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7 points · 1 day ago

My cat chose to nap on my chest today and it was the happiest I was in a week. Cats are the best.

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Original Poster2 points · 17 hours ago

She is always on my chest and it's wonderful. Waiting for the day her sassy sister decides to try it out too.

I am also a proud owner of that Hufflepuff sweatshirt. Great taste.

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Original Poster4 points · 17 hours ago

Have to represent our underappreciated house!

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Calathea Ornata, I'm guessing.

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Yep! I just bought one and the lines are white. I guess if they are in direct sunlight for a while the pink temporarily bleaches out.

I use this too, definitely my favorite breathing technique.

NFG forever.

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2 points · 1 day ago

Saw them a few months back for the first time in almost a decade... It felt like no time had passed. I will love them forever and always.

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I'm sure you all have heard it before. One reason to have a kid is so you can relive the magic of being a child!

Bullllllshit.

My man and I just got back from Harry Potter World and let me tell you, we were the biggest kids there! We bought interactive wands and cast spells all over the damn place. We drank as much butterbeer as we could handle. All the candy in Honeydukes? Yes, absolutely. Ride all the rides 5 times? Duh! We went ALL out. Spared no expense. Why? Because we could. It was the most magical three days of my 27 years on Earth.

So no, I don't need a child to relive my best days. Because some of my best days happened last week with the love of my life.

What are some of your best adult magical moments society says you couldn't have without a kid?

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We were there this time last year! We did the regular parks during the day and Halloween Horror Nights at night. I’m a huge Harry Potter fan, so finally getting to visit there was totally magical. I literally got goosebumps when I walked into Diagon Alley for the first time. And HHN was totally amazing. It’s a must-do if you’re a horror fan.

I have some of the photos set as the screensaver on my TV and they still bring a huge smile to my face every day when I see them. Best trip ever.

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Original Poster1 point · 5 days ago

It was the best!! I cried when I saw Diagon Alley for the first time. It's a great time of year to go because it was dead compared to how I imagine other times to be. We didn't know about HHN and we left the day it started ):

We bought the cheesey Gringotts picture from the ride and I have it framed in my living room. It makes me so happy!

9 points · 5 days ago

I really don’t get this idea.

Sure, having kids gives you an excuse to go to theme parks and so on - but as THE MOM, the one who has to take care of potty breaks and snack supplies and no one getting kidnapped, not as someone who’s there to have fun. If anything, I imagine watching children have fun in such a place would make you feel even older than not going, because the contrast really hammers home how you’re not one of them anymore.

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Original Poster5 points · 5 days ago

I didn't even think of it like that. Like, damn.. I'm old as hell AND my life is no longer mine. Not fun at all.

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Is she in Ohio? I think I know who this is.

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Yes. I feel bad because she's on here monthly lol

Aww, that is sad. She talks a lot on her social media about her mental health struggles.

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I know. Its easy to laugh along with this sub until it's someone that you know.

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So I'm still buzzing after this encounter.

I work in a small retail shop in my city. This older couple comes in and I'm helping them pick out some stuff. The husband gets a call (I'm assuming from one of their kids) and the wife looks at me and asks, "Do you have kids?" I immediately shook my head and said, "Oh gosh no. No no no. My boyfriend and I are not about that life." Instantly I have regrets because I'm not ready to get my first bingo at work. She looks me dead in the eyes and says, "Good for you. They will take everything from you." When her husband hangs up she calls him over and says, "Honey this woman isn't having kids, she deserves a congratulations." I was blown away! As they walked out the door she says, "Congratulate your boyfriend too! I wish you a lot of happiness!"

What the hell! I'm floored. In a good way, of course.

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63 points · 16 days ago

That is an outstandingly rare occurrence, to be sure. I think most people here, myself included, have quite some problems with people accepting a lifestyle that is different to theirs. I am happy for you if you, even for a bit, got not only acceptance, but encouragement. Cheers!

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Original Poster23 points · 16 days ago

It was definitely unexpected and really encouraging! I haven't really voiced my choice to anyone outside my close friends and boyfriend and it felt good to get a positive response.

Thank you(:

That's a beautifully executed shell border! I'm very impressed. I went to school with some people who couldn't even pipe halfway through the program!

41 points · 22 days ago

Yes. I just began therapy and so far we've spent 4 sessions dissecting not only my childhood, but my parent's childhoods. A lot of my anxiety stems from their own mental health issues that we have never discussed because that's just not the kind of family we are. I was very angry and resentful a few years ago when I first realized their impact on me. But now I'm realizing they didn't have good models for mental health either. They were set up for failure and unknowingly set me up too. My parents come from a generation where you do not discuss mental health. It's only in the last few decades it's become less taboo.

So I always try to see things from their perspective. Sure, I get resentful when I'm having really bad days and I want someone to blame. But ultimately my mental health is in my own hands and all I can do is try to make myself better. Maybe try to empathize with your parent's experiences. I know, easier said than done.

This was so nice to read because I relate so much. I've held onto resentment my whole life and I almost hate to let it go. But when I step outside my own emotions, it's easy to see why my parents are the way that they are, and I can't even blame them. But at the same time that doesn't make me any less angry. It's kind of just a sad conundrum.

If you don't mind me asking, how did you feel going into therapy? I've never taken that step because I'm just too scared to actually address these issues. I've gotten by in life by suppressing and avoiding them, essentially.

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1 point · 22 days ago · edited 22 days ago

At first it was pretty nerve wracking. Therapy is making yourself completely vulnerable to a stranger and allowing them to see the deepest and darkest parts of your world. However, every time I leave there I've discovered something new about myself or my family. It's like tiny weight being lifted each session. Without my therapist, I never would have known about second generation PTSD and how parents pass it along to their kids like mine did. It really does help and if there is any part of you that is interested, at least give it a try.

I don't really know much about student insurance but I'll try. If you have your insurance provider and a card for it, then you should give them a call and ask what your options are. Usually they will send you a list of doctors who are covered under your specific insurance and you can begin to research them on Google. Depending on your insurance you might have a small co pay each visit or you might have to pay up to your deductible. Make sure you ask your insurance which one you have. Sometimes you can find therapists that will come up with payment plans for people based on their financial situation. You just have to start calling around and asking.

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Yesterday there was a post asking what cancer survivor's symptoms were. I don't know why I looked at it late last night while laying in bed. But I fell down the rabbit hole of x,y,z being symptoms of cancer. It consumed me and I couldn't stop thinking about it. Since I was a child I've been terrified of cancer, aids, heart failure etc. You name it, I'm convinced I have it.

I recently started seeing a new doctor who wanted me to get blood work done, standard physical stuff. I've been avoiding it for weeks because I'm terrified of needles and of finding out something is seriously wrong.

I woke up at 6am panicking again. Usually when I go to bed anxious, I wake up and those thoughts are long gone. Not this morning though. So I got up, drove myself to the doctor and had my blood drawn. I'm glad I finally got it over with. It's a weight off my shoulders. I'm trying really hard not to think about the results now.

Anyways, I really needed to vent and I don't see my therapist until Friday so here I am. I don't have anyone who understands health anxiety and I feel alone and crazy with my fears.

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Yup - another hypochondriac here.

I can't help but google my symptoms and obviously the first thing that comes up are the worst things. However, the reason these come up so often is because everyone else like myself is searching the same thing, so the results show up higher.

Web MD is the worst thing for people like us because they automatically bring up the most serious of illnesses.

I know where my fear came from (a friend of my mum's daughter was diagnosed with cancer when I was 13 and since then it's terrified me) but I still can't seem to shake it every time I feel a change in my body.

So you're not alone, bud.

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Original Poster2 points · 27 days ago

Yeah you're right about the search results. Doesn't help that once you search one thing, it suggests every single related thing the next time you open Google.

I'm sorry to hear about your family friend. That must have been traumatizing at such an impressionable age. My therapist and I are trying to figure out where my fears come from and so far, there's really no significant event or trigger.

I’m currently going through the same thing. I’m a known hypochondriac and I go to the doctor for every possible symptom I have. You name it, I’ve been to the doctor for it.

I’ve lost a few pounds without trying recently, have a couple bruises that won’t go away, and there’s this lump in my throat that makes me feel like I need to cough all the time. My skin is a little dry, too.

I’m not sure if any of these are correlated and I’m probably just connecting things that don’t need to be connected, but it’s consuming my life. It’s all I can think about.

I’m living in a city far away from my hometown right now and that doesn’t really make it easier because I currently don’t have a home doctor to go see. I’ve made an appointment with a NP in October, but I’m thinking I should go to the local clinic and get blood work just to be sure.

I’m here if you need to vent to, OP. I can relate.

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Original Poster2 points · 27 days ago

Ugh, I'm sorry. Despite now having anxiety over the results, because I do have some symptoms I'm concerned about, I feel better knowing in a few days I'll have answers one way or another.

Maybe you should check out a clinic and try to get a blood test done. At least then you won't be wondering for the next month or so. The places our brains take us when we don't know can be so much worse.

Thank you for your comment, means a lot(:

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Going out to a new restaurant nearly cripples me with anxiety. Am I dressed appropriately? If there's no sign about waiting to be seated and no host(ess) do I just assume I should seat myself? What if I can't pronounce the name of the item I want? What if the food is bad?

Oh my god, it's awful despite knowing that at the very worst, realistically, I might not like the food and I will be out an amount of money that I can afford.

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I go through the same. It also extends to stores, going to a new doctor, a house I've never been to etc. What if I drive by it and they saw me and laugh at me? What if I go in the wrong door? What if Im supposed to sit first and then go up and fill out paperwork but I do the opposite? What if I have the wrong address or date?

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That's a great tip. Thank you!

Which park are you going to?

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Original Poster1 point · 1 month ago

Orlando! Whichever two parks in Orlando that let us do the whole experience. I can't remember the names, I'm not the planner in this relationship haha.

It’s Islands of Adventure and Universal Studios that have the Wizarding World in them. It’s a ton of fun! I work there and it is just magical

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Original Poster1 point · 1 month ago

I can't wait!!

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Original Poster18 points · 1 month ago

That was fast, enjoy the gold.

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I have a bunch of these in my store. Once a week I soak them in water for 10 minutes and they are good to go! They look nice in little planters or vases.

The second I scrolled by this picture I knew it too(:

The foil is so ridiculously unnecessary it hurts.

15 points · 1 month ago

I can see both sides.

I went to school to become a pastry chef and follow my passion. After 10 years of doing what I love but making barely enough to live off, I had to make a choice. I switched gears completely and now work for a local business as a sales manager. I work good hours, make considerably more money, and I actually get benefits and vacations.

Is it what I've always envisioned for myself? Not really. But now I have the money to buy what I want, travel where I want, and enjoy life more. It can be pretty difficult to have both a fullfilling work life and personal life. Sometimes you have to choose one to be a little mediocre, and that's okay.

Original Poster2 points · 1 month ago

I completely get that too though. It can be really hard to find that happy medium and you’re right, sometimes you have to give a little to get a little.

Maybe you aren’t doing exactly what you thought you would be doing, but at the very least, you’re in a position that lets you follow your passions and not give up on your hobbies and the things that make you who you are.

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Exactly(: I really wish you the best! Having a positive attitude about your future will get you far.

I've been struggling hard with this. I call it spiraling. He is pretty supportive and tries to understand but there are times when he gets frustrated with me. My biggest issue is not communicating with him when something is wrong. So I let it build and build until he is sick of asking me what is wrong. Then I freak out because he's frustrated and it all goes down hill. I started seeing a therapist and this is something we are working on so I hope it helps.

So based on my own experience, I think communicating with your partner is the best thing you can do.

I've been working with my therapist on mindfulness. Really, just focusing on my breath. I'll sit up straight, and breath in whatever way is most comfortable. For me, I like to breath through my nose and exhale through my mouth. I count each inhale to three then start over. While doing so, I focus on how the breath feels. Is my chest rising? Are my shoulders moving? Do I feel it in my stomach?

I do this for about 2 minutes. The goal isn't to make my thoughts disappear, that's impossible. The goal is to shift the thoughts to something I have control over. If you feel like your spiraling, give this a shot.

17 points · 1 month ago

My best friend is Iranian and absolutely gorgeous. I'm a basic blonde white girl, pretty plain in comparison. Several times we've gone out and guys have actually said, "Go get the hot one's number." Referring to her.

But my boyfriend loves the way I look. He thinks I'm beautiful because I'm his type. Everyone is different. There will always be someone more attractive. But that doesn't mean there aren't people who will see the beauty in you.

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