When he died a month ago and everyone started posting RIP X I thought it was a stupid hashtag just for likes.
This generation of sadboy Xanax using rappers like Lil Xan, Lil Peep, etc was a bit newer for me (I grew up on 50 Cent and old school Eminem).
I assumed XXXTentacion probably sucked, but I had never listened to him.
Well I pulled his shit up on Spotify and started listening. He’s different. He’s weird. He’s a sadboy. But I like his shit.
My wife thinks it’s hilarious and that he’s awful. But I like his shit.
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I'm not someone who typically gives a fuck about Entertainment News etc.. but I really like Cardi B as an artist and I think naming her baby "Kulture" is one of the most stupid names I've heard of from celebrities lately, and if anything it shows a lack of "culture" (whatever that means anyways).
I think (edit:wrongfully assumed) this trend of stupid celebrity baby names started with Kanye West, but I assumed that was just Kanye.
I think Cardi B is a great example of someone who came from nothing and hustled her ass off to get where she got...
I still like her as an artist...
But "Kulture"? Really? Like wtf?
EDIT: I guess she’s not as well known as I thought she was (perhaps this sub has fewer Americans idk)...
She’s an American rap artist at the top of the charts right now, here’s one of her #1 hits https://youtu.be/xTlNMmZKwpA
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TLDR: A well known member of our martial arts community escalated predatory behavior over the years towards my wife. She confronted him, he gaslit her, she told the coach, coach investigated, other women came forward, predator is banned.
Update: I was informed by another coach in the area that the culprit attempted to train at his school. He claimed he wasn’t learning at the original school, but the coach was already warned by myself (I drop in there from time to time)... the coach called me and I gave him the full lowdown. Not sure what will happen but the coach said he does not want that shit in his program.
I thought this would be a good place to post this in support of all women coming forward about being sexually harassed.
My wife and I do Brazilian Jiu Jitsu (BJJ), a grappling martial art involving close contact. We have been doing it for several years and are heavily involved in the BJJ community. We are both "blue belts," the first colored rank in the art, which although low on the totem pole, signifies significant commitment to the art.
An older individual who had been in our program when we started took interest in helping my wife (then girlfriend) get the basics, a pattern he repeated with pretty much every woman who joined the program. My wife is pretty strong and muscular for her size due to weight training, and they sort of developed a joke about how she's "strong like a man."
It started with seemingly innocuous comments about her arms/bicep muscles being strong/developed. My girlfriend thought it was funny and even enjoyed the compliment to a degree. Personally it wasn't my favorite thing but at first it wasn't uncomfortable for her, and it wasn't my place to tell her how to take it (how I felt at the time).
Flash forward a year and the comments got weirder, one of which was "God you're so strong like a man I should check down there to make sure" (I was not aware of this comment), and she noticed various odd "touches" when he showed her moves; a light pat on the butt, a pinch when rolling (rolling is the term for live training with a partner), etc. Because the art involves such close contact, she wrote the touches off as just part of the rolling, and the comments as "Oh thats just how he is". Red flags for me, but it sort of remained a joke to her.
The last straw that made her completely realize he was a predator was 2 weeks ago. He had her in a certain position where his hands were crossed in front of her chest. Rather than clasp his hands together as the position demands, he grabbed her left breast and squeezed hard. She immediately scrambled out of the position. Right after the roll, he said:
"Wow, you are like a man, I grab your chest (he's foreign and speaks improper grammar) and there's nothing there!"
I was not at class that day, she came home and told me. A bunch of us were going to the bar to say goodbye to another teammate who was moving, and the predator would be there. I told her she had to confront him about everything or I would, (I was furious at the time, and I am a mixed martial artist who would have no problem beating the crap out of this guy, so I thought it best that I stay cool and let her do the confronting, I am aware that the law frowns upon retaliatory violence, plus I felt it would empower her more to do it, and since she was the victim that was important, I supported her 100% but did not want it to seem like she needed a man to do this).
She confronted him hard and he could barely look her in the eye. Long story short he told her "you're wrong, I'm a married man, you're like a sister to me, if I wanted to cheat on my wife I would go to a bar (to me a very awful thing to say in of itself)." She replied "well I hope you didn't grope your sister" and "you are the reason women are scared to do martial arts."
She maintained her position and he continued to gaslight her. She told the coach the next day and he was furious, he confronted the predator at the next class, and he continued to deny it.
The coach started investigating, leading several other young women to come forward with similar stories. They even thanked my wife, saying they were too embarrassed/scared to come forward, and told her we need more women like her who will stand up.
Interestingly, the older married women in the program said they never had this experience, which led the coach to realize he picked his victims specifically.
He will now be banned from the studio we train at, and everyone will be made aware why (I hope).
The hardest part was some of our closest friends admitted THEY DIDN'T BELIEVE MY WIFE until the other women came forward.
I posted the story when it happened to the /r/bjj reddit. Most comments were supportive but some were absolutely abhorrent and disgusting (ie "well are her tits small?" "she probably liked it" "you got cucked" etc)
To all women. I urge you to call these fuckers out immediately in any situation, who knows how many women were scared out of our studio on their first class because this guy "showed them the ropes."
I now understand why it's so hard for women to come forward about this crap, if anything it's been a learning experience for myself and my wife.
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Here is a photo of me landing a left kick in my last MMA fight. I really wanna be able to strike like a Thai fighter when I fight (will soon be switching to a well known Muay Thai gym)
Off the bat it looks like my posture sucks and my head position is off, plus my right hand is a little low. I believe this is probably because my flexibility sucks and I need more work. What stretches should I do so that I remain more upright when kicking high and is there anything else I should work on?
I try to time my left kick with his jab... usually 1-1-2-step with head movement-kick
I don’t do a ton of switch left kicks
I wish I had a good video but in the film the ref is in the way when I kick him.
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Before anyone tears me a new one: I fully support legalized weed. I believe the consequences of criminalized marijuana vastly outweigh the consequences I believe will happen. Okay... here I go.
There are plenty of people who can smoke casually, here and there, and not have it affect the course of their life. I was not one of those people... did it ruin my life? No, but I did fail some crucial courses in college that changed my degree from an engineering degree to a social studies degree that in reflection was because I cared more about getting high.. nothing wrong with that, but I didn't end up becoming an engineer. I took a trade job instead of using my degree (again NOTHING wrong with working construction trades but it wrecked my body and ultimately was not what I wanted to do)... I justified smoking weed by pointing out that I had my own place, paid my bills, had a relationship, was fit etc.
I actually did better than a lot of my friends who got into the stoner lifestyle and had it derail their original plans or overtake some other things that people want in life. Again, my life is fine, great even (and I don't get high anymore), but at 25 years old I am looking for a job that I could have gotten 18 out of high school, and I am not using my degree (partially my choice, but again that path was largely because a career with my degree would have required me to stop using weed).
Before anyone just says "oh your opinion is tainted because of your experience," I have witnessed this pattern over and over again in other individuals I know, both friends and family (older and younger). Generally speaking, everyone I know who uses marijuana heavily has at least one or two aspects of their life that are severely diminished. Maybe they lack a solid relationship and are lonely. They may lack fulfilling hobbies. They may have many friendships that would vaporize (no pun intended) if either of them stopped smoking weed. I have an older cousin who is in his 40s and single, and has been a lifelong stoner, he complains about how his life is unfulfilled, he wants kids, wants a relationship, etc, and I personally think his constant pot use is the chief reason he lacks that (he's very successful in what he does for a living). Like I said, he is not the only one I've witnessed this pattern in.
Again, nothing wrong with smoking weed, but for every person who can use casually and have no effect on their life trajectory, there is someone who will make it a serious part of their life, to the point that it may overtake other things: social/relationship, career, health/fitness, or financial success.
I fully support legalization, but I believe it WILL increase this pattern of unfulfillment I see in a number of people.
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basically I’m considering purchasing land down there to build a sustainable dwelling (something like an Earthship, maybe more conventional)... will this area become absolutely inhospitable due to global warming and if so over what timeframe? I’m 25 now and this is something I’d be doing in my 40s
My girlfriend and I have been training for several years at the same place (we are both blue belts). There is a man who trains there (4 stripe blue) whos notorious for going hard on women when he rolls, to the point that some women wont roll with him. On the flipside, he wont roll with me or other guys who he knows will steamroll him (he was blue when I started but I train wayy more than him and can now dominate him easily, he turns me down everytime I ask him to roll).
Anyways my girlfriend is the type who isn't afraid of rolling hard with big guys and knows what to expect when rolling with him. The thing is, he also has a history of "touching" odd places, especially when showing a move, for example, "move your ass a little to the left" and then a slight spank or something. Other women have expressed the same thing.
Last night, he grabbed my girlfriend's breast (i believe he had her back) very aggressively (she is not the type to whine about physical contact so I believe her when she said it was a grope not a normal lapel grab)... she was initially gonna just write it off, but after class he commented "wow, youre like a man you have nothing there!...
I wasn't there because I have a minor knee injury but she came home and told me about it. I was furious, he's been like this for awhile but we would always jokingly write it off... not this time. We were meeting up with a bunch of jits people that same night, including him, at a bar. I told her she had to call him out or I would.
She confronted him at the bar, he immediately stopped making eye contact and insisted it "wasnt like that.. thats just jiu jitsu.. and we have a joking dynamic anyways" he also said "I'm a married man if I wanted to cheat on my wife I'd do it outside of jiu jitsu".. she said bullshit you know exactly what youre doing and he said "well I'm sorry you feel that way but its not like that thats just how jiu jitsu is"... the thing is, my girlfriend has rolled with DOZENS if not HUNDREDS of guys at all different schools and has never once felt that they were trying to grope her or anything. Other women feel the same but generally they dont call him out.
She messaged our head coach on Facebook but we haven't heard back yet.. In my opinion this guy should not be rolling with women, and perhaps shouldn't be allowed at our school.
TLDR: Older large blue belt who routinely goes hard on women but wont roll with the younger killers gropes my girlfriend, comments on how her breasts are small, then blames it on BJJ when confronted.
EDIT: For people saying my girlfriend is insecure and why am I posting this... this is a BJJ Reddit and this is about a very important issue that can arise in BJJ.
UPDATE: Our head coach called my girlfriend and talked to her for awhile. He knows her very well and trusts her judgement. The individual in question will no longer be allowed to roll with the (3) women at our school and depending on his attitude may not be allowed to train there any longer.
Update 2: my girlfriend really appreciates all the positive support. It’s really frustrating to see the guy laughing with all our teammates (mostly males) carrying on etc drinking with the team when we know deep down he’s a creep. Her biggest desire is that other women would come forward should a situation like this occur to them.
Update 3: Not sure what planet some of you guys live on, but generally speaking “beating the shit out of a guy” after the fact (I was not at that practice) or even at the time is not an option in this society. To me that would show supreme lack of maturity and would likely get me put in jail and ruin my life. It’s very easy to be a tough guy over the internet when you have nothing on the line, so all you keyboard warriors please get real.
My girlfriend asked me not to confront the guy. She did it herself and chewed the guy out so bad he could barely look anyone in the eye after. I have nothing to prove to you guys. I make my mark in the cage and I have no interest in proving how macho I am outside of that arena. This is an issue for the head coach to deal with as it happened in his school.
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