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Some people carry the weight of the world on their shoulders and have no outlet. Some people have a tonne on their mind with nobody to vent to. I'm here to listen (read!) and support you in any way I can.

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Well... I’ve had feelings for my best friend for about 2 years now. And tomorrow we’re meeting up and I’m planning on telling him about my feelings for him. The only major problem is that he has a girlfriend. I’m really not sure if it’s the right thing to do, because obviously that puts him in a position where he would have to choose, and I don’t want to be that kind of person, you know? Although honestly, even though the silent hope of him leaving his girlfriend for me is there, I know he’s not the type of guy to do that and I know that him leaving her for me would be wrong.

What just really bugs me is that in the past he did flirt with me and I always kind of ignored it, because you know, he has a girlfriend. Half a year ago they even broke up, and one week after their break up he invites me to his home. Back then I was pretty distant though, because I really didn’t like and was uncomfortable with the fact that so shortly after having broken up with her he invites me to his place. And I think he picked up on that, and shortly after he was back with his ex again. I really don’t know what to do. He sometimes even complains about his girlfriend when we meet up. Is he doing that on purpose? I have no idea! I feel like there was always this tension between us and no one ever talked about it. And I really am tired of it. I’ve kind of reached a point where I just want some distance from him and start getting over him and I feel like I can only do that after having confessed to him. I’m only 20 though, and I don’t have much experience when it comes to this kind of stuff, so I have no idea if my thought process goes in the right direction nor if it would be the right thing to do to tell him.

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Original Poster3 points · 11 hours ago

This can be a tough situation and I won't pretend that I haven't been there before! When I was in the same boat it turned out better to open up to my friend about it rather than offering her an ultimatum of sorts. Sometimes we suffer from "oneitis" where we become enamoured by and fixated to one person, and sometimes distance helps us realise that there are plenty more amazing people out there that are worthy of our attention. Hopefully it all works out for you and your soul can be filled with the happiness it deserves :)

Yes I do have very supportive parents and we are very close. I have discussed it with them many times. Obviously they don't completely understand the professional side of things yet they have given me the green light. They are just emotionally attached and don't want to se me move again. But I am still thinking long and hard about it. Also it doesn't help that I'd have to borrow money from my Dad.

Again thank you very much for hearing me out! Love and respect!

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Original Poster2 points · 11 hours ago

No worries! I hope everything works out really well for you. You seem like a smart cookie with a great support network so I can see gold on your horizon :)

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Always be kind to others and give a compliment when you can, because what could be a small gesture to you might positively brighten someone's whole world.

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Hello people! Tell me something about yourself that you may view as not so positive and allow your dear OP to change your way of thinking by putting a truly positive spin on said trait.

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I just want to know where the line between positivity and unhealthy advice lies.

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Original Poster4 points · 4 months ago

What advice did I give? This isn't an advice column and nowhere did I say it was...

I'll put a positive spin on your negative trait

I'm a hedonist

Nah, you're a lover and a dreamer

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Original Poster5 points · 4 months ago

If you're going to quote me then don't go adding words please. Have a great day, night, and weekend :)

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An atheist, because he stopped believing in himself.

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The only people who say this are some of the dickbag guys I work with, and I take absolute pride and pleasure in pulling them up on their scummery and making them squirm trying to back out of it. Often they'll say it exactly as "lads' chat" or a "passing comment" but I'm sick of that crap. The only way to whittle it out of society (even though these types are a dying breed, I hope!) is to bring it to their attention how unbelievably backward and fucked up their immediate thoight process is. The same with racism.

"People in glass houses..."

"...shouldn't live on the moon."

That 97% equals 97 parts out of 100...

If it turned out Hugh Jackman was diddling kids my soul would collapse.

Same. Torn between him and Tom Hanks.

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If they were fronting some sort of sordid ring together then that'd be the absolute worst. Especially if Mr Rogers started it way back when and passed down the torch to them...

You're stuck in a place with people your age and in your vicinity whose parents have decided where they're to be educated; these aren't necessarily the people you'll always have to have in your life. You'll meet people from all walks of life later on. Stay strong, be true to yourself and kind to others. Don't feel pressured into making concrete life choices right now because you'll learn through both error and success throughout your whole life.

1 point · 4 months ago · edited 4 months ago

"Two lesbians. Sisters, probably. I'm just watching."

Edit: sheesh, it's a quote from The Office. Don't get too offended.

It sounds like you’re trying to insult me

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Original Poster5 points · 4 months ago

Not at all. I see a lot of self-deprecating sadness and negativity here on reddit and I just want people to acknowledge what makes them positively awesome.

Kate Beckinsale, Felicity Jones, Evangeline Lilly, Billie Piper.

Any of those will do.

Encouraging them when they have a hobby or talent.

I try to put others before me in terms of their happiness, and while it does make me feel good to help other people, sometimes I forget to take care of myself.

For the things I like:

People

My pets

Foods

Drinks

Movies

Music

Books

Sunsets/sunrises

My hobbies

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When I was on crutches and somebody whose bag was clearly taking up a seat on a packed tram/train, I ended up just sitting right on it. If the person doesn't want to see me, then I don't want to see their bag. Inanimate objects and rude selfish people can deal with that!

My roommate was on crutches a few months ago and no one would ever stand up for her! It was so awful.

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That's woeful behaviour from people, I really don't get it. I think I got offered a seat a total of three times during months of crutched-up commuting. My favourite time was once when a really nice lady got up and offered me her seat, but before she was even standing up some rude business dude had sidled straight into and stolen the seat. without acknowledging anyone around him. People can be the worst, but that lady was awesome at least. I hope your roommate is going well now :)

I was involved in a workplace accident a few years ago where my foot was crushed and I was told that I was extremely lucky not to lose my foot. During my recovery in the trauma ward and subsequent rehabilitation I spent a lot of time with and befriended many people who had to undergo amputation. The thing that inspired me most was how strong and courageous they were, which was a shining light onto my soul. One of the things I could tell they appreciated most was positivity coming their way from others, and being treated like a whole person, having a laugh like they used to and just talking about every day things.

I helped a few of them research sporting programmes and things of the like which I think for them was a nice productive break away from a medical professional helping them. Depending on where you are, there could be a massive amount of energetic outlets for the little dude catering specifically to him and other amputees - archery, tennis, basketball just to name a few. Mostly, though, I think your positivity and compassion will go a long way to helping him through all of this. You don't necessarily need to know the right things to say, but if you're supportive, patient, understanding, and most of all a shining beacon of positivity in the young guy's life, then you're doing all the right things.

My thoughts are with you, him, and his family, and I wish you all the very best :)

I think the most important thing to remember is that time in nineteen ninety eight when the undertaker threw mankind off hеll in a cell, and plummeted sixteen feet through an announcer's table.

This is not how this is done

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Everyone should know about u/shittymorph is what I'm saying!

Captain Planet, Pokemon!!

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With things like Kickstarter, the power is yours ;)

Quality Simpsons episodes...

He said Soon replace.
Not already replaced.

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Maybe these machines just haven't got to my hometown yet because I still see people working these jobs!

Stuck in a cabana

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Livin' on bananas and blow

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