Hi. Socially adjusted here. Where I was, homeschooling could be done "well". We had grants, a twice yearly facilitator come in who did the same tests the school kids had to take and made sure we were on track, and my mom put all of us in at least one extracurricular activity with school kids. We had an approved list of courses we could take, and now my younger siblings are doing an online based course.
We lived in a small town and the school there was shitty. I was told that even though I could read at kindergarten age, I had to learn my letters. So Mom kept me at my level, which was smarter than the school kids. I feel like I am what homeschooling works for: the too smart kid who'd have been bullied for being too keen. I would disappear with one of my subjects and do the entire thing in two months without prompting for everything but maths. I finished several grade 12 subjects early, leaving me to work on what I struggled with, with plenty of time to study what I wanted to do in the future online. I wrote novels, made quilts, learned to cook and manage a household. It was the total opposite of slacking. I consumed my schooling with gusto, far faster than I could have in actual school, and by the time my school friends were graduated I had a job and comprehensive life skills.
We were asked every year if we wanted to go to public school. We had choice.
My life wasn't perfect. Far from. But I'm glad I got to do my education at my pace. The key to why it worked? I didn't need encouragement to do my school. I had piano, swimming with school kids, youth group, friends from homeschooled families, friends who were old, young, real school friends, etc. I got out as much as I could. Teaching was my mom's full time job and I left home armed with everything I needed to know to be a mom.
Never had kids, turned out gay, and now I'm living in an owned house in the city with a part time job as a graphic designer and I am self employed with a specialized niche portfolio. I'm not super successful, but everyone in real life who I mention the home education to is surprised.
Not every case goes badly. That said, I do think it is not for everyone, and if the kids aren't well adjusted they definitely need to get out more. I think I got shoved into more socialization than public school kids, since I grew up able to comfortably interact with people not in my age bracket. That was something I realized when I left home, that I had no age connection issues. Helped out when I was doing door to door sales. Which also helped really polish my socialization. Get them shy kids to work!
You could never tell now.
I don't think it's right to try shelter your kids via homeschooling. Use that space to get them education that's not in schools or don't do it.
This makes sense, never thought about how intelligence could be a reason for homeschooling. It seems like you overcame the socially awkward part the same way the “one exception” kid that I mentioned in my post did. His parents made sure to put him in a LOT of extra curricular activities. Thank you for providing more insight.