear and got me more motivated/creative about how to get the money/prolong his time/do anything to get him here. :D I'm sorry for any trouble I've caused.

Thank you all that responded and such to my post. :D Post fulfilled.

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So it was send to a number 381650 and the text doesnt seem random it said DCB:Y3890K46QG1SE3R8S92CPEE9QBSUBL33J. I don't think i could have send the message on accident. I don't understand what program could send i message without my permission. Please help i feel a bit scared cuz it gives me vibes that someone could have control over my phone or something, i really have no idea what to think of this..

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