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Original Poster102 points · 1 day ago

Thanks very much! Yes I did make adjustments using lightroom. Mostly played with the tone curves

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Score hidden · 22 hours ago

I would pay to see a tutorial of this

Score hidden · 18 hours ago

not op, but if you have lightroom or probably any professional editing software, try looking at the curves. it should say RGB. switch it to red, increase it on the right side and decrease it on the left side. then do the opposite for blue. these should be very subtle changes to the curve but the output is more dramatic

and if there's any extra colors you don't want you can mess with h/s/l sliders, mostly in the saturation. you can also mess with split toning, making the shadows/highlights different colors that way as well

each photo is different since slight changes to the tone curve can change based on what colors are in the original, but that's the general premise

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Score hidden · 18 hours ago

Nice! Thanks!

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Thank you cards. Fuck thank you cards

I have been really really wanting a camper/rv so I could design it similar to this. All white. Lots of succulents and fun decor. Ugh. I can dream.

This post makes me happy. I can tell this is the happiest I’ll be all day.

17 points · 2 days ago

I'll never understand how there can be a war machine, and simultaneously a mark ii in tony's workshop. Aren't they the same suit!?!?

Tony also recreated the original escape suit, I think he's got a thing for vanity.

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Good call out. I didn’t even think of that.

I used to live with someone who worked as a catalogue photographer. She used to travel to a specific town in Portugal several times a year as it was the best place on earth apparently to photograph lawn furniture.

Honestly, the amount of skill, time and craft that goes in to selling you shit is astonishing

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20 points · 3 days ago

I work for a well known home furnishings company who’s catalog probably ends up in your parents mailbox every month. Most of my time is spent on these photo sets. Yeah, the manpower and time it takes to get one shot of a pillow on a sofa is amazing. 3 stylists, 4 photo crew memebers, 5 construction crew do set design, a producer, an art director, 3 merch coordinators, a digital tech. It’s pretty insane.

And half of those people are only looking like they are busy. I work on sets from time to time, and I swear half of the people are only really busy for about 10% of the time they are actually there.

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Ugh. Yes. Lots of phones and side conversations and art directors checking their email.

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Worried about my wife

Well, I'll try to make this as short as possible. My wife and I have 2 small children age 2 and 3. We didn't intend on having 2 kids so close in age and it's been a serious struggle as each of them are a handful on their own. I work and commute full time which means I'm out of the house about 11 hours every day. She stays home full time with them. We live in an incredibly expensive area because family is close by so money is very tight. Lately she has been having a really hard time. She is constantly depressed, angry, anxious. She has moments of her old self where she'll be happy and laugh, but they are usually bookended with something darker. Our marriage has been suffering and she has used the word "divorce" no less than 10 times in the last month. She is extremely critical of everything I say and do. I try really hard to be supportive and helpful but everything I do to help seems to be wrong, and everything I say seems to make it worse. The heart of her depression comes from the fact that she has to stay at home with the kids. I feel like she resents them and me for it. She tried to go back to work after our first son was born and lasted 1 month before she quit to stay hime full time. Now she feels she is stuck in this situation. Every logical suggestion I or others have made have been met with reasons why it won't work. Get a job and hire a nanny or daycare. "I can't because then all the money I make will just go to the nanny or daycare." Take more time for yourself at night and on the weekends "I can't because we don't have the money for me to go do anything and there's no-one for me to go do things with." Let's go away for the weekend. "We can't because our family won't babysit and we can't afford to hire anyone to watch them, plus I don't want to leave my kids with a stranger." Frustration with her situation often leads to her saying her only option is to strip at night or become a hooker. In fact most frustrating situations lead to conversations that end in the most extreme outcome. Like if our son is misbehaving then the conversation will be something like "Great, he's going to get kicked out of 8 schools by the time he's ten and end up in juvenile hall and be a criminal his whole life." She says this life isn't what she signed up for and that if she'd known this is what life was going to be like that she never would have had kids. She says she feels like dying. She isn't willing to go to therapy. Our marriage at this point is nothing more than 2 people living in the same space. When I try to give her a hug or kiss she actually cringes or turns her face to avoid mine. It's soul crushing. She has few friends, and most of them are pretty self absorbed and never ever check in to see how she's doing with the exception of one who lives over seas. The one person she talks to regularly is her mom. We've had so many talks about ways to change her situation and literally every suggestion is met with 100 reasons why it won't work. She almost seems to be fighting for reasons to stay in a situation she seems to absolutely hate. I am hanging on by a thread trying to be a good father, and a good provider, and trying my absolute hardest to be a loving supportive husband when I am getting nothing in return except a cold shoulder. I'm at my whits end and I don't know what to do.

You should look into Austin Texas, it’s supposedly the next Silicon Valley and much more affordable

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Original Poster4 points · 5 days ago

Yeah. A ton of our friends have moved there and the cost of living is glorious compared to what we have here. But I think I may have pushed Austin too aggressively in the past because now she is completely against it. I'm hoping a trip to see some friends will change her mind but when she decides something she's pretty adamant. She's ope to Portland and Seattle but honestly I'd take any of those places as long as I can find a decent job and schools are good. Plus I don't work in tech. I work in media.

Denver metro? Not sure about the media job opportunities but we seem to attract a lot of Californians.

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Original Poster1 point · 5 days ago

We’ve discussed it. It’s on the table.

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Worried about my Wife and not sure what to do

Well, I'll try to make this as short as possible. My wife and I have 2 small children age 2 and 3. We didn't intend on having 2 kids so close in age and it's been a serious struggle as each of them are a handful on their own. I work and commute full time which means I'm out of the house about 11 hours every day. She stays home full time with them. We live in an incredibly expensive area because family is close by so money is very tight. Lately she has been having a really hard time. She is constantly depressed, angry, anxious. She has moments of her old self where she'll be happy and laugh, but they are usually bookended with something darker. Our marriage has been suffering and she has used the word "divorce" no less than 10 times in the last month. She is extremely critical of everything I say and do. I try really hard to be supportive and helpful but everything I do to help seems to be wrong, and everything I say seems to make it worse. The heart of her depression comes from the fact that she has to stay at home with the kids. I feel like she resents them and me for it. She tried to go back to work after our first son was born and lasted 1 month before she quit to stay hime full time. Now she feels she is stuck in this situation. Every logical suggestion I or others have made have been met with reasons why it won't work. Get a job and hire a nanny or daycare. "I can't because then all the money I make will just go to the nanny or daycare." Take more time for yourself at night and on the weekends "I can't because we don't have the money for me to go do anything and there's no-one for me to go do things with." Let's go away for the weekend. "We can't because our family won't babysit and we can't afford to hire anyone to watch them, plus I don't want to leave my kids with a stranger." Frustration with her situation often leads to her saying her only option is to strip at night or become a hooker. In fact most frustrating situations lead to conversations that end in the most extreme outcome. Like if our son is misbehaving then the conversation will be something like "Great, he's going to get kicked out of 8 schools by the time he's ten and end up in juvenile hall and be a criminal his whole life." She says this life isn't what she signed up for and that if she'd known this is what life was going to be like that she never would have had kids. She says she feels like dying. She isn't willing to go to therapy. Our marriage at this point is nothing more than 2 people living in the same space. When I try to give her a hug or kiss she actually cringes or turns her face to avoid mine. It's soul crushing. She has few friends, and most of them are pretty self absorbed and never ever check in to see how she's doing with the exception of one who lives over seas. The one person she talks to regularly is her mom. We've had so many talks about ways to change her situation and literally every suggestion is met with 100 reasons why it won't work. She almost seems to be fighting for reasons to stay in a situation she seems to absolutely hate. I am hanging on by a thread trying to be a good father, and a good provider, and trying my absolute hardest to be a loving supportive husband when I am getting nothing in return except a cold shoulder. I'm at my whits end and I don't know what to do.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Have you considered getting therapy yourself? It sounds like you could use the support for your own well-being. I know your days are long already, but maybe having an unbiased sounding board outside of the situation would give some clarity and help you find a solution. They might have resources you could pass along, too, like support groups (not therapy) for mothers with depression or postpartum where she might connect with others in similar situations who understand what she's going through.

If it were me, and obviously I don't know your situation and what's right for me might not be for you, but I would consider moving even though it would mean family would be further away. It sound like it doesn't do much good to have them nearby as it is because she is isolating herself anyway, and it could potentially relieve much of the burden you're feeling with living in such an expensive area. No one is obligated to stay in one place their whole lives, and it might be a solution for this season.

You clearly love your wife very much and will do whatever it takes so far as it is within your power to keep your marriage together. Keep fighting.

And remember that the cringes and pulling away aren't really your wife, it's the disorder.

Take care.

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Original Poster1 point · 5 days ago

Thanks. I actually have thought about therapy myself. It was very beneficial to me when I was a little younger. I'm just so worried about telling my wife that now I need more time away from the house. I know it will upset her. We are actually looking at some cities in different parts of the country. I'm applying for some jobs in those areas. They don't seem to pay as much, but then the cost of living is lower, so it looks like I'll have some math to do. Thanks for the advice.

I will hug mine extra hard tonight. I am so so sorry. I can’t imagine your pain.

I'm so sorry. There's nothing worse than seeing your little one in pain and knowing there's nothing you can do about it. Fingers crossed for a speedy recovery.

-23 points · 17 days ago

How is this the people's fault? What are they going to do, run down there and get bit by the croc as well? They were obviously sad about the dog dying because of it's own stupidity but they weren't going to risk their lives for it.

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A leash would have been a good decision after the first run in. You know, common sense stuff

Depends on where you are. In nyc or sf that could be 2-3k

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27 points · 8 days ago

I’m in SF, I’m wondering what it goes for in Japan.

3 points · 8 days ago

A room this size is called 1K (1 kitchen) in Japan and the cost would vary on where you are. Middle of Tokyo (near the train station) around ¥80,000. Tokyo but 10-15 mins away from the station - ¥70,000. 20-30 minutes to Tokyo by train - ¥40,000 ~ ¥60,000

Also the price quite varies with the age of the building (15 to 20 years older = cheaper) and the quality of the interior. The rent is also expensive in famous places such as Yokohama/Odaiba etc.

If you go to the countryside the rent goes down with the salary (minimum wage before taxes as a permanent worker in Tokyo is around ¥180,000 - ¥210,000 while it becomes ¥150,000 - ¥180,000 in the rurals)

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Wow. That’s dirt cheap.

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I don’t know if your familiar with Jason Lee’s film photography, but this style is very close to his. Super cool and unspecific to any year or decade.

100% serious question. How do you give emotional support? I honestly have no idea what to say when my wife tells me she’s upset, my instinct is to find a solution. What are some best practices?

Oh is it? How?

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Because the city is fucking disgusting and there’s shit everywhere

Best title I’ve ever seen

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