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Guy here. My girlfriend was raped only a month before we started seeing each other, and the wounds are surfacing. Desperately need advice, please. by waffelman1 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]oakbones 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Sounds to me like she wants to be intimate with you but is hurting and confused. Your support so far has been great, just let her lead the way. To take the pressure off sexsexsex, let her know that you want to be with her no matter what amount of sex y'all have (unless you do care). I would definitely encourage therapy if I was in your place. Talking to someone once or twice isn't really enough for healing usually.

22yo (US) trying to start being financially responsible. Where to start? by oakbones in personalfinance

[–]oakbones[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

because i now live a blissful 15 hours away from both of them and I am entirely unwilling to go back into that nightmare.

22yo (US) trying to start being financially responsible. Where to start? by oakbones in personalfinance

[–]oakbones[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol bruh im sorry about your situation but you don't gotta get salty on me about it. instead of getting mad why don't you use some of the advice in this thread? the best time to start is now.

22yo (US) trying to start being financially responsible. Where to start? by oakbones in personalfinance

[–]oakbones[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure you're right on that. I will keep this in mind as an option! Thanks!

22yo (US) trying to start being financially responsible. Where to start? by oakbones in personalfinance

[–]oakbones[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My minimum for all the loans put together is only 275 but I'm trying to pay it off faster than that.

22yo (US) trying to start being financially responsible. Where to start? by oakbones in personalfinance

[–]oakbones[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Communication Sciences and Disorders. Basically the precursor to audiology or speech pathology, but I’d need a PhD to practice.

22yo (US) trying to start being financially responsible. Where to start? by oakbones in personalfinance

[–]oakbones[S] 162 points163 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I chose my degree in a field where I’d either get paid peanuts to be an assistant or need to go back for another four years and get my PhD to get a decent income off it. At this point I don’t feel passionate enough about that career path to seriously consider it.

22yo (US) trying to start being financially responsible. Where to start? by oakbones in personalfinance

[–]oakbones[S] 433 points434 points  (0 children)

This is good to hear. I'm sort of in the mindset of "If I don't get on top of my financials RIGHT NOW I'll be homeless and dead by the end of the year".

Thanks for the credit card suggestions too!

Special request- Send your cutest delivery girl by unifartcorn in aww

[–]oakbones 37 points38 points  (0 children)

This type of dog (looks like a malamute?) is designed to live in a huge amount of fur. Shaving it could wreck their temperature regulation and give them other issues too. They just need a massive amount of brushing!

What's the scariest situation you've been in? by lexerro in AskReddit

[–]oakbones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why the FUCK didn't you immediately go to the ER or ENT??

good god man

I saw them for the first time last night. by infjetson in fleet_foxes

[–]oakbones 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Were you in Portland? I was there. Fucking amazing show, I thought they were ending on Mykonos and then we got another 45 minutes of Robin singing at the top of his lungs. Blown away.

My passion for coffee is tangible. Almost as much as my passion for filmmaking. So they had a baby called this video! by KingJudah in espresso

[–]oakbones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think the constant slo-mo and inserted/altered sound effects were pretty cheesy but damn that coffee looks good

A homeless man asked for some paper by mybustersword in TalesFromYourBarista

[–]oakbones 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"Has anyone heard from Oprah Winfrey lately is she okay."

aww

My boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]oakbones -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're a sad idiot with a victim complex.

Birth control by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]oakbones 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Once you are 18 the doctor cannot share anything you say with your parents without your permission, so if you feel strongly about keeping this from your mother I would suggest waiting until after your birthday. Alternatively, you could set your mother down and explain that you've been in a relationship for 2 years with someone you (presumably) love, you're almost a legal adult (at least in the U.S) and that your body is yours to do with as you wish.

Another thing to consider is an IUD, it is more effective than pill birth control and there's no danger of missing a dose. It can last up to 10 years as well. There are hormonal and nonhormonal options, so your worry about possibly affecting your chances of breast cancer can be addressed as well. Talk to your doctor!

Ashamed but Starting Over by pharmgirl92 in loseit

[–]oakbones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good on you for keeping motivated!

Something which helped me was to just throw out/give away all the food in my house that wasn't whole vegetables, proteins, and whatever else I felt was a "healthy" thing to eat. All cookies, chips, frozen foods (aside from deli fish/chicken), soda, beer, etc, gone! It really helps when you have a sugar craving and the only thing you can do to satisfy it is to make beet chips (which are tastier than potato chips anyway).

Also, cooking all of your own meals helps you to see what your eating and what goes into it. Satisfaction increases because you're eating what you made with your own hands and you can be sure that it's balanced!

Are there any foods considered 'luxuries' now that were considered pedestrian in the past? by Sazley in AskFoodHistorians

[–]oakbones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sushi used to be sold as street food in Japan, now it's hard to spend less than $50-60 at a decent sushi restaurant.

Women, what isn't nearly as attractive as many guys think it is? by Kings___Slayer in AskReddit

[–]oakbones 3475 points3476 points  (0 children)

That expression that guys make in photos where they worry their brows excessively and squint their eyes and smile like this or this

Also when guys take selfies with their shirts lifted to show off their abs.

Maybe it's just me, but vanity is such a turn off. Whereas confidence in yourself and how you look is totally different and actually a turn on, images like the above just scream self-centeredness. It also speaks to some level of attention to celebrity fads which is a personal no-go.

Edit: punctuation