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Eat_Around_the_Rosie commented on a post in r/relationships
IsabellaGalavant 74 points

1) make sure you wear a condom every time you have sex for the best chance of avoiding her "accidentally" getting pregnant.

2) Sit her down and let her know, in no uncertain terms, that you do not want children, at all, and that is not likely to change, and explain why that is the case. DO NOT say "maybe I'll change my mind later" because that would just give her false hope. You don't sound like a fence-sitter to me, you sound like a solid No.

3) Ask her why she seems to he changing her mind about this issue you've previously agreed on. Does she just feel differently? Is she being pressured by friends/family? Has she always actually felt this way but hoped you would change your mind?

4) Figure out if you can come to a complete agreement as to whether you will or will not have a child. There is no compromise here - you either have a child or you do not. And "just having one" IS NOT a compromise because that's still having a child.

5) If you cannot come to an agreement that makes you both happy and is a permanent decision, you have to break up.

Eat_Around_the_Rosie 4 points

And #1, make sure there are no needle holes in the condom package. It happened before to people.

Eat_Around_the_Rosie commented on a post in r/relationships
friendlily 352 points

This is how I see this playing out:

Your "friend" hooked up (maybe) with a guy who didn't want to keep seeing her.

Later you're both talking about how hot he is or whatever, and she tells you to go for him because she thinks you won't be able to get him. And probably wants to see you get shot down, because it will boost her insecure ego.

You and hot guy finally start talking. She changes her story to, "how dare you go for a guy you knew I liked. What a bad friend you are. I guess I could get over it for you, because I'm a good friend. I'm better than you, etc." She's doing this, so you'll back off and not have a chance. And then she can continue her internal narrative that at least you're both not good enough to get with him, not just her.

She's not your true friend.

Eat_Around_the_Rosie 14 points

OP. Read this. That’s pretty much what your friend is doing.

Eat_Around_the_Rosie commented on a post in r/HongKong
AntonChicago 10 points

I’m working at Suitsupply in Central! I’ve been with the company for two and a half years in Chicago. I’m also a professional photographer working on a travel piece for an American print magazine called Art + Design and sometimes I model. But way before that I served in the U.S. Army infantry and did a combat tour to Iraq as part of the surge. 👍

Eat_Around_the_Rosie 1 point

Well hello former Chicagoan! Lol

You will enjoy HK! Lived there for 10 years when I was little and went to school there. I definitely miss those days ☺️

And Chicago is still snowing today 😭😭

HSspeducator 5 points

I'm sorry! I've been here 2 years and haven't hit homesick yet. I miss family, sure, but not where I'm from. I would rather live in Hong Kong than Illinois.

Eat_Around_the_Rosie 3 points

Former expat living in chitown now, same sentiment 😢

Eat_Around_the_Rosie commented on a post in r/summonerswar
straightboppin 2 points

What's your current ToaN auto/manual team(s)? And what level are your monsters?

To be honest, you should be walking through ToaN with Hathor and Gany in your box. They're both ridiculously strong.

Mav also doesn't need to be 6* for ToaN. Neither do Hathor or Gany. You'll eventually 6-star them both anyway for ToaH, but one of your other monsters might benefit more from being 6-starred now.

Eat_Around_the_Rosie 1 point

I have Baretta Bella Vero Sig Chasun Hwa Spectra all at 6 stars (but runes are ok and i only have them at 12. I know I eventually have to max those 2/4/6 runes out)

I do have Briand Mav sitting at 5* and I just got Sonnet a while ago.

The reason why I was thinking of either Hathor and Gany because they can also help me in GWO. I use Gany with a Bastet Lushen Gany team and Hathor with a Hathor/ single nuke (which all I have is Hwa) / Chasun

So yeah I’m torn lol

straightboppin 1 point

Yeah, you're not really missing any key 6-stars for ToAN. Mav will make it easier, because you can rune him on leftover runes more easily at 6*, but it's not necessary for the time being.

Do either Gany or Hathor have skill-ups already?

If not, I'd do Gany. He amplifies everyone else's effectiveness in ToA, and in my experience is easier to use in both ToA and in PvP. I'd also blast some devilmons on him if available.

Although Hathor is ridiculous, you do need to take other monsters into ToA with her (so you don't immediately just wake everyone up).

Eat_Around_the_Rosie 1 point

Gany that is! Thank you!

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Eat_Around_the_Rosie commented on a post in r/relationships
danharley 74 points

I'm sure this post will get downvoted into hell, but this needs to be said. My dad was bipolar and I went through a horrific childhood dealing with this disease.

I just didn’t want to speak with her, and I was dealing with my own recent diagnosis of bipolar disorder.

This statement is what caught my eye. First, let me give you a little background story.

A common thing my dad did (and many bipolars do) is to find as many people as he could who will agree with him and especially against those who were actually trying to help him. I forgot how many times he made up stories convincing complete strangers that his family is a bunch of deranged assholes trying to lock him up for no reason when he just beat the crap out of my mom, brother and myself because he went off his meds. He even got the cops to believe him over my mom despite already having a track record of 5150's. Mom would have ended in jail a couple times if it wasn't for my brother and I crying.

Glad Reddit wasn't available back then, because life would have been more horrific in dealing with many thousands of complete strangers having no clue what's going with your life other than what you tell them Reddit. That said, I know there's another perspective of your story which you're obviously not discussing.

To have been diagnosed with bipolar usually means you had a series of unexplained psychological episodes. So many that someone around you suggested you get tested for it. More often, bipolars are diagnosed while incarcerated. Perhaps you were lucky and didn't go to jail to find out. Regardless, life as you know it will be significantly different from those who aren't bipolar. For one, you will need to find a way to balance your meds and then stay on them. Going off them could be harmful to you or your son.

If you think you love your son so much that you'll never harm him, I have the scars from my dad to prove that you're probably going to be wrong. He would give his life for me so long as he was on his meds. Off them, he almost killed me more times than I can count.

Food for thought: Most bipolars inherit that disease from their mothers.

About your mom, you better make sure that relationship is super tight because she will likely be the one who will take care of you and/or your son when things get rough with your disease.

I don't expect you to believe me because I've been there and done that with my dad too many times. You would rather have the support of the circle jerks than having someone remind you that you're sick. if at the least, I hope this triggers you to hold onto the relationship you have with your mom and find as much help as you can for your disease because you will need both more and more as you try to raise your son with your condition.

Sincere good luck and my prayers to you and your family.

Eat_Around_the_Rosie 18 points

This. I wish I could upvote this so much and this needs to be heard. There are so many red flags associated with bipolar disorder, that honestly, I am scared for OPs son. There are reasons why she wasn’t able to be in a stable relationship. And even looking at OP’s responses, it’s scary.

People say you will love your own kid no matter what. But what happens if OP’s son doesn’t obey her or go against OP? What will happen then? Will OP’s bipolar disorder trigger and go off the walls? No one knows and no one can guarantee.

We can only hope for the best. But knowing people with this disorder, it’s nothing to be taken lightly.

Eat_Around_the_Rosie commented on a post in r/relationships
AnUdderSide -18 points

Wow this hits me close to home. I had an insecure girlfriend in college, and also a very close girl-friend. My girlfriend gave me an ultimatum to stop seeing girl-friend, and I took it. Resentment happened, and I eventually broke things off. Thankfully girl-friend was understanding. Today girl-friend is my wife.

Moral of the story... Trust him, and don't let your insecurity push you to control him if you don't want to end up like girlfriend.

Eat_Around_the_Rosie 9 points

So... technically you loved your girl-friend all along the way.

Yeah that’s not the story OP wants to hear tho

Eat_Around_the_Rosie commented on a post in r/Instagram
Eat_Around_the_Rosie 2 points

Instagram is down

Basxt 1 point

Huh, let's hope that's the issue then. Do you have problems seeing pictures of yours now?

Eat_Around_the_Rosie 1 point

Some of them, plus I can’t comment or like. Checked with people in my pod, everyone has the same issue, but I think it’s back up again

Eat_Around_the_Rosie commented on a post in r/relationships
theoppositeopinion1 1,164 points

She then said, "I'm not visiting to save you guys money and give you free childcare."

Tell her that maybe it's best she stay at an AirBnB. She's not visiting you just to get a free hotel.

Eat_Around_the_Rosie 53 points

clap clap OP this is the best response!

Also OP, a lot of times when people are negative, they are mostly projecting their own insecurities on other people. Maybe your sister is jealous that you both can afford having a babysitter while you two work, and she wished she could have done the same. Don’t let this negativity get to you.

Eat_Around_the_Rosie commented on a post in r/relationships
Eat_Around_the_Rosie 7 points

This might seem weird, but I’m afraid of dealing with death after losing my father. Ever since then, I can’t imagine losing anyone near me, and because of that, I cherish and love my husband even more. How would you feel if he passed away? Same for him. And when you get that feeling you will miss him and vice versa, take that feeling and act on it. It will come naturally.

Eat_Around_the_Rosie commented on a post in r/relationships
throwmeaway2370 10 points

This is really great advice, thank you. Such a big part of me wants them to see the light but I realize it's futile.

I feel like sometimes i'm being unfair or harsh but when I write it all down and hear advice like this it helps a lot. I have to set these boundaries in order for us to maintain any semblance of a relationship. Thank you!

Eat_Around_the_Rosie 2 points

Also please do yourself a favor, hire a bouncer or have someone ready to kick her out of the wedding. She might go nuts and crash the wedding

Eat_Around_the_Rosie commented on a post in r/relationships
[deleted] 4 points

He could have left if he really didn't want a kid.

Eat_Around_the_Rosie 12 points

Because there’s also the issue of “I don’t want to be the a-hole who leaves my wife and kid because I don’t want another” Granted he should have walked away, I would have done it. The stressful future of taking care more kids weighs more than my pride.

Eat_Around_the_Rosie commented on a post in r/relationships
drebunny 519 points

Holy shit...I don't want to take away from the shittiness of your name being Chameleon, but seriously...


That's horrible...

Eat_Around_the_Rosie 1 point

I was betting my money on Lizard (Lizzy for nickname) and maybe Tuna, but Guppy? Lol

Eat_Around_the_Rosie commented on a post in r/mildlyinteresting
topgrinder 9,155 points

I used this service in Hong Kong at the intercontinental hotel. It was awesome. I just used it as a WiFi hotspot everyday and used my iPhone for everything. The phone would last about 10 hours of moderate usage. I would stay at the hotel again just for this feature. It made navigating the city much easier.

Eat_Around_the_Rosie 1 point

Yes! We had that too when we were staying at Hyatt Regency in Hong Kong! It was amazing just being able to google stuff around!

Eat_Around_the_Rosie commented on a post in r/relationships
Eat_Around_the_Rosie 11 points

I'm a daughter, so I'm going to try to think of it in terms of daddy trying to protect his daughter.

You and your boyfriend are NOT married yet. In his eyes, he may sees it as a risk in case you and your boyfriend don't work out, the money is lost. He probably doesn't trust your boyfriend.

As opposed to your younger brother is married, your older brother is buying it for himself. In his mind, it's more secure and not as a risk.

Talk to him, I bet that's the reason why, because that's how I think too. I wouldn't want to give money unless I know it's secure in the family.

Eat_Around_the_Rosie commented on a post in r/relationships
Eat_Around_the_Rosie 137 points

Wait, you’re pregnant? With this guy who doesn’t treat you well? If he already reacts this way because of you throwing up, I can’t imagine how he’s going to react (or possibly freak out) over this.

Do you think he will react well?

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