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1 point · 4 days ago · edited 4 days ago

Ivan, Thor. Karl. Aleister. Exeter. Harold. Vlad(imir).

Might try some exotic ruler: Tamerlane, Tamujin, Genghis. Kubla Khan.

For pure dee balls and macho, nothing beats KIRK. As in Captain, or Douglas.

Alexander is great, no pun intended. Manly, can go with Alec, Alex, Al, etc...Alec Baldwin was a stud when he was younger, Alex Lifeson awesome guitarist for Rush. Lately, I've noticed the name Xander being kind of popular. My ex gf named her son Xander, and I saw that it popped up elsewhere.

Please leave off: Caiden, Jaydon, anything with a 'dun' last syllable.

Edit: Oh, let's add 'Gabriel'. Wow! "I am Gabriel! I stand in the presence of God!" Luke 1:19.

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I have no idea why but Gabriel is a huge no in my opinion.

Genetics vs. gender roles? Intelligent design? Is this a troll?

Social phenomena are a consequence of natural survival in social animals; humans included. Due to the structures that developed for survival, women adapted to rely more on group decision making than did men.

It is nature, absolutely.

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Sounds very red-pillish to me

24 points · 5 days ago

I'm not your pal, friend

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13 points · 5 days ago

Calm down there, champ

Tell her you're a recovering addict.

Girls love a fixer-upper.

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For me that wouldn't entirely be a lie.

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Hey guys, just to give you a bit of a backstory I'm 17, working towards a psychology degree, and in recovery for substance abused problems.

Over the course of the last few months, I've been engaging in a lot of hyper sexualized behavior and currently seeing multiple girls at the same time. One of them, I feel like I'm just using for sex. It makes me feel horrible but I feel almost nothing when I'm with her. Although the sex is good, it just feels mechanical and monotonous. I can't socialize with her very well and our relationship is purely based on physical attraction.

Another girl I've been seeing recently is super cute and fun to talk to. We haven't had sex and mostly just make out and grope whenever we're with each other. I feel comfortable cracking jokes around her and saying whatever comes to my mind without much anxiety.

Theres 2 other girls I've fooled around with that aren't worth writing about in detail as much but just to give you guys an idea of how much I've been acting out on my lust, I'll mention them. One is from my class, we've had sex once a month ago but there's still some sexual tension between us and another girl I met off of tinder.

What's really starting to bother me is what I'm beginning to sacrifice just to spend some time with them. I met up with one of the girls last Wednesday, knowing I have a class in the morning the next day and ended up staying with her up until 3:30 AM. The next day I went to class tapped in and went right back to my dorm to pass out. The teacher wrote me an email about my absence and requested it not happen again which I feel shameful about.

This Friday I went out to a party in which I hooked up with 2 different girls. I ended up staying out with one of them up until 5 am, got home around 6:30 and slept all the way up until 4:30 pm the next day, completely missing out on my basketball practice.

After a talk with my sponsor in recovery, he believes that I'm beginning to substitute one addiction for another which seemed pretty sensible to me. He asked me to try and nurture platonic relationships with some of these girls and not act out on my sexual urges. I promised him I would try it. I failed to do that on the same day and had sex with one of them 8 hours after having that talk.

I feel guilty about it but at the same time I know I'm not going to really do anything about it to try and change that. I like what I'm doing but I don't like how it's starting to affect other aspects of my life. I speculate that the reason I'm engaging in this type of behavior is because I derive some sense of self worth based on the affirmation I receive from these women. It's definitely not very healthy but I don't know how to change that. I know this post has been all over the place and I'm sorry for the rant but if anyone can give me some advice on this issue, I'd very grateful.

30 points · 26 days ago

Psychologist for men. Imagine the change u can make.

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Really? I'm a psych student but I've always believed it to be predominated by a blue-pilled population. 80% of my entire class is women and I'm not entirely sure working as a practicing counselor/clinical psychologist would be the best route to go in terms of a 6 figure income.

17 points · 26 days ago

TIL I'm Aunt Marie...

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Are you married by any chance to a Hank Schrader?

Mildly autistic is on Netflix?

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Yea I believe it's correct name is atypical

I've been attempting to bulk up for the past 2 months. I'm a relatively skinny, lean person but do have somewhat of an athletic built with visible abs. I've been trying to gain muscle mass and work out 4-5 times a week but I'm also on my schools basketball and soccer team. I've noticed that I'm not gaining very much weight and I think it may have something to do with the amount of cardio I've been doing. I have 2 practices and 2 games a week, each one around 2 hours long so on average, I get around 6-7 hours worth of cardio done each week. Could that be detrimental to my muscle development or is there a way to still make it work and gain decent mass?

If I learned anything in my life, it's that how you look has absolutely zero to do with IF people make fun of you. At most, it determines WHAT people say. I have seen the fattest people be super popular. Same goes for ugly, short, tall, skinny...

It's always the personality that turns people off. You come off as rather timid, fearing to do or say something wrong. Being proud for taking an important step in your life isn't arrogant. At all. Why would you say that? THAT'S what you should work on.

Don't get me wrong, you getting in shape is a great thing. It will also directly impact your confidence.

So keep doing what you're doing. But be proud of yourself, because you should.

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Wow TIL something extremely important. I'm an athletic, fairly attractive individual but have almost no social finesse and can't banter for shit, constantly catching the shit end of it. I guess now I know why.

Wow! That's actually neat. It's easier to understand when you have a comparison like that. Thanks!

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What I'm wondering though is how do they acquire the footage of the very bottom of the Mariana Trench? Does the pressure not have any detrimental effects on the camera or did they specifically fortify it for that purpose?

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Hi, I'm 17 and currently attending a uni in Singapore. I came on a student visa which only allows me to study and bars any possible job opportunities. I'm currently studying psychology but I still have no idea what I want to do once I graduate or what work field I want to get into. I'm thinking either get my bachelors in psychology and get an MBA or go straight from college into the sales field. Only issue is that I don't know what else I can do besides receiving good grades that can assist me in acquiring a favorable wage once I start working. Between working out, sports, classes, studying and partying/socializing, I probably have around 6-8 hours of free time that I usually use browsing through Reddit/reading articles/watching YouTube. What is something practical that I can learn/do that can help me in my future career or any career in general?

The degrees that have great earning potential are sciences, medicine, and finance. Make sure you get good grades so you can get into grad school.

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Original Poster1 point · 1 month ago

How would getting into grad school amplify my success?

What's your goal? Do you want to end up back in Russia? Stay in Singapore? New York? Something else?

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Original Poster2 points · 1 month ago

Probably go back to the states to work.

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Hi, I'm 17 and currently attending a uni in Singapore. I came on a student visa which only allows me to study and bars any possible job opportunities. I'm currently studying psychology but I still have no idea what I want to do once I graduate or what work field I want to get into. I'm thinking either get my bachelors in psychology and get an MBA or go straight from college into the sales field. Only issue is that I don't know what else I can do besides receiving good grades that can assist me in acquiring a favorable wage once I start working. Between working out, sports, classes, studying and partying/socializing, I probably have around 6-8 hours of free time that I usually use browsing through Reddit/reading articles/watching YouTube. What is something practical that I can learn/do that can help me in my future career or any career in general?

Pi-squared left such a good comment all I have to add is reading/audio books on a wide range of topics, practical knowledge, fiction, non-fiction, science, if you have any interest/curiosity in a subject read about it.

My reasons for this are: reading widely increases the likelihood you'll discover a new passion or solidify an existing one. To me, and many Ted Talk speakers, every passion known is an opportunity for enrichment and likely even profit. Additionally the more I read the more I know and thereby I'm not only a more interesting conversationalist but have a higher likelihood of being able to connect with others on whatever topics are significant to them. Ergo connections are made... social networking FTW!

Some books I recommend: "How to Win Friends and Influence People" "7 Habits of Highly Effective People" "The Millionaire Next Door" "How Not to Die" by Dr. M Greggor "The Complete Stories of Sherlock Holmes" read by Charlton Griffin (audio) "Sex at Dawn" "Be the Pack Leader" by Caesar Milan

ROCK ON!

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Original Poster3 points · 1 month ago

I started how to win friends and influence people not too long ago but never finished reading it. Tenacity isn't on my list of character assets sadly. The 7 habits of highly effective people had been recommended to me by my mom but never managed to get it. Recently, I read a lot of mark Manson who's books I really adore and No More Mr Nice Guy which definitely hit home for me. But overall, I'm interested in getting some more self help book recommendations. Thinking about maybe reading some of Jordan Petersons books.

You are just starting on what I call "The Lost Path". It's this journey that starts at about your age and continues pretty much for the rest of your life. Most of life in western/modern world is unstructured after school/uni. You have the choice to become anything you want. And this choice is absolutely crippling. I often compare it to Subway vs McDonalds - Subway asks you a billion questions before having a sandwich which for me, the first time was an absolute block. McDonalds has a few preset menu items and you are good to go.

You can optimise around several dimensions - if you have covered your basic needs such as food and shelter, you can start thinking about friends and connections, love life, family life, personal development, professional life including income and a few others. You mentioned high level income - then maybe sales is a better path.

To have some structure, I suggest you implement some sort of schedule, and limit the doubts about your life and future to at most one day of the week. The rest of the days you execute whatever you have set the previous "planning day". Don't over stress about the planning, it's hard but there are usually no absolute right solutions as life is not an equation - any plan is better than no plan. So whatever you pick on your planning day, do it for the next 6 days like crazy and don't doubt it. Then when the planning day comes, ask yourself What went well, What could've gone better and What can I do better to improve next week. You can choose for example that this week you will spend half an hour each day (and schedule it!) browsing through job sites like Glassdoor and others to research salaries. Not making decisions, just browsing, getting a feel for what professions yield what income. Then next week after you retrospect on the Planning day, take an hour each day to ask people in some chosen professions via reddit and what-not about how their work is, what they like, what they dislike etc. You can make plans week by week and slowly get some info about what to do next. There usually is no such day as "I solved my life". You could solve it for some period of time, but usually there is no solution and you will feel a bit lost all the time unless you structure your life like a military with a clear target and execute relentlessly.

Hope that helps! Good luck! 🙂

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Original Poster2 points · 1 month ago

Wow thank you. That was some awesome advice.

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Hi, I'm 17 and currently attending a uni in Singapore. I came on a student visa which only allows me to study and bars any possible job opportunities. I'm currently studying psychology but I still have no idea what I want to do once I graduate or what work field I want to get into. I'm thinking either get my bachelors in psychology and get an MBA or go straight from college into the sales field. Other than that vague plan, I have no clue what possible jobs would open up for me. Only issue is that I don't know what else I can do besides receiving good grades that can assist me in acquiring a favorable wage once I start working. Between working out, sports, classes, studying and partying/socializing, I probably have around 6-8 hours of free time that I usually use browsing through Reddit/reading articles/watching YouTube. What is something practical that I can learn/do that can help me in my future career or any career in general?

Only issue is that I don't know what else I can do besides receiving good grades that can assist me in acquiring a favorable wage once I start working.

What do you consider a favorable wage? You can't even consider the rest of your questions until you know the answer to this because just about everything hinges on this.

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Original Poster1 point · 1 month ago

A 6 figure income is what I consider favorable

I'd say 6.5-7/10. You're definitely above average amongst people your age. Seems like you have a healthy body fat ratio and look pretty lean. Tbh you look like you're a wannabe lifter without any visible gainz. Might wanna work out some more before wearing tight tank tops cause that makes you look douchy.

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I'm a relatively attractive guy (or so I'm told) and not to sound conceited but I do tend to look solid at least whenever I see myself in a mirror. But when it comes to taking or posing for pictures, it's just horrible. Doesn't matter whether it's selfies or group photos, I'm just extremely un-photogenic to the point of ridiculousness. The only times when I had actually quality photos taken of me were at wedding receptions and an event, both pretty outdated and no solo. Should I invest 50-80$ in some photographer and get some quality pictures taken for my profile? Would it be worth it?

Dis sum next level shiiii i aint ever seen b4

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Original Poster1 point · 1 month ago

I feel u fam

Seems unrealistic.

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Original Poster1 point · 1 month ago

Which part of it lmao?

I started my sales career in retail. Went from TVs to cell phones. Cell phones to websites and web advertising. Websites to in home sales. I’m 29 and started when I was 18. In home sales you can easily make $100k, many making $150k and beyond just selling HVAC, windows, remodeling, siding, roofing etc. A good company will give you 3 leads a day; great fucking gig.

My company for example will hire any great salesman regardless of previous industry - if you can sell you can sell anything. Most companies think like that also so don’t get to focused on selling any one thing. Take a entry level job that you feel will train you the best. Avoid ponzi schemes and be your own boss type of jobs, they are all a scam.

I’ve helped a few guys looking to get into sales from the sub, feel free to ask more questions or PM me.

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Would you consider sales recruitment a worthy field to get involved in?

lol I would have put, "No way! What are the chances of us both having chlamydia!"

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True. Be like "omg we have so much in common"

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I finally reached the half-year mark. Haven't been sober for that long ever since I began using. The intriguing part of this is that I had an extremely vivid using dream this morning. In it, I had relapsed right before reaching my 6 month mark and chose to keep it a secret even from my sponsor and even picked up the chip knowing I didn't deserve it. I continued working the program but kept using occasionally until i returned to my full blown addict lifestyle while still keeping the whole thing under wraps, afraid of what would happen if others had found it I was a sham. It was so realistic that I woke up terrified, thinking I had legitimately relapsed only to realize that it was all just a dream after a good 15 seconds. Then it came to me that today's my 180th day clean and I felt rejuvenated. Can't help but think that there was some sort of significance to that dream, some sort of message from my Higher Power that I can't comprehend very well. Anyways, feeling quite glad despite the scariness I experienced this morning and excited to pick up that chip, knowing I deserved it. Thanks for reading.

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Last night a girl I hooked up with from my class invited me to go out with her and her friends. Since it was going to be 3 of them I decided to invite my friend as well who attends another class at the same college. I'm 17 and he's 19. He's a really chill guy that's really hilarious and I very much enjoy his company. He's the type of guy you can just shoot the shit with and discuss deep topics with as well.

Just so y'all know, I am a relatively attractive person. Last week, I had a random group of girls across the street compliment me on my looks, yelling that I was cute and asking me for my name. I'm an athletic individual and although I may not be jacked, I do have a nice body with visible abs. Compared to my friend, I'm certainly more attractive (sorry for coming off as conceited/vain).

When we went out, my friend looked like he didn't wanna be there. At times he was constantly on his phone, had a bored look on his face, and really just looked anti social. But at other times, he'd start cracking jokes, saying hilarious shit and overall just being tremendously funny. He scolded one of the girls for snap chatting too much, saying he doesn't want to be on camera and then dissed her on her looks (which I thought was ballsy af).

I began attempting to game the most attractive girl of the three (although the one from my class is also considerably cute). I began teasing, playing with her, giving her subtle compliments which she seemed to get off on. She was sending me indicators of interest so I kept implementing the same tactics as well as employing some light kino. We all went out for a smoke after and I went out to get a pack.

I'm not really sure what happened in that time I was gone but just seeing as how the girl I hooked up with from my class was looking at him, I could tell she was into him. I was pretty happy with that, thinking we're both gonna get lucky tonight. We went back to the bar, and as I sit with the girl I've been hitting on, I noticed she's became a lot more intoxicated prior to 20 minutes ago.

I still play around with her but I'm starting to notice she's sending IOI's towards my friend as well who's sitting across from us. And out of nowhere she leans in and asks me if I could ask my friend to switch seats with me. I was kind of dumb founded for a few seconds. I'd be lying if I said that it didn't do some damage to my ego. I told her she can ask him herself. So she leans across the table and whisper something in his ear to which he says nothing and just shakes his head. She does it again, and his response remains the same.

I pretty much give up on this drunk girl and we go out and join the crowd of other students outside. I notice a few guys I knew and we start talking and after I'm done, I notice this dude already gaming some other girl and getting her number. By then, it was time to leave seeing as how our dorm curfew is 1AM so we get an uber and go home. In the car, I decide to ask him what the girl told him and he told me she asked him to switch seats with me and later said, "I'd fuck (my name) but I'd rather fuck you instead".

I was pretty baffled by that entire situation and now I'm trying to analyze just what happened. I've always thought that just being attractive and fun to talk to would suffice but I guess there's many other factors that come into play. The fact that he managed to so effortlessly win over both of the girls perplexed me. Is it his "no fucks given" attitude? The fact that he's a hilarious guy with a complex personality? I just don't really understand. Although he doesn't look like he'd be the alpha, the way he presents himself certainly states otherwise.

Keep in mind I'm by no means resentful towards my friend. We hung out and ate some food for a few hours, had a few laughs after that whole ordeal and talked a bit about our personal lives. I really like this guy, he's probably one of my closest friends here at this new school but I can't help but feel a slight hint of jealousy/envy which makes me feel disgusted with myself. I'm sorry if I came off as some egotistical, elitist asshole when writing this but I used it as an outlet of some sort just to get out of my head. I'd appreciate some advice on it. Thanks for reading this long ass rant.

Other posters have helped you analyze the situation from last night, but here's some advice I haven't seen anyone mention yet:

Hang out with your friend and observe his behavior more. The things he is doing are working.

PS - you are in college and have a curfew? Is that normal?

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Original Poster1 point · 2 months ago

Yeah our dorms have a 1 AM curfew. You can still get in but u get written up and if you're late too many times, could result in some consequences.

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3 points · 2 months ago

It's because you were there for pussy and he wasn't.

You probably looked like a sex-starved beta and he looked like a sex-satisfied alpha.

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Original Poster1 point · 2 months ago

True

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Last night a girl I hooked up with from my class invited me to go out with her and her friends. Since it was going to be 3 of them I decided to invite my friend as well who attends another class at the same college. I'm 17 and he's 19. He's a really chill guy that's super hilarious and I very much enjoy his company. He's the type of guy you can just shoot the shit with and discuss deep topics with as well.

Just so y'all know, I am a relatively attractive person. Last week, I had a random group of girls across the street compliment me on my looks, yelling that I was cute and asking me for my name. I'm an athletic individual and although I may not be jacked, I do have a nice body with visible abs. Compared to my friend, I'm certainly more attractive (sorry for coming off as conceited/vain).

When we went out, my friend looked like he didn't wanna be there. At times he was constantly on his phone, had a bored look on his face, and really just looked anti social. But at other times, he'd start cracking jokes, saying hilarious shit and overall just being tremendously funny. He scolded one of the girls for snap chatting too much saying he doesn't want to be on camera and then dissed her on her looks (which I thought was ballsy af).

I began attempting to game the most attractive girl of the three (although the one from my class is also considerably cute). I began teasing, playing with her, giving her subtle compliments which she seemed to get off on. She was sending me indicators of interest so I kept implementing the same tactics as well as employing some light kino. We all went out for a smoke after and I went to 7/11 get a pack.

I'm not really sure what happened in that time I was gone but just seeing as how the girl I hooked up with from my class was looking at him, I could tell she was into him. I was pretty happy with that, thinking we're both gonna to get lucky tonight. We went back to the bar, and as I sit with the girl I've been hitting on, I noticed she's became a lot more intoxicated prior to 20 minutes ago.

I still play around with her but I'm starting to notice she's sending IOI's towards my friend as well who's sitting across from us. And out of nowhere she leans in and asks me if I could ask my friend to switch seats with me. I was kind of dumb founded for a few seconds. I'd be lying if I said that it didn't do some damage to my ego. I told her she can ask him herself. So she leans across the table and whisper something in his ear to which he says nothing and just shakes his head. She does it again, and his response remains the same.

I pretty much give up on this drunk girl and we go out and join the crowd of other students outside. I notice a few guys I knew and we start talking and after I'm done, I notice this dude already gaming some other girl and getting her number. By then, it was time to leave seeing as how our dorm curfew is 1AM so we get an uber and go home. In the car, I decide to ask him what the girl told him and he told me she asked him to switch seats with me and later said, "I'd fuck (my name) but I'd rather fuck you instead".

I was pretty baffled by that entire situation and now I'm trying to analyze what had happened. I've always thought that just being attractive and fun to talk to would suffice but I guess there's many other factors that come into play. The fact that he managed to so effortlessly win over both of the girls perplexed me. Is it his "no fucks given" attitude? The fact that he's a hilarious guy with a complex personality? I just don't really understand. Although he doesn't look like he'd be the alpha, the way he presents himself certainly states otherwise.

Keep in mind I'm by no means resentful towards my friend. We hung out and ate some food for a few hours, had a few laughs after that whole ordeal and talked a bit about our personal lives. I really like this guy, he's probably one of my closest friends here at this new school but I can't help but feel a slight hint of jealousy/envy which makes me feel disgusted with myself. I'm sorry if I came off as some egotistical, elitist asshole when writing this but I used it as an outlet of some sort just to get out of my head. I'd appreciate some advice on it. Thanks for reading this long ass rant.

The internet now days tells you, you have to look like a model. Every movie / tv show out there is nothing but model actors and with instagram and youtube etc it's just making it worse. People's self esteems are in the toilet, but worse than that they spend ALL their energy working on their shell, and spend no time working on their filling.

Peanut Butter M&M's are pretty to look at, but let's be honest we crack those fuckers open and suck out the peanut butter asap. So, make sure your shell is pretty, but you gota have some awesome filling too.

Your friend is a great guy to learn from, just watch how he acts in public, study him, and then copy him. His attitude alone will launch you 20 spots, and like I said, we already know girls want you physically, now you just gota lock down the rest of your game, good luck, wasn't trying to shit on you just get you to wake up, you're gonna make it.

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Original Poster1 point · 2 months ago

No I get that and appreciate it. Thank you.

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