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And if you're ever looking for a laugh, u/Chirpet, I highly, highly recommend checking out all the videos on They're kind of amazing.

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Absolutely. The article from the OP mentions the US, then it mentions Sweden, it mentions specific US-centric sports, then it mentions London, it uses awful anecdotes like "teenage girls don’t get much respect. We mock their favorite music and their books"; this is just awful all around. Nothing fruitful is going to come from this.

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Is any of this aside from the first word actually a response to my comment?

Yes. If you look at other parts of the world, it becomes clear that cities designed primarily by men aren't a problem and can function for both men and women.

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it still doesn't seem particularly like you read the comment you were replying to but ok

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Relevant to this discussion is zoning rules. I read my hometown's zoning code recently, and learned a lot of interesting stuff:

  1. A legal bedroom must have a door and a window of a certain size. Great for fire safety, but it means certain home layouts aren't possible.

  2. A bedroom must have walls at least 5 feet high. In New England, it's not uncommon to see bedrooms tucked under the eaves, especially in saltbox or Cape designs. My parents have a grandfathered in third bedroom that would be illegal as a bedroom today. It would be a home office or walk in closet if you were building the house today. And if they put up a 5 foot wall then you run into problem three...

  3. A bedroom must be at least 70 square feet as well.

Suddenly you need a good bit more square footage to get the same three bedrooms than were needed several decades ago when the house was built.

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Not only zoning, but builders need to build what's profitable. As much as I'd like to live at the 1950's standard of living (well, more so the home prices), the reality is, builders need to build what's profitable and today, there is a ton of red tape that didn't exist 70 years ago.

Consequently, you need to build larger, more extravagant housing to negate the added costs of permits and zoning. Or you need to offer more amenities. Folks building 10-unit apartment complexes a few decades ago could get away with providing no off-street parking. That's not going to fly anymore in my area. And it's just one example of another thing that adds to the cost.

I think it's worth pointing out that average square footage has gone up. But there's a lot of more context to that. If I could get a new construction 1,000 sq. ft. SFH in my area, I'd hop on that. But it's not what builders are building.

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*Folks building 10-unit apartment complexes a few decades ago could get away with providing no off-street parking. That's not going to fly anymore in my area.*

This is very true and abolishing parking minimums is probably the single best thing that American cities could do to help alleviate their housing issues.

A lot of standard American zoning standards are terrible for cities and for people. It's nice to say that everyone should have a certain minimum quality in their housing, but in effect you're telling poor people that either they scrape together the money for whatever the city and state consider an appropriate house, or they don't get to have a house.

I'm assuming you're American for the sake of this comment.

Episcopal churches are usually open and affirming. not always, but more often than not. if you liked the style of worship in the Roman Catholic Church, and the Eucharist is important to you, this is the obvious choice.

Lutheran and Presbyterian churches both have a situation where there's both an affirming and a non affirming denomination. parishes that are part of the ELCA (Evangelical Lutheran Church in America) or the PCUSA (Presbyterian Church - USA) are pretty likely to be affirming. other Presbyterian and Lutheran denominations are not.

the United Methodist Church is officially non-affirming, but in practice some parishes are to a greater or lesser degree. you'd kinda have to shop around to figure out which is which, but starting with historic downtown congregations might speed up the search.

as mentioned below, is a good resource as is

lmao even at the mid-low range of overweight (like a 26 bmi) it's completely obvious with my shirt off that there are significant, grabbable deposits of fat on my body. when I was obese you couldn't avoid noticing. the people making these comments are completely delusional about the physical composition of their own bodies, things that they can see and feel at any time. bizzare.

We generally don't approve of being re-baptized. So long as you were baptized in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit, that's usually fine. Someone else can better explain the theological reasons why, but you likely won't be able to find anyone willing to baptize you if they know you have already been baptized.

Edit: Forgot you mentioned you were raised JW in the OP, so that might be a different matter.

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OP mentioned Jehovah's Witness preachers, so there's a possibility it wasn't a valid baptism no?

How beautiful! You know, I never though how iconoclastic the prayerbook is until I saw this! I can imagine how powerful seeing iconography while praying the office would be.

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can we make that part of any peayerbook revision that ends up happening?

it should be obvious that any imagery used in scripture is acceptable in the prayerbook. I don't know whether "expansive language" is supposed to mean that we stop using male pronouns for God or stop saying "The Father" and "The Son," but the argument that since the scripture uses feminine imagery for God, that consequently it's more biblical to change the (explicitly gendered) pronouns used for God consistently in the scriptures is more biblical seems like a major reach.

I assume it's accurate to say that God isn't merely male, that He encompasses femininity in it's complete and perfect form just as much as masculinity, but I'm not at all confident that we'd be in the right to take that as free reign to change something that has such a strong basis in scripture and tradition. no single person, no single generation, and no single branch of the Church has a complete understanding of the tradition that we all carry.

11 points · 16 days ago

Can someone make a bot that ports everything to a NUMTOT subreddit?

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there is a /r/NUMTOT but it hasn't taken off so far, and there's no bot. I did just recently add another mod and get a mention in a thread in the group so idk things might start happening

Idk how bots work? Is is possible to mirror all Facebook content?

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probably but I have zero coding knowledge

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at fifteen the most important thing is keeping up with academics and developing yourself as a person. a few extra points on a standardized test could bump you up a bracket in some scholarship that saves you more money than you could have earned bagging groceries all summer. Dual enrolling and getting some college credits under your belt could either have you graduating early, or double majoring. dual enrolling and getting some college credits under your belt could get you graduating early or give you enough wiggle-room to double major.

also, if you get to college and you don't know what you want to major in, don't major in communication or psychology just because it seems vaguely interesting. if you're majoring in something you're not sure about, it should be something profitable.

buying out the properties is only prohibitively expensive until they become worthless by virtue of flooding every high tide.

we should expedite that process by adjusting federal flood insurance regulations to subsidize people's moves out of flood zones, and penalize building in flood zones.

that's why we should do it through flood insurance. Charge rich people living in flood zones (think like, the Venetian isles in Miami) very high premiums, and use that to help poor people move away from flood zones. we could also make premiums prohibitively expensive on new construction in flood prone areas, so that we could reduce the problem over a couple decades through attrition.

Original Poster-35 points · 21 days ago

Why aren't you buying a new car every weekend then? There's tons of advertisements for cars? Or cheaper shit that just doesn't work on you because you're not preoccupied with it. The program works to help you stop being preoccupied with food because you aren't restricting it, when you can have any food you want, advertisements aren't enticing.

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also lots of people do clearly spend more money on cars than is good for their financial stability

The energy does have to come from somewhere, but it's not clear how much of that energy would have been burned anyway just by existing. Just lying in bed all day requires a lot of calories. Doing X units of work energy doesn't necessarily mean your total metabolic consumption increases by kX (k > 1).

What food and how it's produced also matters a lot. It doesn't necessarily use a lot of (non-renewable) energy to make it. At the extreme, growing it in your garden yourself you may be talking about close to zero input apart from sunlight.

And if you want to play those games, you have to pay attention to the energy efficiency of alternatives. The total efficiency to get X units of kinetic energy requires a very large multiplier of X on the primary energy source.

I don't have any of these numbers to hand, but do you either? I very much doubt that the total EROEI for transportation by pedal bike is so bad. In particular I doubt that the cycle to provide food to pedal the bike is worse than the cycle to get electrical energy to provide movement. But I simply doubt it, I don't have hard data.

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The energy does have to come from somewhere, but it's not clear "how much of that energy would have been burned anyway just by existing. Just lying in bed all day requires a lot of calories. Doing X units of work energy doesn't necessarily mean your total metabolic consumption increases by kX (k > 1)."

none of it would have been burned anyway, cause the baseline "keeping up homeostasis" tasks still have to be done in addition to the work you're doing in the form of exercise. Not as an alternative to them.

66 points · 22 days ago

I spent this week teaching games at a summer camp with 4.5-10 year olds, and guys the future is bright! Out of ~125, 2 of them were overweight. Some even saw my best friend's can of Coke (it's hot and we're tired you kids' bullshit so back off) and told him "why are you drinking Coke? You don't need to be drinking Coke!" Of all the parents I saw, none were outside the healthy weight range.

Granted, this is Boulder, Colorado. But still! These kids are going to make it! This is what happens when parents teach good habits early on!

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middle class kids in Boulder are not super representative of the whole country, especially in terms of health. not to rain on the parade at all, it's still great that there are at least some communities that are staying healthy.

I can hear this a million times and still will think it’s some form of Stockholm syndrome that all parents fall into. Permanent golden handcuffs and sleep deprivation will do this to you.

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yeah but it's a form of stockholm syndrome that's also the only thing keeping the human race from going extinct, so that's something.

2 points · 22 days ago

There's approximately zero chance of the human race going extinct. The earth can't sustain the current growth rate much longer.

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yeah... cause of the Stockholm syndrome

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Ezekiel 16:49-50-- “‘Now this was the sin of your sister Sodom: She and her daughters were arrogant, overfed and unconcerned; they did not help the poor and needy. They were haughty and did detestable things before me. Therefore I did away with them as you have seen."

So yes, the PBs comments here are a great example of the Episcopal Church speaking out against sodomy. Good observation.

My plan is for my son to inherit everything. The only way this changes is if we have another kid so they will each get half.

I don't see the value in donating some of my money to charity because I simply don't trust charities. Instead, I want to buy a small piece of land and convert it to a public park so kids can have fun there. This is something that's missing in my area

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Charity Navigator ranks charities based on their transparency and how much they spend on their stated mission vs. overhead.

Best friend currently. Him and the SO if things keep moving.

No desire for kids, so that's out. And when it comes to family those I think the money would truly help because they'd use it wisely are good enough with money to not need any help at all. Everyone else would blow it in a year. So I'll send it to people I know would at least use half of it in the spirit I earned it with.

As for charities... I will be volunteering time in retirement. But funds are for taking care of me and mine.

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You might be able to leave some to your family in the form of like college funds for their kids so that you're able to help them out even if they aren't responsible enough to help themselves? If you wanted to.

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7 points · 1 month ago · edited 1 month ago

It's telling that no one in TEC felt compelled to speak prophetically when the previous presidential administration was doing precisely the same thing. The appearance that TEC, as an institution, has arguably abandoned questions of theology to become a sanctimonious PAC for the organized political left is immensely disappointing, and does nothing to separate TEC from the SBC that so many members rail against.

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+Miami was /loudly/ calling out Obama for deportations years ago. He specifically called him a "sodomite" (in the sense used in Ezekiel) to get the message into the media.

I would love to see something like a 400x400 (120x120 meters) block subdivided by narrow (like three meter wide) pedestrian passageways into four 200x200 blocklettes. so you'd have the walkability of small blocks but a much lower ratio of street to usable land.

In theory you'd think the price of these spaces would fall and you'd end up with all the lovely kinds of establishments that can only exist in cheap commercial space, like affordable barber chops, ethnic groceries, niche hobby stores, and used bookstores. In practice it seems the owners would rather hold out for something that "fits their brand" or at least has the level of social cachet that goes with the price of the residential units.

Original Poster107 points · 1 month ago · edited 1 month ago

I think if cities can figure out how to deal with the storage issue, and how to provide the appropriate infrastructure, electric scooters and bikes can really change, maybe even revolutionize, urban transportation. I had so much fun using them and its so much more spatially and energy efficient using a car. Its about as fast as a car in an urban area, while taking up virtually no space. You can even take them with you.

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just one or two converted street parking spaces on each block could hold a couple dozen bikes and scooters


Americans being Americans lol

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Original Poster3 points · 1 month ago

the US doesn't even have the highest per capita soda consumption but ok


That's why I tune out when people white knight over the right of poor people to fund sodas, candies, chips, etc., on EBT. And tangentially, roll my eyes when people describe all this processed food as being an important part pf someone's food culture and how it's classist to look down on a poor person for having a shopping cart full of frozen beef burgers and orange juice.

Nope. Sorry. EBT a supplemental nutrition assistance program, not a piggy bank for your bad habits. Spend your own money on junk food.

We didn't have sweets or treats in the house. No chips, ice creams, juice boxes, fruit snacks, etc. We didn't have sodas, juices, or any other beverage besides water, milk, and tea. Why? Because we were poor and all that stuff is a waste of money when you're poor.

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Original Poster9 points · 1 month ago

yeah I'm totally in favor of helping people pay for food, and I'd err on the side of helping those who don't need it rather than risk people going hungry, but access to soda and candy is not what food stamps are for.

pushed to chug down soda

Jeeez have some agency. This is just like the diet industry talk. Marketing isn't mind control. Get a glass of water, drink it.

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Original Poster6 points · 1 month ago · edited 1 month ago

yeah it's not like anyone was forced, and everyone is ultimately responsible for their own decisions, but there's a reason companies spend (collectively) hundreds of billions of dollars a year on advertising. So if you have a huge multi-million dollar multifaceted marketing campaign going on for decades, like with Coca-Cola, obviously that's going to change the culture and influence people's decisions.

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