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Women of Reddit, what’s a first date mistake men all too often make? by scaredofcheese in AskReddit

[–]scaredofcheese[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

We didn't go to a movie, I took her to a reasonable restaurant and didn't split the bill, I was nice to the waiter, I asked questions and genuinely engaged with the answers, I didn't talk about my ex or sex, I didn't complain or try to impress, I didn't smell, I didn't look at my iPhone, I didn't go in with the tongue or expect sex. She ran off with the waiter.

Women of Reddit, what’s a first date mistake men all too often make? by scaredofcheese in AskReddit

[–]scaredofcheese[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And talk to any psychiatrist about how their work has changed in the last 10 years. It’s alarming.

Women of Reddit, what’s a first date mistake men all too often make? by scaredofcheese in AskReddit

[–]scaredofcheese[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Read “Irresistible : the rise of addictive technology and the business of keeping us hooked” by Adam Alter. Or look at Tristan Harris’ fantastic work with Time Well Spent. This isn’t just the transfer of bad social habits to new technology. Its engineered addiction and a significant growing problem.

Women of Reddit, what’s a first date mistake men all too often make? by scaredofcheese in AskReddit

[–]scaredofcheese[S] 100 points101 points  (0 children)

This rule should apply to all social interactions not just a date. Phone use when with another person should be extremely limited. We’re losing the ability to interact one on one. Smart phones are really fucking us over.

Women of Reddit, what’s a first date mistake men all too often make? by scaredofcheese in AskReddit

[–]scaredofcheese[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Talking during a movie is one of the five signs of a sociopath* so you dodged a bullet.

*it’s not

Women of Reddit, what’s a first date mistake men all too often make? by scaredofcheese in AskReddit

[–]scaredofcheese[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if I trust a person with your username in this situation.

Women of Reddit, what’s a first date mistake men all too often make? by scaredofcheese in AskReddit

[–]scaredofcheese[S] 96 points97 points  (0 children)

Not constantly being in a relationship. You can have ended a relationship a year ago and still have complex feelings for your ex. A new person is like a new tenant. It forces you to clean out the attic.

Women of Reddit, what’s a first date mistake men all too often make? by scaredofcheese in AskReddit

[–]scaredofcheese[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Venmo solves so much. One person pays, photographs the check and sends it to all parties. And then everyone is a responsible paying adult.

Women of Reddit, what’s a first date mistake men all too often make? by scaredofcheese in AskReddit

[–]scaredofcheese[S] 295 points296 points  (0 children)

But then, who is ever truly over their last relationship? I suspect that the spark of someone new is often the final goodbye for many.

Women of Reddit, what’s a first date mistake men all too often make? by scaredofcheese in AskReddit

[–]scaredofcheese[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

If one person drinks and the other doesn’t you can split the bill, but the one who drank pays the tip. That’s the rule I know. Suggesting a high end restaurant and not carrying the whole bill is real douchey.