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Bannon Is Subpoenaed in Mueller’s Russia Investigation by matt123macdoug in news

[–]overcomebyfumes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Steve Bannon Harkonnen

EDIT: Thanks for the gold, human scum!

Chrissy Teigen Boldly Offers to Pay Olympic Gymnast McKayla Maroney's 100k Fine If She Speaks at Larry Nasser Hearing by joshabrown00 in news

[–]kh9hexagon 23 points24 points  (0 children)

We don’t need capital punishment. Lock him in a box forever and let him suffer but killing people is just revenge.

13 victims, ages 2 to 29, kept shackled in foul CA home by parents, officials say by Digital517 in news

[–]Circumlocutive 140 points141 points  (0 children)

Just plugging in a much less severe personal anecdote, but 1 out of my 3 childhood suicide attempts was a few months after leaving the abuse situation I was in. Fear keeps you going while you're being abused but it's toxic while trying to be normal and I felt broken beyond repair. My physical signs of depression and ptsd had never been worse. I shook. I slept 16 hours straight at times. I felt nothing or cried uncontrollably. I went from straight A's when I felt my life was threatened to almost failing out of high school because I was sick all the time, sleeping in class, or in the bathroom sobbing silently, curled up and shaking.

People have said I must be so strong but I don't feel stronger because I suffered. I had never felt more broken. My life was so much safer and comfortable after finally getting freedom but I was fragile and wrought with maladaptive behaviors. It took constant effort to get to the point I am now, and years trying drugs that made it worse until I found the right combo.

Things can be better but it takes a long time to heal from long term reocurring trauma

Bannon Is Subpoenaed in Mueller’s Russia Investigation by matt123macdoug in news

[–]Dahhhkness 2242 points2243 points  (0 children)

"Hey Steve, Irish up my coffee?"

"No problem!" grabs nipple and squirts into mug

U.S. Navy veteran's mom denied visa to attend son's funeral in Arkansas by CrustyShackleton in news

[–]Queensideattack 623 points624 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure that had you been killed and received that Purple hear posthumously, your mother would have wanted to be able to attend your funeral. Mine would have. Vietnam vet here.

One of the reasons we leave no one behind is that we do it for our mothers. Thanks for your service.

A Starbucks is coming to Yosemite National Park, but thousands want to stop it by AmokOfProgress in news

[–]TacticalStudiesRules 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Mostly homogenization of the nation.

Also, I really don't want national parks to be advertising meccas.

Specifically to this issue. I also don't want them in schools.

In general, They are fine as long as they don't abuse their position.

Bannon Is Subpoenaed in Mueller’s Russia Investigation by matt123macdoug in news

[–]afburnham 2175 points2176 points  (0 children)

oh my god, i wouldn't have noticed him in the newest star wars had you not said this

Bannon Is Subpoenaed in Mueller’s Russia Investigation by matt123macdoug in news

[–]boomshakanaka 9098 points9099 points  (0 children)

"I'm not Steve Bannon, I'm not trying to sub my own poena here."

Bannon Is Subpoenaed in Mueller’s Russia Investigation by matt123macdoug in news

[–]ArticArny 16.6k points16.6k points  (0 children)

The hardest job in Washington DC these days must be that of a transit driver. You're just trying to do your job and all day long people are being thrown under your bus.

Woman found guilty of killing daughter by shoving crucifix down her throat by YourCookingIsBad in news

[–]Azozel 636 points637 points  (0 children)

She literally shoved her religion down her daughter's throat...

Bannon Is Subpoenaed in Mueller’s Russia Investigation by matt123macdoug in news

[–]SillyFlyGuy 15.7k points15.7k points  (0 children)

The best description of him I heard was "he looks like he just woke up on a park bench after losing custody of his kids".

Japan broadcaster sends false North Korea missile alert by guyi567 in news

[–]Karamaar 6531 points6532 points  (0 children)

Guess the Japanese government is doing some out-of-the-box thinking to solve that low birth rate.

Japan broadcaster sends false North Korea missile alert by guyi567 in news

[–]Swedish_Pirate 314 points315 points  (0 children)

Chrome has a feature to stop this (in beta) . It's called "scroll anchoring", enable it by going to chrome://flags/#enable-scroll-anchoring

Japan broadcaster sends false North Korea missile alert by guyi567 in news

[–]CherrEbear 9987 points9988 points  (0 children)

This is like that scene in Princess Diaries when Anne Hathaway keeps fucking up at that fancy dinner and the two people next to her do the same thing so she won't seem quite as inept.

Woman found guilty of killing daughter by shoving crucifix down her throat by YourCookingIsBad in news

[–]Chef_Fats 82 points83 points  (0 children)

If you thought your kid was possessed it’s you that needs professional help.

13 victims, ages 2 to 29, kept shackled in foul CA home by parents, officials say by Digital517 in news

[–]Katiebyrd93 5137 points5138 points  (0 children)

I work for CPS and I can say this is the language we use. "No reasonable explaination" is used pretty often in our investigations.

Edit: Since this post has over 500 upvotes, I'm going to throw out when to report abuse.

DO NOT wait until you believe you have evidence of abuse. That is OUR job, and, very unfortunately, I probably won't be able to use your evidence anyway.

Call your state's child abuse hotline when you notice any bruising on a child that looks suspicious. Bruises that are linear, hand shaped, or on the fleshy parts of a child (i.e. their forearms, stomach, thighs, neck, or their cheeks. Bruises on boney areas are generally caused by bumps).

Call us if a child has constant lice or bug bites.

Call us if a child relates there is no food in the home.

Call us if a child is acting out sexually.

Call us if a child relates that they are homeless.

Call us if a child relates their parents hit them on the head, with a fist, or choke them.

Call us if you have reason to believe there is domestic violence or drug use in the home.

Call us if a child states they feel unsafe in their home.

If you wait until you can provide me evidence, it may lead a child to be in an unsafe situation. The above list does not include every reason you should call Child Services. If you ever find yourself questioning if a child is unsafe, it's our job to find out. If you feel as though a child's life is immediate danger, always call the police and they will contact us.

Our goal is not to break up families, or anything like that. It's to provide families with every service available in order to succeed. You can report anonymously.

https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/

Edit: I've tried to answer as many questions as possible, but I'm tired now.

Thank you to everyone who said kind words to me. I love my job and this thread has given me the energy to push on!

To those asking me if they should report something, think about it. If you're concerned enough to ask an internet stranger whether or not you should call it in, go ahead and call it in. Hotline workers will take the report and it's their job to decide if it meets criteria for investigation. So any concerns, call it in.

I'll also note that someone brought up a real concern for those that are empoverished and how I might be recommending you report them. I am, specifically for the fact that we don't blame or punish people for being poor. We offer services to help them. This would be treating the home for bugs, expediting a food stamps application, providing clothing for children, buying bus passes, or even paying a one time utility bill. It's our job to ensure children and families have every service available to them at their disposal. But if you wait until you think it's bad enough, there's probably other stuff already going on at home we could have helped with.

To the people who are sending me unkind words, I hope that whatever has hurt you in the past will heal and that one day you'll learn that hurting others around you isn't going to make you feel better. I believe in the purpose of my agency and I believe we do good. You saying hurtful things isn't going to change that.

Aziz Ansari Responds to Sexual Misconduct Allegation by GotAGripCameEquipped in news

[–]lorddimwit 1416 points1417 points  (0 children)

My wife gave me a BJ alarm clock. I was asleep at the beginning and thus could not consent. Was that sexual assault?

I was busy at work (I work from home) and kept telling my wife I was really busy. After three or four times she starts kissing my neck and giving me a handjob at my desk and we end up going at it. Was that sexual assault?

I say I had a really stressful day at work. I ask for a blow job. My wife says she's not in the mood. I say "please, I had a bad day." She says "okay fine" and we go at it. Her consent was not enthusiastic. Was that rape?

My wife and I got drunk on vacation. When we got back to the hotel room, I kinda laid there trying not to barf and she did all the work. I certainly wasn't into it; I was mostly concerned with not vomiting. Was I raped?

Back when my wife was still just my girlfriend she got a neurological condition that prevented her from working (nerve issue in her arms; no cognitive impairment). I loved her (and still do, ten years later) so I supported her when she quit her job. She lived with me, had no income, paid for nothing, we had no kids, and her condition prevented her from doing most housework. We were not married, yet I was her sole means of support in essentially every way. By most estimates, for those months she was recovering I had most of the "power" in the relationship, including being technically her landlord since I had bought the house as a single man. Was every time we had sex in those months rape because of the power imbalance?

With the Aziz Ansari thing, I don't know if he's guilty, not because these things didn't happen but because to two different people what constitutes an "obvious cue" may mean two different things. I know that when she explicitly said she wanted to stop, he did, and when she said she was uncomfortable he apologized, and at no point did they actually have sex. (And some could argue that going to someone's apartment after a dinner date is an "obvious cue" that you're interested in perhaps having sex.)

We have her saying in one article that she said she wanted to slow down, that she was uncomfortable, etc, but she also said that she consensually did other things (gave and received oral sex, etc). It's unfair to put the onus on someone else to understand exactly what you mean when you don't say it explicitly. If I say I'm "uncomfortable" with something, and you stop doing it but do something else and I don't object, it's not unreasonable for the other person to assume that what they're now doing is okay.

People say dirty stuff when they make out, even if they're not actually going to have sex. She said she felt pressured, but she's an adult. She can say what she means. Aziz Ansari is 5'6" and 140lbs; he's not going to murder you. In every other field of human endeavour if you don't say no it is not up to the other person to determine if you silently meant it.

Aziz Ansari took a woman out to dinner, she voluntarily went back to his place, they voluntarily made out, then he tried to initiate sex with her but never did, backed off when she said she wanted to take it slower (not to stop, just to take it slower) and stopped immediately when she said she wanted to....and now his career is likely over and he's being called a scumbag and a monster.

Given the definition of "consent" that seems to be evolving (it must be "enthusiastic", it can be withdrawn with no obvious indication, etc) we are making criminals of literally every adult man and woman in this country.

And no, I'm not "victim blaming". I am not a "rape apologist". Harvey Weinstein is a monster. Kevin Spacey is a monster. Roman Polanski is a monster. There are a million monsters whose names we'll never know who have ruined lives.

Not everyone who misunderstands a social cue is a monster.

I'm as lefty/progressive as they come (look at my comment history if you don't believe me), but some of us on the left are turning almost Puritanical with regards to sex. If this were the only way to stop the epidemic of rape and sexual assault in this country then so be it, but I don't believe it's the only way, and dragging innocent people down because of it is just going to damage the movement. (And yes, for every example like this, there are a dozen more when an actual rapist did get off scot free, which is a tragedy and a miscarriage of justice.)

There is a sexual assault problem in this country. The #MeToo movement needed to happen and I'm glad it is. There are monstrous men (and a much smaller number of monstrous women). For too long people have abused their power, have taken advantage of their position, and so on. I just don't think, in this particular case, Ansari was one of them.

Aziz Ansari Responds to Sexual Misconduct Allegation by GotAGripCameEquipped in news

[–]reuterrat 103 points104 points  (0 children)

At no point was the option to say no ever not on the table. She was free to leave or stop at any time. He was neither her superior nor did he hold anything against her when she said no.

Naked 'slave' bound in shed and told to eat dog food by Disciple_of_D-Sparil in news

[–]id7e 25 points26 points  (0 children)

What isn't talked about here: dogs are forced to eat terrible food too

Mae the pet raccoon confiscated from family after seven years to be a state “educational animal.” by libertine__lass in news

[–]kristimartin_com 226 points227 points  (0 children)

I cried when I first heard about this case and then I cried again yesterday when I heard the verdict from their initial court date. So I started a petition, if you think this is as horrible as I do please sign & share it:

https://www.change.org/p/washington-department-of-fish-and-wildlife-send-mae-the-raccoon-home-to-her-family

Emergency alert about ballistic missile sent to Hawaii residents; EMA says ‘no threat’ by Retrrad in news

[–]TodayKindOfSucks 1621 points1622 points  (0 children)

Crush: TIFU by trying to make my friend who’s been obsessed with me feel better before we were probably going to die.

Emergency alert about ballistic missile sent to Hawaii residents; EMA says ‘no threat’ by Retrrad in news

[–]tentguy 1014 points1015 points  (0 children)

No, they said it was a false alarm. No smoking Hawaiians today.

EDIT: Thanks for the gold, kind stranger!