Link to my previous post: https://old.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/8dmbml/i_m26_was_approached_by_a_female_coworker_from/
She went to church with me and she seemed to like it. We laughed a lot and talked a lot, but... she was EXTREMELY nervous. Like, take all the synonyms for the word "nervous" and mash them all together, and that's how nervous she was. We took a stroll through a bike path for about 30 minutes and I could feel the nervousness oozing out of her every time she talked. When we got to her car, she talked about how she's scared of walking around neighborhoods and practically made a mad-dash to the door to get away as fast as fucking possible. I told her we should do this again some time, she agreed she would visit the church again, and she left. I was awe-struck. It was 1PM in broad daylight in a relatively up-scale part of town; it couldn't be any less creepy unless it was Beverly Hills.
I texted her about an hour after and we joked about her surviving the mean streets of my town. I told her I enjoyed hanging out with her, and then got no response from her.
I plan on texting her in a couple days or so, just so she has time to work through whatever shocked her. If I get no response or a negative, I'll probably just drop it, which is a shame because she was totally my type. She was NOT this nervous when she initially talked to me at work. Anyone have an idea as to what the heck happened?
edit: Should be noted that I don't work at the same place as her anymore.
Made a previous post here about someone who flirted with me heavily at work. I asked her out, she said yes, we dated. However, after two dates, I learned from a friend that one of my old coworkers is her boyfriend and they've been together for a year. Word on the street is that she's dating me to have an excuse to break up with him and be with me instead.
I really like this girl, but I also don't want to be "that guy". I know I would feel like absolute shit if it happened to me, but this girl is 100% my type. Do I break it off? Bring it up? Hope she breaks up with him before things get serious? What is my moral obligation?
Note: I don't work with her anymore, I work somewhere else now.
There's this guy at work, let's call him Kevin. We both work in the kitchen of a certain Christian chicken franchise. I decided to chat him up one day to see what he was about. One of my coworkers previously worked with him at Sonic's and begged me not to talk to him. He seemed like an alright kinda guy at a glance, what's the worst that could happen?
I had made a huge error in judgement. Over the next few months, he would interact with me a lot and tell me some extremely outlandish shit (AKA lies). Here are some examples.
Kevin claims that he went to Syria to fight ISIS by joining the Kurds. He came back to the US because he was bored with war.
He believes every conspiracy theory. All of them. Lizard people, the Illuminati, ancient aliens, the magic bullet, 9/11 was an inside job, mutherfucking Flat Earth, etc.
He believes African Americans to be superior to all other races/ethnicities including, funnily enough, black Africans. All mixed peoples are inferior as well. Kevin is mixed.
Kevin can play any instrument. Kevin cannot sufficiently answer any question regarding any particular instrument. When asked how to play the flute, an instrument I know all too well, he held his hands in the same position you would hold a recorder.
Kevin has millions of dollars sitting in a bank account that he "can't access", which is the only reason he's working in fast food for the time being.
Kevin used to be a drug lord on par with Pablo Escabar, but he got out of the game because it was simply too easy for him.
Kevin has sex with a new woman every day. He has never gone a single day without sex ever since he turned 18. All he wants is true love, but all women are thots who just use him for sex.
Kevin is a master of Ninjitsu and he would have to kill you if you accidentally witnessed any of his moves.
There are more, but I legitimately felt exhausted listing all this BS off. Each of these lies was accompanied by enough ridiculous detail to make Tom Clancy jealous.
I announced to a coworker that I put in my 2 week notice because I have some things in my life that require immediate attention. As soon as I told him, I hear a loud "WHAT!?" from across the workplace and the girl (let's call her "N") comes power walking to ask me about it. Now, some context:
-We both work in a restaurant, but I work in the kitchen and she works in the front. I didn't know much about her and she didn't know much about me.
-Me and "N" have spoken to each other for a grand total of maybe half an hour in the eight months I've worked at my job.
-I find "N" very attractive, but I never made it clear in the slightest that I was interested because I have been so busy.
-I actually thought she didn't like me because she generally didn't look my direction at all during work. She would even make sure to avoid my gaze entirely. I actually went out of my way several times to start a conversation (I like to be friendly to everyone!), and would just barely be successful.
Anywho, I rationalized that her concern for my departure was purely out of curiosity. I went about my duties and started my closing shift. As I was taking out the trash, I realized it would be too big for me to personally push it into the elevated dumpster, so I went to get some help. I asked another front-of-house person to help me push it, and "N" immediately jumped out of nowhere and said "I CAN HELP!"
So that was strange.
I rationalize it as her being nice and helpful. After dumping the trash, she begins talking to me and asking me about every single little thing in my life. She was absolutely infatuated with the things I said. Anything I told her about me was apparently ridiculously cool to her. After talking for half an hour, I invited her to church with me on the Sunday after my last day (we're both Christians, though I'm definitely less into it than she is). She accepted and was extremely excited. It was like she was a completely different person, it blew my fuckin' mind. Though now that I think about it, I never asked for her number, which I should probably rectify at some point.
Fast forward to 14 hours later, she still treats me exactly the same as she used to. Zero communication and avoids my eye contact. I'll try to start conversations, like I usually do, but they end up like they always did. It leaves me feeling like I dreamed the entire encounter. Its been nearly two days since our conversation.
I have always been approached by every girl I've ever dated, so that part is not really a new concept to me. Can someone smarter than me fathom a guess as to what's going on? The cold shoulder thing is really weird to me, especially after the great conversation we had. I'm pretty sure she's still interested, even if it sounds like she's not.
Edit: I just realized that my title says "coworker from work". I am silly.
Hello fellow adults,
I'm going to another country to sell my dad's estate to a buyer. After splitting the earnings between my family members and paying appropriate taxes to the government, I will end up with $60,000 (more like $75,000 but I have some debts to pay off). I was homeless earlier this year due to awful spending habits and managed to work my ass off and get my very own apartment on a modest income of $14/hr.
I don't want to mess this up again. I read the windfall stuff on the sidebar, but it seems to be more concerned with windfalls of over $200k. The windfall I'm getting is not quite as life changing as an amount like that, so I would like to put myself in a position to change my life for the better. So far, I've decided to split my money like this:
$12,000 in an emergency fund (Food, Rent, Utilities, and Entertainment for one year)
$4,500 for a good used vehicle to expand my employment prospects (I currently rely on the bus)
$14,000 for tuition and fees at a local technical college to learn a trade (thinking of either becoming a robotics technician, mechanical engineering technologist, or a manual/CNC machinist)
That leaves me with $29,500 give or take $1,000. I make about $1,500 a month after taxes at my current job. Should I just throw it all into a savings account and sit on it, or is there something more I should do? I'm not confident enough in my ability to invest, nor do I think that amount of money is really worthy of playing the stock market with.
I think my main issue with the entirety of the trades in college is that most of them will start me off at about $15/hr, which doesn't change my current financial prospects all that much. My salary will go up over time, but that could be a while.
tl;dr After getting my inheritance and spending what I need, I'll have $29,500 in totally free money. Wat do. I think what I'm asking is how to start increasing my money modestly.
Done a couple month long fasts already. Dropped from 305-ish pounds to my current weight of 215 lbs. Im hoping to be at 185 lbs by the end of this fast. Wish me luck guys! It has truly been a blessing to have found this subreddit. I couldn't have done this without y'all. For those who don't know my routine, here's what Im currently up to.
Straight water fasting
Exercise consists of walking a total of 2 hours to and from work (3 mph pace)
Work consists of standing/walking for 8 hours or so
Let's do this!
I recently became homeless due to several stupid mistakes I've made. I managed to get 30 days of housing at my local homeless shelter and I have a job. I make $1,800 a month after taxes, and have fantastic health and dental insurance that I don't need to pay for (long story).
After paying back a debt I owe to a fantastic friend, I'll have $1,300 saved in the upcoming month. What steps can I take to make sure I never reach this point again? Its been my dream to live a minimum frills life, think living in a van or such. I want the ultimate minimalist lifestyle, but without having to resort to living on the streets like my other homeless compatriots. If anyone out there has ever lived an alternative lifestyle successfully, I'd love to hear your thoughts. I am committed to living a harsh life as long as I can secure a financial safety net.
I have no dependents, debts (aside from my current debt with my friend), and my cost of living has been historically low. I don't want to rent an apartment again and I'm fine with the social repercussions of an alternative living style. I've been blessed with minimal responsibilities and want to make the most of it.
Sorry if I'm not making much sense.
tl;dr I want to live a minimal cost lifestyle on the road while maximizing my savings. I make $1,800 a month after taxes. What are some resources I could look at or things I can do to achieve that?
Blah blah been fasting for a long time now blah blah...
Anyone have those dreams where they eat something and get so shocked that they broke their fast that they wake up immediately? I swear I haven't had a proper night's sleep in a week. Every day I keep having a dream where at some point I eat something and damn near wake up with a heart attack.
Goddamn, I could TASTE the bread. I legitimately thought I broke my fast and felt horrible for a good 10 seconds. Fasting is normally really easy for me, but the constant mood swings from my dreams are making it really hard.