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Redditors, do you care what happens to your corpse after death? Buried, cremated or medically harvested etc. Why? by DontMessWithTrexes in AskReddit

[–]brijjen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm an organ donor, and then I'd like whatever is useful to be donated to science.

So far, my physiology is normal and healthy - but I visited a research center in college where they commented that no one donates healthy brains/organs, only diseased ones, so they have no "control organs" to compare the diseased ones against.

After that, whatever's left can be buried under a big tree.

I can’t do it. I have no discipline. by corksncoffee in loseit

[–]brijjen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not OP but for me it’s not so much that I feel like I can’t, as it is that I feel like it’s not possible. I’ve always been the bigger girl. The fat friend. The chubby one. I have a hard time believing I can be anything else even when the scale does start moving.

X-POST r/seriusconversation. I haven't seen my family for around 5 years due to my fear of flying while fat. What has being fat kept you from doing? by LeastFavouriteLife in loseit

[–]brijjen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m looking forward to maybe one day wearing colorful sundresses. That’s my secret goal, as a black T-shirt and jeans girl.

Women who live/have lived with men, what is something you didnt realise about them until you started cohabiting? by Silvertounges in AskWomen

[–]brijjen 130 points131 points  (0 children)

I tried this with my parents when I was a teenager. They told me I just needed more practice and made me do them all the more

What are some tips you have to make waking up easier? by samuthesheep in AskReddit

[–]brijjen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave the curtains/shades cracked. The slowly increasing natural sunlight will help to rouse you.

What things should be kept in mind when arguing with your SO? by ahri_bb in AskWomen

[–]brijjen 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's a really great tip!

It reminds me that I forgot the most important part of that last suggestion, which is: Make sure you actually come back to discuss the issue later. Even if you realize there was nothing to the fight afterall, come back and say, "I think I was more angry about xxxxx that happened at work today, and I took it out on you," or whatever applies. Don't leave the issue unresolved or pretend like it never happened. Acknowledge it, connect with your partner on it, and move forward together.

Same boot. Three years and 6,000+ hrs of work difference by bobnoga in mildlyinteresting

[–]brijjen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're getting downvoted for either missing an obvious joke, or failing at a troll faking to miss an obvious joke.

What things should be kept in mind when arguing with your SO? by ahri_bb in AskWomen

[–]brijjen 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Make sure you are on the same page about what exactly you're arguing about. Is this an actual issue, or is someone hungry/tired/had a bad day? Are we furious about the socks on the floor, or is the real issue that we feel disrespected?

Listen to each other. Give him/her a chance to say what s/he thought and understood, then say what you think and understand. Clarify with each other. "I'm hearing X, is that what you're saying?"

Don't call names. Don't attack his/her character. It's the two of you against the issue, not the two of you against each other.

If you're getting heated, take a break. Tell the other person, "I need to cool down, i can't talk about this right now." Then go away and don't talk about it for a bit (this isn't code for "go away and text passive-aggressively about it").

Apologize. Forgive.

What things should be kept in mind when arguing with your SO? by ahri_bb in AskWomen

[–]brijjen 74 points75 points  (0 children)

This is so important. Also stay away from "Always" and "Never" statements like "You always do x," or "You're always selfish," (for a double whammy). Argue about the issue or the event, not about each other.

What are you still salty about years later ? by Raluvinte in AskReddit

[–]brijjen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's the pre-TSA version of Security Theater. Parent panic after the initial "report" was quelled by schools "doing something about it" and "taking a stand." It had nothing to do with the kids, and everything about politics.

What are you still salty about years later ? by Raluvinte in AskReddit

[–]brijjen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know, all it did was teach us that we couldn't go to adults for anything involving our relationship, because we'd be shamed and not taken seriously.

No matter how you look at it, give them up to the state or keep them & love them, it's a purgatory filled with regrets... by [deleted] in AdviceAnimals

[–]brijjen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Today we typically hold people responsible for intentionally putting helpless people in positions that result in their deaths. Now, you can argue all day long about whether it's better (or legal, or moral, etc) for them to die or not, but at least call a spade a spade.

No matter how you look at it, give them up to the state or keep them & love them, it's a purgatory filled with regrets... by [deleted] in AdviceAnimals

[–]brijjen 6 points7 points  (0 children)

"left them on the sides of mountains for the gods to ordain their fate" is a fancy way to say "kill them." If you're going to propose killing someone (especially out of supposed good intentions), be honest about it.

What major thing doesn’t infuriate you at a restaurant? by batteries69 in AskReddit

[–]brijjen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The waiter dropping a tray or spilling my food. Sure, it's sad to have to wait longer for my meal, but I realize it was an accident and generally feel bad for him/her. It's embarrassing - please feel free to go put my order in again and then hide in a corner until it's ready. I understand.

Live and Learn. by Ki-mi in facepalm

[–]brijjen 73 points74 points  (0 children)

It's an interesting cultural phenomenon. I'm in a latin culture and it's the opposite - the idea is that love/romance/pleasure is a beautiful thing, so sexual content isn't that big of a deal in films. Violence, on the other hand, will up the rating in a flash, and is seen as a very negative thing. Culturally it's seen as better to expose kids to love than to hate (even though those are not necessarily part of sex or violence).

What was your college major? by OnlyPhoneBTW in AskWomen

[–]brijjen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Philosophy - and yes, I have a salaried career in my field

Tantrum Tuesday - The Day to Rant! by AutoModerator in loseit

[–]brijjen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I thought I'd outsmarted my sleep cycle by winding down my routine and everything earlier, but I was not to be fooled! Hah. Thanks for the encouragement, I'm looking forward to when this is a habit. I am loving "reclaiming" early morning time - it feels almost like I'm stealing more time for myself, without interfering with my after-work time. =)

Tantrum Tuesday - The Day to Rant! by AutoModerator in loseit

[–]brijjen 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This morning was my first morning going to the gym early. I’ve been getting up really early for about a week to get into the habit and am slowly easing into morning gym-ing. I’m not a morning person so I’m a bit nervous about it but I think if I eeeease into it and pace myself, it’ll be ok.

So last night I put out all my clothes and made my breakfast and went to bed a little early.

... and proceeded to toss and turn and have vivid dreams and wake up the whole night through. It’s the worst sleep I’ve had in quite some time.

Still got up and went to the gym, but I’m pissed.

What are you still salty about years later ? by Raluvinte in AskReddit

[–]brijjen 1292 points1293 points  (0 children)

That’s always really bothered me - like, why was it so impossible for them to imagine a non-sexual interaction? Why were they always putting sex into everything?

Teenagers are people too, and while hormonal, shouldn’t be entirely reduced to sex.

What are you still salty about years later ? by Raluvinte in AskReddit

[–]brijjen 2897 points2898 points  (0 children)

My highschool principal (circa 2003) yelling at me for having my arm around my boyfriend in the hallway. HIS ANKLE WAS BROKEN AND I WAS HELPING HIM UP THE STAIRS TO CLASS. We tried to explain but HS principal was too busy yelling and shaming us in front of everyone as if we'd been caught sloppy making out on the floor.